should i say "i love you" (16)
Dolphinlover85birmingham, Alabama USA31 Threads 30 Polls 4 Posts ok ive been talking to this guy for a few weeks i guess we talk everyday/night, i asked him yesrerday if he would be my boyfriend and well he said YES!! even tho ive felt like we was boyfriend/girlfriend ever since we first started talking. now i feel like i wanna tell him i love him..but i dont wanna scare him away i like him ALOT but i think i love him... what should i do should i tell him or not?
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online today!online today!pisceslady7Kincumber nr. Gosford, New South Wales Australia21 Threads 4 Polls 1,910 PostsDolphinlover85: ok ive been talking to this guy for a few weeks i guess we talk everyday/night, i asked him yesrerday if he would be my boyfriend and well he said YES!! even tho ive felt like we was boyfriend/girlfriend ever since we first started talking. now i feel like i wanna tell him i love him..but i dont wanna scare him away i like him ALOT but i think i love him... what should i do should i tell him or not?
Simple answer is 'no'. "I am feeling closer to you"......"growing fonder of you" ..."can't wait to speak with you"....all acceptable.
Saying you LOVE some-one is a defining moment and one you cannot take back. You have been TALKING...I assume you have yet to meet? Is there a chance of that? You don't say that is in the planning.
Enjoy the 'getting to know each other stage'...if it IS the real thing then it will still be so in a few months. Date in person for a while first. After an 'I love you'....there isn't a bigger statement to make unless it is an 'I do'.
My advice as 'an older lady' who has dated quite a few men in my life (mostly successfully), friendship is the basis of every relationship....work on that first, but with a view/hope that it will grow for both of you. A long slow burn to a height is better than a huge explosion and...nothing. Take your time, relax and enjoy the moment.
Good luck to you.
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In response to: ok ive been talking to this guy for a few weeks i guess we talk everyday/night, i asked him yesrerday if he would be my boyfriend and well he said YES!! even tho ive felt like we was boyfriend/girlfriend ever since we first started talking. now i feel like i wanna tell him i love him..but i dont wanna scare him away i like him ALOT but i think i love him... what should i do should i tell him or not?
No, not yet,. You can say 'I love talking with you' and 'I love spending time with you' and 'I love the sound of your voice' and then eventually, some months into the relationship when you KNOW it is the right time, you will say 'I love you' without needing to even think about it
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pisceslady7: Simple answer is 'no'. "I am feeling closer to you"......"growing fonder of you" ..."can't wait to speak with you"....all acceptable.
Saying you LOVE some-one is a defining moment and one you cannot take back. You have been TALKING...I assume you have yet to meet? Is there a chance of that? You don't say that is in the planning.
Enjoy the 'getting to know each other stage'...if it IS the real thing then it will still be so in a few months. Date in person for a while first. After an 'I love you'....there isn't a bigger statement to make unless it is an 'I do'
My advice as 'an older lady' who has dated quite a few men in my life (mostly successfully), friendship is the basis of every relationship....work on that first, but with a view/hope that it will grow for both of you. A long slow burn to a height is better than a huge explosion and...nothing. Take your time, relax and enjoy the moment.
Good luck to you.
Saying you LOVE some-one is a defining moment and one you cannot take back. You have been TALKING...I assume you have yet to meet? Is there a chance of that? You don't say that is in the planning.
Enjoy the 'getting to know each other stage'...if it IS the real thing then it will still be so in a few months. Date in person for a while first. After an 'I love you'....there isn't a bigger statement to make unless it is an 'I do'
My advice as 'an older lady' who has dated quite a few men in my life (mostly successfully), friendship is the basis of every relationship....work on that first, but with a view/hope that it will grow for both of you. A long slow burn to a height is better than a huge explosion and...nothing. Take your time, relax and enjoy the moment.
Good luck to you.
Why is it a defining moment and why would one want to take it back? It seems to me she wants to express how she feels, nothing wrong with that. I didn’t see where she said she was “in love” only that she loves the other. Isn’t it possible to love who a person is and what they stand for and then feel comfortable enough with the other in letting them know?
I say simply yes. Disclose and inform the one you want to express yourself to.
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Dolphinlover85: ok ive been talking to this guy for a few weeks i guess we talk everyday/night, i asked him yesrerday if he would be my boyfriend and well he said YES!! even tho ive felt like we was boyfriend/girlfriend ever since we first started talking. now i feel like i wanna tell him i love him..but i dont wanna scare him away i like him ALOT but i think i love him... what should i do should i tell him or not?
be honest and be true to your heart...do and say what your heart desires... if it scares him ... well then it does.. however being honest to what you feel and expressing it ... well that is the best way to go.... being shy and second guessing nope not the way to go.....
it would be the same if he upsets you... would you not say anything and then let it build up? or say it right away and get it out in the open??
if you feel you love him and you want him to know then yes say it ...
good luck...
let us know
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Dolphinlover85: ok ive been talking to this guy for a few weeks i guess we talk everyday/night, i asked him yesrerday if he would be my boyfriend and well he said YES!! even tho ive felt like we was boyfriend/girlfriend ever since we first started talking. now i feel like i wanna tell him i love him..but i dont wanna scare him away i like him ALOT but i think i love him... what should i do should i tell him or not?
So....you have not met him in person? Only on the phone?
This seems odd to me - yet I grew up without the internet and we only talked to people we had met at school or work
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i havent met him yet no but we have been talkin about meeting each other soon. we call eachother baby and we even have fun on the phone *hint hint* lol and like everytime we are on the phone i just wanna yell it out "i love you" its hard to keep inside, everytime we hang up befor i hangup i always say i love you real fast and then hang up idk if he EVER hears me lord i hope not lmao but yeah i feel like i do love him but i dont want my heart broken and i dont want him scared away 
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Dolphinlover85: i havent met him yet no but we have been talkin about meeting each other soon. we call eachother baby and we even have fun on the phone *hint hint* lol and like everytime we are on the phone i just wanna yell it out "i love you" its hard to keep inside, everytime we hang up befor i hangup i always say i love you real fast and then hang up idk if he EVER hears me lord i hope not lmao but yeah i feel like i do love him but i dont want my heart broken and i dont want him scared away
Are you sensing something you are not admitting to yourself, like he might might not be as "into you" as you are into him?
Because if that is the case, you will be even more hurt the longer it goes on...
Othewise I don´t understand why you just don´t go with the flow and do what feels right instead of questioning it
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Dolphinlover85: i havent met him yet no but we have been talkin about meeting each other soon. we call eachother baby and we even have fun on the phone *hint hint* lol and like everytime we are on the phone i just wanna yell it out "i love you" its hard to keep inside, everytime we hang up befor i hangup i always say i love you real fast and then hang up idk if he EVER hears me lord i hope not lmao but yeah i feel like i do love him but i dont want my heart broken and i dont want him scared away
Sorry to burst your bubble but until you have met each other and maybe a year from then when the honeymoon period is over that is really when one can tell if it's true love or not.
You are in love with the idea of being in love be careful you don't get hurt and be careful of scammers. Sorry but it is the virtual world you are in at this moment. I do hope he is a genuine guy for your sake JMO
I wish you the best only 
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You shouldn't need others to make up your mind for you. And it seems you aren't sure if you love hence you saying ' I think i love him' so maybe wait a while before just throwing the word' lov.e' around.
But up to you
But up to you
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Dolphinlover85: i havent met him yet no but we have been talkin about meeting each other soon. we call eachother baby and we even have fun on the phone *hint hint* lol and like everytime we are on the phone i just wanna yell it out "i love you" its hard to keep inside, everytime we hang up befor i hangup i always say i love you real fast and then hang up idk if he EVER hears me lord i hope not lmao but yeah i feel like i do love him but i dont want my heart broken and i dont want him scared away
If I were you, I wouldn't say it yet. First, be sure this is love you're feeling and not infatuation with the idea of being in love. Big difference. Feel him out first (I don't mean physically). See where his head is at as far as his life is concerned, and how you may play a part in it. Wait until that initial giddy feeling of first meeting someone passes away, better known as "the honeymoon phase", because this is when the true person comes out and you'll be able to tell the difference if you are in love with the real him or an image he is portraying. By doing this, you will not only save yourself from unnecessary heartbreak later on, but you might be able to salvage a real friendship if it progresses to that point only.
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kidatheart: Maybe she bought a toy for the occasion.
I don't really want to know all the details...
Did you get paired off yet on the Irish thread?
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Dolphinlover85: i havent met him yet no but we have been talkin about meeting each other soon. we call eachother baby and we even have fun on the phone *hint hint* lol and like everytime we are on the phone i just wanna yell it out "i love you" its hard to keep inside, everytime we hang up befor i hangup i always say i love you real fast and then hang up idk if he EVER hears me lord i hope not lmao but yeah i feel like i do love him but i dont want my heart broken and i dont want him scared away
If you havent met him yet, you dont LOVE him. You may be attracted, infatuated, flattered, turned on, but LOVE? not a chance...Meet him and give it a chance to develop into what its meant to be
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Dolphinlover85: ok ive been talking to this guy for a few weeks i guess we talk everyday/night, i asked him yesrerday if he would be my boyfriend and well he said YES!! even tho ive felt like we was boyfriend/girlfriend ever since we first started talking. now i feel like i wanna tell him i love him..but i dont wanna scare him away i like him ALOT but i think i love him... what should i do should i tell him or not?
Have you met him in person?
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