I am trying to find out what turns a guy on about a girl other than the obvious of course. Can I get some feedback on this one. Please be specific with your responses, I'll be taking notes.
I am trying to find out what turns a guy on about a girl other than the obvious of course. Can I get some feedback on this one. Please be specific with your responses, I'll be taking notes.
You sound like a very intelligent person with the same kind of rational as I do. Your the type of person I would consider good friend material. If your interested in getting together and hanging out sometime let me know.
Well you can do a search for an age range with or without a photo and read certain profiles that peek your interest and send them an email or flowers and waite for a response... Or also read the forums and get to know people and what there all about..
I only refuse to accept words from an immature, self rightous, twit like you. Why on earth would you think anyone would have anything to do with you. Might as well hang it up suger, noone will ever want you... And you know it... Oh and I hope your not calling yourself a real man cause your as far from that as you can possibly be... Grow up needledick....
Your opinion, well thanks for that opinion (KINGOFAMAN), ok, but your opinion much like the quality of men on this site suck just as much.
As for my profile, it is listed that way because of the fact that I am not looking for a specific physical appearance I am looking for a real man unlike you. I don't care what a guy looks like he just has to have the personality I'm looking for, which is very hard to find these days. And the personalities I've gotten so far are much like yours dear. Cold, hot tempered and immature. Leave it to you to take a general statement about the experiences I've had so far and direct it straight at you...
And I would love for you to point out the MALE BASHING IN THE FORUM THAT I HAVE DONE... LOVE TO SEE WHAT THE HELL YOUR TALKING ABOUT. What's the matter can't take joke big guy...
Your user name should say REALLYIMMATUREGUY.... Cause your no king or man...
I think it might depend on how much they care about you. You may want to not allow that into evidence until you know she's for real and not just looking for a fling. Yes woman look for flings too.
Yes I agree that does happen. Most of the time it takes awhile to even get a reply depending on how computer savey people are. And even knowing they have email on here. Some people just don't have common courtesy anymore. That's such a shame too because that's one of man's best attributes in my opinion..
Here I am, in Phoenix AZ still waiting for a special guy to come along and sweep me off my feet. Can anybody tell me why guys are so complicated. They say they love you before they even get to know you fully then they seem distant and say they are having issues but not share what the issues are. What the hell? You know this is getting to be too much for this girl to handle. I think I might just take my chances on the streets, shops, libraries ets. This dating site stuff leaves way too many unanswered questions to who people really are and what there all about. Too much distance when trying to get to know someone leaves too many areas wide open to lies and misinterpretations. I'm gonna give this a few more months, maybe till the end of the year and see what happens. But if the quality of men doesn't start improving here and on other sites, I'm gonna consider this a dead end path to finding love.
Here I am, in Phoenix AZ still waiting for a special guy to come along and sweep me off my feet. Can anybody tell me why guys are so complicated. They say they love you before they even get to know you fully then they seem distant and say they are having issues but not share what the issues are. What the hell? You know this is getting to be too much for this girl to handle. I think I might just take my chances on the streets, shops, libraries ets. This dating site stuff leaves way too many unanswered questions to who people really are and what there all about. Too much distance when trying to get to know someone leaves too many areas wide open to lies and misinterpretations. I'm gonna give this a few more months, maybe till the end of the year and see what happens. But if the quality of men doesn't start improving here and on other sites, I'm gonna consider this a dead end path to finding love.
I miss my childhood most. Things were so much simpler then. Adult life can get so complicated with job, bills, friends that bring too much drama. Just want my life to be simple again.
• Factors Contributing to Interpersonal Attraction II ? Similarity ? As a general rule we like others who we perceive to be similar to ourselves ? Personality similarity ? Similarity hypothesis: We like others with similar personalties similar to our own ? Complementarity hypothesis: We are attracted to those with personality traits different from our own ? Similarity is stronger than complementarity ? Attitude similarity ? It is the proportion of common attitudes that is critical, not the absolute number of common attitudes ? This effect holds true for children, young and middle-aged adults and older adults ? The matching principle is our tendency to become involved with others who are closely matched to us in terms of physical attributes and social status ? Reasons for the similarity effect ? Social comparison: verification of attitudes and behaviors ? Predictability: We believe we can predict the behavior of similar others better than dissimilar others ? Reciprocal rewards: Greater rewards may be derived from affiliation with similar others ? Reciprocity of liking: We like those who like us back ? Holds true unless the other person has some objectionable qualities ? Similarity attraction or dissimilarity repulsion? ? The similarity effect is one of the strongest relationships in social psychology ? For many years the idea that we are attracted to and like best similar others ? Rosenbaum (1986) suggested that perhaps dissimilarity breeding disliking is more important than similarity ? Evidence suggests that both similarity and dissimilarity are involved in attraction: ? Dissimilarity used to make an initial "cut" ? After initial cut similarity becomes more important • Factors Contributing to Interpersonal Attraction III ? Physical Attractiveness ? Generally, we are more attracted to attractive than unattractive others ? There exists a physical attractiveness bias. Attractive individuals (v. Less attractive) are assumed to ? be happier ? have better prospects for good relationships ? be smarter ? have better career opportunities ? Generally the assumption is what is beautiful is good (Dion, Berscheid, & Walster, 1972) ? "Goodness" may not be the central characteristic underlying the bias ? Glamour seems to be more important (Bassili, 1981). We assume that attractive individuals are socially better than less attractive individuals (competence, energy) ? Physical Attractiveness (continued) ? Attractive individuals are judged differently from less attractive individuals ? An attractive child who does something wrong is given less punishment and the transgression is seen as a one-time behavior ? A less attractive child who does the same thing wrong gets harsher punishment and the transgression is seen as an indicator of a behavioral trend ? The work of attractive individuals is evaluated higher than the same work attributed to a less attractive individual ? The matching principle holds for physical attractiveness ? Individuals tend to match on physical attractiveness ? Attractiveness is one of the most potent variables at the beginning of a relationship ? Limit to the matching principle ? Initially, individuals express a desire to be with the most attractive person possible ? When it actually comes to forming a relationship, people tend to match
• The Roots of Interpersonal Attraction IV ? Social Anxiety ? For individuals with chronic loneliness social anxiety is often a problem ? Social anxiety is a feeling of discomfort that arises when a person expects negative outcomes from social contact and interpersonal relationships ? People with social anxiety anticipate negative interactions and believe that others will not like them ? Social anxiety can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy and behavioral confirmation cycle. ? In some cases a person with social anxiety begins to avoid social situations, increasing isolation and loneliness o There are several characteristics of a person with social anxiety: ? Characteristics of Individuals With Social Anxiety ? Sensitivity to and fear of disapproval and criticism from others ? Strong tendency to perceive and react to nonexistent criticism ? Low self-evaluation and self-esteem ? Rigid ideas about what constitutes "appropriate" social behavior ? For seeing negative consequences to anticipated social interactions, which arouses anxiety ? An increased awareness and fear of being evaluated by others ? Overestimating one's reaction to a social situation (believe you are blushing, but you are not) ? An inordinate fear of the anxiety itself ? A fear of being perceived as losing control ? Progressive buildup of social difficulties ? Inability to predict when social anxiety will be aroused • Factors Contributing to Interpersonal Attraction I ? The Proximity Effect ? One of the strongest predictors of who forms a relationship with another person is the distance between them ? You are more likely to become friends with someone who is geographically close to you than someone who is far away ? Research by Festinger, et al. (1950) and Sigal (1974) demonstrate this proximity effect. ? Festinger, et al. found that within a housing complex for married students two factors affected friendship formation: ? The sheer distance between houses ? The direction in which the house faced ? Sigal found that police recruits were likely to become friends with people they sat near (alphabetical seating). Closeness was more important than common interests, marital status, age, etc. ? There are several reasons for the proximity effect ? Proximity increases the likelihood of meeting someone ? You are able to get more information about people who are close to you ? You are more likely to interact with a person who is close to you, which is rewarding for us ? The mere anticipation of interaction is rewarding ? The mere exposure effect: ? Repeated exposure to a neutral or mildly positive stimulus increases liking ? Student in the bag demonstration
What is it that attracts each of us to one another, is it really chemistry? Or is it??? Now below you will find the true defenition of the word attraction. And I don't know if it makes sense to you but it does tell me a whole lot.
at·trac·tion (-trkshn) n. 1. The act or capability of attracting. 2. The quality of attracting; charm. a. A feature or characteristic that attracts. b. The gravitational force exerted by one body on another.
Now this information really made me think about who I am really looking for. If you have about an hour please sift through this, it's very enlightening...
• Interpersonal Attraction ? A Definition ? Interpersonal attraction is our tendency to evaluate another person in a consistently positive way. ? Application of the concept of an attitude to specific individuals ? We have positive attitudes toward individuals to whom we are attracted ? Interpersonal attraction is normally expressed as a dichotomous like/dislike judgment (a unidimensional concept) ? Interpersonal attraction is a more complex multidimensional concept ? We may have mixed feelings about a person ? Several dimensions may contribute to liking/disliking ? Interpersonal attraction actually exists in degrees of liking/disliking • The Roots of Interpersonal Attraction I ? The Need for Affiliation ? There are two social motives underlying interpersonal attraction: The need for affiliation and the need for intimacy ? Most humans are social creatures who enjoy the company of others ? The need for affiliation (Naff) is our need to establish and maintain relationships with others. ? Contact with friends and family provides: ? Emotional support ? A basis for social comparison ? Attention ? Individuals vary in their need for affiliation, some have a high need others have a low need ? Women, on average, have a higher need for affiliation than men ? We tend to want to affiliate with others under fearful conditions • The Roots of Interpersonal Attraction II ? The Need for Intimacy ? Our need to develop and maintain relationships with others extends beyond merely being with others. ? The need for intimacy (Nint) is a need to form and maintain close affectionate relationships with others and to disclose and share personal information about ourselves. ? Relationships tend to progress from shallow, narrow interactions to deeper, broader interactions involving self disclosure. ? Individuals high in the need for intimacy are warm and affectionate and show concern for others ? Women tend to have a stronger need for intimacy than men • The Roots of Interpersonal Attraction III ? Loneliness ? The needs for affiliation and intimacy are both positive social motives that foster the development and maintenance of interpersonal relationships ? There are emotions that stand in the way of forming close relationships ? Loneliness is a psychological state that results when we perceive an inadequacy in our interpersonal relationships. ? Results when we perceive a discrepancy between the relationships we would like to have and those we actually have ? Loneliness can occur in a relationship if the need for intimacy is not being met ? Loneliness is a subjective psychological state and not dependent on how many people we have around us ? We can have many people around us but still feel lonely if those people do not represent the kinds of relationships we want ? Loneliness can be transient (following a loss of a loved one) or chronic ? Loneliness can lead to depression
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Question for all of you guys out there?
I am trying to find out what turns a guy on about a girl other than the obvious of course. Can I get some feedback on this one. Please be specific with your responses, I'll be taking notes.Thanks in advance