We are e-mailing, but he gives no messages about the future! (41)
If you have feelings for him, maybe you should ask him of his. Maybe,
if he's serious, you should ask him where it is leading.
I met someone a couple of weeks ago on CS,and although we're over 6,000 miles apart, this relationship is rocketing. We are in contact virtually all day and every day, and we haven't met face to face yet!
You say your family have net and like him. Have you told him that?
I'm not an expert, but I hope this has helped.
if he's serious, you should ask him where it is leading.
I met someone a couple of weeks ago on CS,and although we're over 6,000 miles apart, this relationship is rocketing. We are in contact virtually all day and every day, and we haven't met face to face yet!
You say your family have net and like him. Have you told him that?
I'm not an expert, but I hope this has helped.
you r lucky.i found someone and lost him
and that makes me bad advicer. Im happy for you two,i hope that everything will be fine.
and that makes me bad advicer. Im happy for you two,i hope that everything will be fine.Don't give up hope kiddo. you never know when or where. You're next contact maybe.
nope nope nope 
u know if u love him if so ask him point blank what his intentions r towards u then u will know and either live together or u move on 
That's a tough problem but I'm sure you'll figure out what to do when the time comes.
You mentioned that you like each other and if he's the one you want to be with then it would probably be worth the effort and/or risk to persue it further. Of course the oppoisite is also true.
I wish you luck..
You mentioned that you like each other and if he's the one you want to be with then it would probably be worth the effort and/or risk to persue it further. Of course the oppoisite is also true.
I wish you luck..
I know how you must feel, and I have felt the same before. The endless chatting and emailing, and you don't know whether it will be conductive to anything. Frustrating and debilitating.
If you have grown to develop a certain degree of trust and feel that you can talk openly to him, I would suggest that you ask him.
I concur with the opinions above. Ask. Put the ball in his court. So you'll know if you are playing for keeps or if you need to brace yourself and get ready to move on.
I know what I am here for. To find HIM. Or for HIM to find ME. Let's hope it happens soon.
In the meantime, take action dear. Wis you the best.
If you have grown to develop a certain degree of trust and feel that you can talk openly to him, I would suggest that you ask him.
I concur with the opinions above. Ask. Put the ball in his court. So you'll know if you are playing for keeps or if you need to brace yourself and get ready to move on.
I know what I am here for. To find HIM. Or for HIM to find ME. Let's hope it happens soon.
In the meantime, take action dear. Wis you the best.
Hi Shimmy!
Well, just like u were hesitant at first he is hesitant now. People are not always on the same schedule, so it might just be a case of you having to wait for him to get to where u are. The question is, can you and do you want to do that? Perhaps your feelings now are a sign that maybe you are having doubts again?
Either way, GOOD LUCK!!!!! Hope you get what u want!
Star
Well, just like u were hesitant at first he is hesitant now. People are not always on the same schedule, so it might just be a case of you having to wait for him to get to where u are. The question is, can you and do you want to do that? Perhaps your feelings now are a sign that maybe you are having doubts again?
Either way, GOOD LUCK!!!!! Hope you get what u want!
Star
This is something so personal... not to be decided based on majority opinion from a public forum like this.
Since you have made it public and put it for debate on a dating website, I believe you yourself are not serious/decided about it.
Once you decide yourself what you want... talk to your best friends and relatives and surely they will guide you.
-Manoj
Since you have made it public and put it for debate on a dating website, I believe you yourself are not serious/decided about it.
Once you decide yourself what you want... talk to your best friends and relatives and surely they will guide you.
-Manoj
Well, my humble opinion here would be the old adage..... "If its dirty, there's a doubt"... which applies to a shirt! If you have to look at it and decide whether its clean or dirty, then its dirty! If its clean, there is no doubt.
So, here you are, asking fellow forum members their opinions on a relationship. IS it a "relationship", or a possible one at least?
Seems there is a doubt... from both sides.
You have made your stance clear, he has not. So he knows how you feel, and is keeping quiet about his side. Not a solid basis for much is it? I would say, just carry on your life, and if its meant to be, it will be.
Good luck, and may the best be for you.
So, here you are, asking fellow forum members their opinions on a relationship. IS it a "relationship", or a possible one at least?
Seems there is a doubt... from both sides.
You have made your stance clear, he has not. So he knows how you feel, and is keeping quiet about his side. Not a solid basis for much is it? I would say, just carry on your life, and if its meant to be, it will be.
Good luck, and may the best be for you.
nice words smoky but at the end of the day its for shimmy and her alone to make her life with or without this guy but i think that by putting it in the public domain she is not sure of herself so take your time shimmy u will know when its rght for u dont worry u will be just fine have a fun weekend
Dear forum friends,
Thank you all for your input to this thread of mine.I would like to reply to each one of you.
Alada, Wedward and UK1971. I already asked him where this is all leading us, and he said that he doesn't know, that distance is a problem and that we need more time to know each other in order to decide.
Jerry5353. I think you quite understood me. The question is if it is worth the risk to pursue it any futher. Meaning that I have to go to his country, find a temporary job there, so that I spend time with him and see if we really fit to each other. But do I have enough clues to do that?
Mak_in. I don't understand why you say that if I put it in public it means I am not serious about it. What is the problem of asking in a forum about a personal matter? Maybe someone who has been there may help you and maybe someone else who has the same problem may be helped. Why should we talk about only theoretical matters in a forum and not about our own experiences?
Swedish Star. I am not in doubts about me. I am in doubts about him and what he truly wants.
Smoky. We are not in a relationship yet, but he says he is dying for me and keeps e-mailing me. I am not in love, but I like him and I would like to give it a shot if it is really worth it. I would like to just leave it to luck and do nothing about it, but I feel like I should do something. Either end it, or pursue it.
My question is: if a man keeps up steadily a communication is genuinely interested, or could it be just playing the role of "Mr. Charming" and nothing more???
Thank you all for your input to this thread of mine.I would like to reply to each one of you.
Alada, Wedward and UK1971. I already asked him where this is all leading us, and he said that he doesn't know, that distance is a problem and that we need more time to know each other in order to decide.
Jerry5353. I think you quite understood me. The question is if it is worth the risk to pursue it any futher. Meaning that I have to go to his country, find a temporary job there, so that I spend time with him and see if we really fit to each other. But do I have enough clues to do that?
Mak_in. I don't understand why you say that if I put it in public it means I am not serious about it. What is the problem of asking in a forum about a personal matter? Maybe someone who has been there may help you and maybe someone else who has the same problem may be helped. Why should we talk about only theoretical matters in a forum and not about our own experiences?
Swedish Star. I am not in doubts about me. I am in doubts about him and what he truly wants.
Smoky. We are not in a relationship yet, but he says he is dying for me and keeps e-mailing me. I am not in love, but I like him and I would like to give it a shot if it is really worth it. I would like to just leave it to luck and do nothing about it, but I feel like I should do something. Either end it, or pursue it.
My question is: if a man keeps up steadily a communication is genuinely interested, or could it be just playing the role of "Mr. Charming" and nothing more???
Now the last Q makes more sense (to me) :)
My idea about posting in the public forums is about things which I'm not very clear and I need expert opinion. If you think you are not clear about such a personal and very important thing in your life... why worry... leave it.
It is not something like shall I buy Swiss chocolates / Belgian chocolates!
Now about the last Q... how do u make out if a man is sincere and serious or he is "just playing the role of "Mr. Charming" and nothing more???"
Well, it is difficult for me to answer (even being a man) :) I'd posted in one of the messages that if a MAN is really smart and intelligent, he can make a real fool of a gal by "camouflaging" his emotions. So make sure he is not very smart/intelligent :)
Sorry, I don't have an answer to your Q. Be practical, use your wisdom, experience and 6th sense (or intuition) to make the final decision. Of course, take expert opinion from your best friends and family members.
-Mak
My idea about posting in the public forums is about things which I'm not very clear and I need expert opinion. If you think you are not clear about such a personal and very important thing in your life... why worry... leave it.
It is not something like shall I buy Swiss chocolates / Belgian chocolates!
Now about the last Q... how do u make out if a man is sincere and serious or he is "just playing the role of "Mr. Charming" and nothing more???"
Well, it is difficult for me to answer (even being a man) :) I'd posted in one of the messages that if a MAN is really smart and intelligent, he can make a real fool of a gal by "camouflaging" his emotions. So make sure he is not very smart/intelligent :)
Sorry, I don't have an answer to your Q. Be practical, use your wisdom, experience and 6th sense (or intuition) to make the final decision. Of course, take expert opinion from your best friends and family members.
-Mak
unlike the post before u sunshine as your positive and make a sound suggestion shimmy smile have a nice w/e u to sunshine keep smileing
A real man, who is "dying for you", would "saddle his white horse and would fight of dragons for you" and not wining about distance.
That sounds already not very excitend and for sure not romantic at all ... I think ... you are a very good looking woman and should not settle for any less then your prince.
Just a (bad) thought: If undecided ... maybe other chat partner are undecided and you are just "kept warm"...
That sounds already not very excitend and for sure not romantic at all ... I think ... you are a very good looking woman and should not settle for any less then your prince.
Just a (bad) thought: If undecided ... maybe other chat partner are undecided and you are just "kept warm"...
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I would like to have your opinion on the following.
I have met a guy from another country on the internet about one year ago and we have been exchanging e-mails since then, chatting on msn, and also I met him twice in his country (it s not very far away from where I live).
In the meeting we did like each other, but I didn't want to go any further because it was too soon.
Since then he has continued calling me and e mailing me almost every day. However he does not make any references to the future, or for what we could be like together in the future, if I could go there and live with him, or if he sees any links between me and him. The guy is 35, he looks serious, is generous and very kind, my friends and my mother have met him and they have all liked him.
However I don't know what should be next. I asked him once what will be the future of all this comunication, and he told me that he doesn't know, and we need more time to know each other.
Some times I think there is no point and I should stop this now, but then I cannot neglect all of his calls and e-mails and I really don't know what to do.
Any ideas of how I should go about it?