LoveBrazilWomen Forum Posts (18)

RE: are you here for love or friends?

Okay....thanks a lot for sharing and commenting!

RE: are you here for love or friends?

Well, the best of luck to you then

RE: are you here for love or friends?

Well, I haven't made a notice of that. Surely the comapny running this site does not mind people coming here to make friends, since it is an option in "looking for". Since ads are the only revenue, hits on CS is what they are interested in. I'm not at all arguing that you shouldn't be here, just because you are not looking for love.

RE: are you here for love or friends?

Very true...however since I do get messages from women claiming to be looking for friendship only, it seems my stated intentions with being here does not matter.

Am I right if I understand it the way, that you are actually hoping very much to find love in here by things starting up as friendship, but you perhaps don't believe much in it (hence you intentions being to find friend)?

RE: are you here for love or friends?

Good for you. Don't get me wrong. I'm not claiming to know you guys or your lives. I'm not pretending to know, what makes you happy. I'm sure that most of you spending heaps of time in here also have a healthy offline life.

I do believe you are closing doors, when you officially tell people you are not looking for love, because most people in here looking for love will not give you much attention because of that. I understand it might be intentional, because you don't want to get in contact with people like me, but I never contact women looking for friendships only. I often get messages from women claiming to be looking for friendship even though I clearly state in my profile, that I'm here to find love. Actually I find that a bit offensive, because either they did not read my profile, or they just don't care about how I want to spend my time in here.

RE: are you here for love or friends?

True...if you do find a hot babe site, please let me know

Beside the place being called connecting singles, the advertisement is "100 % free online dating"...personally I don't date my friends

RE: are you here for love or friends?

Perhaps life is hort.....but I did mean short

RE: are you here for love or friends?

Thanks for wishing me good luck.

I couldn't disagree more. It always matters why you are on an online dating site....I think. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with finding friends, but in general (not just in this regard) I think it is very important to everybody to think about the reason for doing, what they do. And life is hort. It is so crusial to prioritize the time we've been given and not being to random at what we spend time on.

Personally I would find other things to spend my time on than going to an online dating site, if I was bored. However I do accept and respect that some people find it giving in some way to come here and spend a lot of time here. I'm not saying it is wrong, but I'm just stating that perhaps it would be better for some of you to turn off the computer and go out and meet people IRL.

No matter what, your reply did give me some more insight as to what people might be thinking, and to what their intentions might be. Thanks!

RE: are you here for love or friends?

First of all thanking you very much for commenting on my post and answering my questions. It's highly appreciated.

Sure you are making friends along the way to find love. I've done that myself both online and IRL. That does not change my intentions in any way. I'm spending time here to find love, and I'll never be pretending to be here for anything else. I just don't see the logic in going from hoping to find love to hoping to get friends. That's all.

As to whether you spend too much time in here, I really don't know and I'm not going to judge. Though I did have a few people in mind when writing about it, it was not meant for any single one in here. However you were actually not one of the people I was thinking about.

RE: are you here for love or friends?

Well, you could regard it as criticism, but that was not my intention at all. Sorry if it came out that way. I'm not trying to get popular, but instead I say it as I see it. Though I try to avoid being rude or offending, I realize I might not be successful.

Actually I think you are spot on with your first comment. A lot of people come here with the intention to find love, but end up being disillusionated (if that is a word in the English language). That's a real shame, because finding love online is certainly not easy. In my opinion, this is exactly what's going wrong. If you stop believing and think it is not possible, you'll end up telling people you are here for friends even though that is actually not the case.

I understand that you don't fancy drunks.....but going out does not necessarily mean being with drunks. Perhaps it does where you live, but I don't always get drunk when going out, and I do meet a lot of women not drinking alcohol at all.

Thanks a lot for your comments!

RE: Why are women so hard to find?

I know you are asking for women's opinions, but I just want to share what came to my mind, when reading your post. I also took the liberty of reading your profile.

You are making it very difficult to start communication with you if you just send flowers, because your profile text does not lead to an obvious dialogue about anything. You need to make absolutely sure the women you approach do not have to go out of their way to figure out how to initiate a dialogue with you. Sending a flower in here is more than everything a way to tell someone, that you exist. You simply don't initiate a dialogue by sending a flower. You might want to ask yourself, how you would respond if you got a flower from yourself, and if you find that the least bit difficult, think about how difficult it will be for any woman.

Concerning your appearance I'll let women give their opinion, but be assured that you'll never appeal to all women no matter what you look like or what you write in your profile text. In my opinion your view on what you seek fits just about all women (if you ask them). Have you ever met a woman telling you, she isn't independant? And thinking a little more about it, I kind of wander, if what you are really saying is, that she cannot depend on you, since you're putting this much weight into her being independant(?)

Anyway....sorry for interrupting the women....and the best of luck!

RE: Would A Matriarchal Sociey Make A difference Right Now

And the world would come to a complete stand still, because everyone in Parliament would have to agree and the discussions would never have an ending

RE: I have to ask this?

I know....I should have run away already. The thing is you ladies (so far) seem to be too polite to throw the biggest rocks after me. I honestly thought you'd get a lot more provoked

RE: I have to ask this?

That's it...you want it all, we just can't figure out how much of each

BTW...men also want it all.....unfortunately we rarely get exactly what we want.

RE: I have to ask this?

It did for me....I believe you are spot on

RE: I have to ask this?

Pleeeeeease ladies......stop being so naive. Of course you prefer a**hole. I genuinely do not believe that you are not able to distinguise the a**hole from the "nice" guys. Since I generally regard women as having higher social intelligens than men, I refuse to believe that you let yourself get fooled by men that easily. However I do believe it is very difficult for you to admit, that you actually get more attracted to a**hole. Also I see such a clear pattern. Whenever a relationship falls a part, the male part of the relationship is almost always an a**hole (at least to some degree). Have you ever stopped for a second and looked in a mirror? Perhaps you (women) are often just as big a**hole as your counter part. At least I've met plenty of female a**hole. I've seen just as many women play games on men, as the other way around. I've been cheated on by more women, than I've cheated on women. Yet there seem to be some sort of consent in here about men being a**hole and women being the victims of these male a**hole. And to my huge surprise, it's a consent across gender. I'm seeing one thread after the other in here, where women talk about men in general terms as a**hole, perverts, cheaters etc. That in itself I don't find strange (to some extend we are all a**hole from time to time). However I find it very strange that most men in here silently or indirectly consent by posting "I'm not like that...my moral values are....blah blah blah" posts. In that way they are actually saying something like "You're right.....men are monsters, but you've just met one of the very few who isn't". Though it often amuse me more than anything else, it also worries me that women are able to play their cards that well.

Fishing girl, I'd love to know how you categorize guys, because to me it seems you think all the guys you've had a relationship with showed to be a**hole after a while. If that is the case, I'd advice you to start by looking inwards. Of course you could be one of the very unlucky women who has never met a nice guy.....but....it could perhaps also be the case, that you are the one bringing out the a**hole in the guy. Have you thought about that?

Anyway....I've probably pissed off 90 % in here, so I think I'll hurry out of here

RE: What i've found to be true....

You know, the exact same thing can be said for the women not having a pic on their profile. However, I always (or 95 % of the times) answer the mail I get no matter if there is a pic or not on the profile. The reason is that I've seen a couple of times the absolutely most beautiful women hiding behind a profile without a pic. Actually one of my ex girlfriends I met on a dating site, on which she didn't have a pic on her profile, and she was so unbelievable beautiful. So my experience is, if I am to find a truely hot woman in here, whom I also enjoy the company of, I shouldn't go for the beautiful women with pics, but the beautiful women without pics.....they are just so damn hard to pinpoint

RE: Your pets. How important are they to you?

Well, you presence on CS might be explained here then


(Apologies in advance....I couldn't resist....)