Dunno, will ask her that the next day I see her! Maybe for the kids sake? No one wants he kids to be the odd one out in the class for communion, confirmation, am just guessing...keeping up with the holy joneses??
Well they were engaged a long time, but he lost his job so finances didnt support a wedding, when he got full time employment they went ahead , I thought that was the honourable thing to do, they seem to be a happy couple?
A work colleague of mine got married recently in the church, she had 2 kids to the guy she was marrying, the priest wanted her to state in front of her wedding guests that the kids were accidents! Needless to say she didnt, its the thing about double standards with the church that I dont particularly like...
True, some people arent willing to put in the effort & give up too easily, everything is disposable these days, including spouses. I suppose a lot of us were brought up with the ultimate aim of getting married & "living happily ever after" , and when the honeymoon period subsides & reality sets in it can be a shock to some people. Romance fades & some feel taken for granted/not appreciated enough. I also think that some people (both male & female) dont have it in them to be monogamous, thats just an obsevation, not a criticism. Co habitation I reckon doesnt put as much pressure on people, in that its not as legally binding as marriage
I reckon people stayed in bad relationships in the past for numerous reasons: the catholic church, being frowned on by their peers, being regarded as a failure, for the kids, financial reasons etc. Given that everyone changes to some extent as they get older & their views on life & needs change, so too does the person you marry, so I reckon its hard to stay interested in/attracted to or "in love" with the same person all your life, unless theres a deep friendship underneath & both work hard at keeping the relationship going. Jmo
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