They are immature. Starting in your teens the men/boys have a less mature outlook than you. Men can tend to be adolescents until say, age 40 give or take a few years. They are boys and act like boys. They are lost.
Then comes a time that they have their trial by fire. Maybe they go to war. Maybe they deal with the challenge of finding a career. Maybe they deal with some other awesome item of life.
Then they stop trying to be dare devils. They change their outlook.
He is not a boy.
He is a man.
When you are looking for something rare, usually you can wait. You can search.
You can settle for a life partner who has some of what you seek but not all.
Forums can go two ways one has these things: silly, not too deep, raunchy.
It can go another way where people may say what they mean to say or what they probably would say talking to the one they want to be with.
Under certain circumstances "Boys will be Boys" and talk like em and act like em. Women as well can say any number of things that a man would not want to hear.
But if someone is saying in a forum what he would say in someone's kitchen or living room with just the two of them there, if it is something he would say after a couple of dates and a week away from each other then we are looking at something real here.
Someone had a great idea for an age group thread. We are not old. We are right in the middle of it all. Done much, seen much and still looking.
Let's get it started.
What is the kind of experience that you really like to have? examples: hiking, bowling, antiquing, kayaking.
Here's mine. I recently went on a hike for singles in NY state. What a great moment when the group of us was perched on a cliff top overlooking the Hudson River, a bridge and all of the bright blue sky.
Commitment is something that happens naturally when two people who love to be together spend enough time together. That's the view from my perspective.
Where I am, it would be easy to commit to an exclusive relationship. Much more time would pass before any more concrete bonds could be formed.
It is not my heart that is broken but my illusions that are washed away in a spring storm
as the beach does not know a thing about what was there before the tide washed everything clean I find solace knowing that there is another great beach day and I love the beach.
First, it is not a game - none of it. Every moment you have the choice to do any particular thing to move in any direction you wish. Jump into the flow of a thing to do or stay out of it. It is up to you. Refine, work on and understand yourself as you go forward.
Been to the mountain top Crawled along the bottom of the sea
This world is rich Life's too good As I live there is another piece of beauty to experience
Know yourself Stay True Do not degrade your self
You are ever the center of the story that your are creating each day
She seeks out beauty and surrounds her self with beautiful things She has the mind and education to discuss meaningful things. Her love is easy and always at the surface ready for an embrace. She is as willing as I to plunge into that which is attractive, alluring interesting exciting - exhilarating
She knows how to enjoy a fine dinner out a museum of art an opera or a symphony concert or maybe a jazz concert by the water's edge
She believes in the power of knowledge and education. She doubts the simple answers that come down from the pulpit at the place of worship.
She can let go of what ever happened back then and enjoy what's happening right now.
She has a great amount of self knowledge. She is not chasing a ghost or giving the monkey of addiction a ride for life.
She can share all of the good things enumerated above.
a man knows who he is a man has traveled far a man knows how to share his love and his things. a man can share a day reserved for lovemaking with his love. a man can go to a new place and enjoy new things with the one he loves. a man can recognize beauty a man is not afraid to experience everything this big world has. a man knows how to take risks to get to his destination. a man can feel comfortable in an art museum a man can feel at home among the most beautiful surroundings a man can feel the exhilaration of the bustling cityscape and in the world of the woods. a man understands when it is the time to be comforting and when it is time to be challenging a man need not be bound by the assumptions or expectations a man who has seen much still needs love and affection.
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RE: Where are all the good guys??
They are immature. Starting in your teens the men/boys have a less mature outlook than you. Men can tend to be adolescents until say, age 40 give or take a few years. They are boys and act like boys. They are lost.Then comes a time that they have their trial by fire. Maybe they go to war. Maybe they deal with the challenge of finding a career. Maybe they deal with some other awesome item of life.
Then they stop trying to be dare devils. They change their outlook.
He is not a boy.
He is a man.
When you are looking for something rare, usually you can wait. You can search.
You can settle for a life partner who has some of what you seek but not all.
You can even get lucky.
Good luck!
You have years to seek and find.