Thanks for raising the cultural aspect of this, Dru. It is highly significant and shouldn't be ignored.
Culture does influence concern, rights, law and jealousy; however I think it has more to do with a person's own personal choices. A woman in America, may have similar views on the topic, to a Chinese woman's, which means that total acceptance on various issues is mainly influenced by us, as individuals. People may live according to customs, but at the end of the day, they are their own priority, whether they accept it sooner or later. We allow what is acceptable to us, not others. We allow ourselves to listen to our partners or dismiss their privileges as our partners.
RE: how far do you go on the first date
God, you're nice.