What Do You Think??? ( Archived) (317)

Hello Jo, you been messing with my posts?

Eh, eh?

well that quote sure screwed up

It would depend on the reason. I have a friend whose ex told him she was going to Vegas with friends, and he watched her kids from a previous marriage while she went. She came back and booted him out. Turns out that she had met someone online and gone to meet them, and filed for divorce when she returned. He's said that if he dates someone who is on a dating site online, that they would have to be willing to leave it. I asked him about a site like this, where it's for friends, and he said it would still bother him. I can see his point. If I were to date someone with an issue like that, and really loved them, then I would respect that...though I'd have an issue with the lack of trust. So, hmmm, probably wouldn't date anyone like that anyway. Just as easy for me to go to a club and cheat, if I were going to do that.

Thankfully for me, that won't be an issue. I don't see Buzzy and I leaving here. Less active once he moves here, maybe. Leaving totally, no. We've both made friends here, and love the forums way too much. Also, we don't have issues with trust between us. We have to trust each other implicitly to have the relationship we do over the distance. In a way, maybe that's the good thing about starting out from a site like this...all of that is there from the beginning to have the relationship in the first place.

Sorry...not the most cohesive answer I've ever given...I'm still waking up, and was rather thinking as I typed. Now you see the thought process behind so many of my answers.

yeh i know..leave it up to me, messing around

Good for you...your presence is welcomed by more than it's upset, I would say.

Trust me, I'm joining the ranks of "if you're taken, why are you here?" Got my first one yesterday.

Misunderstood that one, Jo, I thought you were directing that at me!

Still, who cares?

Sometimes, I do care though, or else I would not come back to make it right.

With regards to HIM, the dreaded HIM that I hooked up with, then if he asked me, then I would go.

I would not want to hurt him, so if me being here did that, then I would go.

I can't imagine myself leaving the forums just because a guy says I should. The "partner" thing could be misleading. We tend to use the word "partner" on single sites because we don't want to say boyfriend or girlfriend. It frightens the men to think they are someones boyfriend (the old committment thing ) I have met men over the years on other sites and when I thought there was a chance for a relationship and I hid my profile because I wasn't looking any longer. My motto is one man at a time.

Bless you, I got myself all mixed up there.

thats ok hun..

I dont know how that post got messed up...

but i will say Good Morning

I think that as long as you let that person know and feel that you are only here for the friends that you like to talk to and also give your input to those that ask for help its fine.
If they ask me to leave I would have to give that person the respect that they deserve and find out the reason why and if it really was a problem for them I would leave if it was a big issue for them.