shimmy Forum Posts (40)

Why only older men???

I agree with Mette on that.

A profile is the first impression you gain from someone and true or false, it is at least better than nothing. A profile with no information and no picture gives no impressions. Why would I bother to get into the trouble of communicating with that person? I have no time to waste...

And I believe you understand so much from a person from what he writes in his description...It could be all fake of course, but still you understand much.

Why only older men???

Excuse me, but when I marry someone, I want it to be for a lifetime, not for 10 years!

I know there are failed marriages, but I just wish mine won't be one of them! And a big age gap is not ideal for me... for the reasons that I 've mentioned. And I am sure that you agree, this is why none of you is mailing an older lady!

Why only older men???

And dear Antcus,

I don't think maturity goes together with age. There are so many 20 years old men who are mature and ready for commitment, and so many 40 years old who don't want to even think about marriage!

Nowadays we are not marrying for status, we are marrying for companionship and sharing similar experiences. Marrying for status or money is no longer the case for most women because they are working and independent.

Why only older men???

How can you say age is just a number!

If you visit a hospital, it is full of 60 and 70 years old, not 30 years old people!

And sorry, a 40-50 year old man, might seem ok for me right now, but in 20 years his life will be over, from many points of view. Mine will be still going on!

And if I am with someone 10 or 15 years older than me, most probably I will grow older quicker than normal. Because the 40-50 year old man will not have the powers to dance till 4 a.m. with me in a club! He 'd rather stay at home and read a newspaper or have a quiet dinner in a restaurant with his peers (boring!)!

All those guys who think age is just a number, should make relationships with women 10-15 years older than them!

RE: Do I need a Man to feel Complete....

Very true, except that "unconditional love" is made for gods, not human beings.

Since we are human beings, I honestly believe a man needs a woman and a woman needs a man in order to be happy.

Why only older men???

Hi Netterman!

Just because you are 33 years old doesn't make you the right guy for me!

Thanks though, you are the only young guy who had the guts to mail me and is not afraid of headaches!

Why only older men???

Thank you guys, I know how to press the "delete" button.

It's just disappointing, that 's all!

Why only older men???

They chase young women but do they ever get any? That is my question
! I have put that my age of interest is 28-38 in my profile, but they keep ignoring that!As if they think that I have put it there for fun or that they have some kind of great special gift that no woman could miss! Hello? I mean am I looking for a partner or a father?

(40-50 year old men please don't get offended! This is not for everyone!)

Why only older men???

Why only older men???

Can you please tell me why my inbox is full of messages from 40 and 50 year old men? What does a 40-50 year old man expect from a 30 year-old woman and where are all the 30 year-old men gone???

RE: WHEN IS OLD TO OLD

I am not talking about friends Wedward. Did you ever have a 97 year-old lover? So your advice for me is to seek experiences with 50 year-old men or older. Thanks, but no!

RE: WHEN IS OLD TO OLD

Maybe you are right. I can see you very well with a 90-year-old woman Wedward! Who cares about age!

We are e-mailing, but he gives no messages about the future!

No, it 's very easy actually. I don't need a visa or anything. And I already have a job there waiting for me. I just find it difficult to take the decision...

RE: WHEN IS OLD TO OLD

I believe someone is too old to be your partner if he is more than 5-7 years older than you. A bigger gap cannot be easilly filled and that's not fair for the younger partner...

However if two old people were of the same age, then there is no problem whatsoever. They can still have fun together and act like teenagers if they want!

We are e-mailing, but he gives no messages about the future!

Of course I am not in love now. How can I fall in love from distance? We are not into a relatioship yet. But I could fall in love if I went there to get to know him better.

RE: Do I stand a chance of finding the right person??????

Yes, as long as you don't give up looking!

RE: Why do humans love?

I think when it comes to love, there is no why or how or what. This is a mysterious and unexplicable process which cannot be restricted to a few words in a post here.

RE: craving

RE: craving

I think they are two different things. If you have a craving for something that's completely normal and it happens to everyone. But if you are addicted, then my friend you are into trouble. Addiction means you can no longer control yourself.

Whereas craving is a strong wish for something.

RE: marriage/partner

How soon do you mean? 1 day? 1 week? 1 month?

I think I would say that we need some more time to know each other. I think it usually takes about a couple of months of dating in order to really understand someone's character.

We are e-mailing, but he gives no messages about the future!

Hi Plesia,

Thanks for you post to my thread. I know this trick. Every time you want to test someone's feelings just let him go and see if he is going to look for you.
But this does not apply to him. It 's mostly him that keeps calling and e mailing and there is absolutely no way I can get away from this communication.
I don't know if all this could be fake. It sounds to me like he really wants me. Probably he minds the fact that we are of different religion... or he is not sure of whether I could live and adapt in his country... who knows.

RE: Whats your favorite moment of the day?

When I get into bed and I close my eyes...

RE: He is 6 years younger - should I dare?

There is absolutely no problem with age, as long as he is mature enough. I know a woman who is marrying a man 6 years younger than her. And I ve met many 40-42 year-old men who don't know what they want, so don't look at age. There are other things that matter.

We are e-mailing, but he gives no messages about the future!

Dear forum friends,

Thank you all for your input to this thread of mine.I would like to reply to each one of you.

Alada, Wedward and UK1971. I already asked him where this is all leading us, and he said that he doesn't know, that distance is a problem and that we need more time to know each other in order to decide.

Jerry5353. I think you quite understood me. The question is if it is worth the risk to pursue it any futher. Meaning that I have to go to his country, find a temporary job there, so that I spend time with him and see if we really fit to each other. But do I have enough clues to do that?

Mak_in. I don't understand why you say that if I put it in public it means I am not serious about it. What is the problem of asking in a forum about a personal matter? Maybe someone who has been there may help you and maybe someone else who has the same problem may be helped. Why should we talk about only theoretical matters in a forum and not about our own experiences?

Swedish Star. I am not in doubts about me. I am in doubts about him and what he truly wants.

Smoky. We are not in a relationship yet, but he says he is dying for me and keeps e-mailing me. I am not in love, but I like him and I would like to give it a shot if it is really worth it. I would like to just leave it to luck and do nothing about it, but I feel like I should do something. Either end it, or pursue it.

My question is: if a man keeps up steadily a communication is genuinely interested, or could it be just playing the role of "Mr. Charming" and nothing more???

We are e-mailing, but he gives no messages about the future!

Hello dear forum friends,

I would like to have your opinion on the following.

I have met a guy from another country on the internet about one year ago and we have been exchanging e-mails since then, chatting on msn, and also I met him twice in his country (it s not very far away from where I live).

In the meeting we did like each other, but I didn't want to go any further because it was too soon.

Since then he has continued calling me and e mailing me almost every day. However he does not make any references to the future, or for what we could be like together in the future, if I could go there and live with him, or if he sees any links between me and him. The guy is 35, he looks serious, is generous and very kind, my friends and my mother have met him and they have all liked him.

However I don't know what should be next. I asked him once what will be the future of all this comunication, and he told me that he doesn't know, and we need more time to know each other.

Some times I think there is no point and I should stop this now, but then I cannot neglect all of his calls and e-mails and I really don't know what to do.
Any ideas of how I should go about it?

RE: Secret of happy relationship!

..."When you are right shut up"? Are sure about this? This is the perfect way to drive directly to insanity, not perfect relationship.

I think for a good relationship you must speak, say what you think and of course without offending your partner.

For me the ingredient for a happy relationship is respect and appreciation of your partner for whom he is, not for whom you want him to be!

RE: Dancing .........

What about BELLYDANCING! Heh? Anything more sensual than that?

For you information, shimmy (my nick) is a step in bellydancing, and it's the movement of the trembling flesh!



P.S. For those who don't know it, bellydancing = oriental dancing = egyptian dancing = middle eastern dance

RE: what do you expect from your man ?

If I may add my contribution to this thread:

To open doors for me.
To buy me a dinner from time to time.
To bring me flowers at Saint Valentine's and to remember my birthday.
To appreciate and respect me for who I am.

RE: what your favorite sport

Yes, the same way you are a nation of potato lovers.

RE: what your favorite sport

Or maybe where YOU come from pieces of potatoes stick on the sofa and never go away...
For us it's pieces of tomato...