I fully understand you, Venere, as i have 4 overweight sisters!
I can't stand people, who tell my sisters to be proud of their size. What in the world is that supposed to mean? I don't think they would be crying, if anything happened to them because of their weight. I also don't understand how women go around encouraging each other with this 'big is beautiful' nonsense. Jesus, it's their health at stake here!
Should we also go around encouraging people to do drugs, or indulge in bad habits? Yes, it is a bad habit, just like smoking!
I find it very strange, when women say, repeatedly, that they should be loved for what is on the inside and not the outside.
Why would you want a man to not love your looks, whether you are big, or small? I personally want a man who will compliment my brown eyes, or long to taste my lips, as well as love the person i am, when i am with them.
Physical beauty may fade away, but i think it's insecure, to ask that a man loves your personality alone. If you think your body is not worth loving, or it's not a reason ( among others), for a man to find you attractive, then you need to hit that gym, and boost your confidence.
Take me as i am, not a part of me. I come as a package.
As long as good advise is given with love, i don't mind my man telling me to watch what i eat, like he shouldn't mind me telling him, to learn to put his dirty laundry, where it should be, or clean after his own mess. That is not changing the other person, but working to help function together, as a couple, with love. If a man loves me when i am small, it would be unfair to suddenly start eating all day, without a care in the world, expecting he'll be there, for eternity. This would be selfish, and no different to being with a sweet person, who suddeny turns into a horrible, violent human being. Should we remain with a person who suddenly decides excercising is not important, and get rid of the one who turned violent, later in a relationship? I think not! They are both the same to me!
Please, don't bring the condition/ addiction/ illness issue into this. My hypothesis is based on choices, not pathology. Respect your body, your partner's and the realtionship you have. Be good to yourself.
One of my sisters just sent me a message, asking if i had made up my mind, on joining a gym with her. I will do it, because i love her, and myself. We will do it together.
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RE: is it really bad manners to say Whatever?
Scot-free, Graham!