I can't tell you how to avoid it, but I've had that problem most of my life. When I'd get really angry I'd cry, which made me even madder because I considered tears a sign of weakness, and I didn't want to appear weak. I didn't want anyone to know they had thay power over me. I don't know exactly how, but I outgrew it, at about the age of 47. The first time I got mad and didn't cry, it felt so empowering. I think the key for me was that the persondidn't really have any power over my emotions anymore. It was my ex, and I really didn't care what he thought of me anymore, so he couldn't hurt me, which is kinda sad in itself. Also, I'd learned to let myself cry when I was hurting, so it didn't come out at "inappropriate" times.
I don't know, all I can say is be yourself and allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling. There are no wrong emotions.
What was ethnocentric about that? I'm speaking for the rights of everyone in America to believe what they want. I can't speak for the right of people in other countries, cause I don't live there. I think all people should have these basic freedoms, but unfortunately not all do.
Jodi, I agree with you to an extent, we should respect the rights of everyone the world over. There's not a whole lot the US govt can or should do about that in other countries. Trying to protect the human rights of people in other countries is what has gotten us into so much trouble in the past and currently. We've got no business trying to make other countries do what we feel is right.
That is indeed not the case. There was never any question of whether his having the 10 commandments displayed had a bearing on his decisions. It was simply a matter of them being displayed in an inappropriate format. If he had been willing to display them as part of a larger collection of religious and historical documents, it would have been allowed. The problem came up because he wanted to display them as the only foundation for our laws, and that is simply not the case. I'm not going to repeat my entire earlier post on this subject, but I will say he made it an issue, knowing that the good people of Alabama would rally over it, and most would not even see the reality of the reasons behind the ban, or be afraid to speak against him, for fear of seeming to be against the commandments. Fortunately there were people in positions of power who could see through the hype and see the true issue. He boke the law, simply and knowingly, and that is the reason he was removed from the bench. Not because he believed in the commandments.
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I don't know, all I can say is be yourself and allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling. There are no wrong emotions. 
good one!
RE: The surgery was a great success!!!
Congrats scottish! Glad it went well.