blueyes34: morgan sweetowen and dru you dont like when a guy state there views so why even put the question out....you are all looking for someone on here ladies so lets tell the truth....john i agree with you 100%....
Our objection isn't to the point of view, but the manner in which it was presented. None of us take kindly to personal attack, and you made very personal attacks rather than stating a point of view in an objective manner. You can state your point at any time, and we have the right to disagree with it...but attacking like you did is not the right way to go about it.
snugglysenior: I don't know who he is and it's okay if you don't want to share it.
Just a little question: In his profile, did he change the part where it says what you are looking for?
Does he have longterm in the spot or did he change it to talk/email/pen pal - something like that?
He's DazzleYou hon. We had both had "I'm not looking. I'm exploring a relationship" until he moved. And we both do have talk/email/pen pal chosen. But we'd have to make a major announcement for people to believe that we're not still "going on". It's pretty much common knowledge here.
Which brings up another point... if one of us was to stray, more than likely one of the other posters would probably catch us & say something... if it got to bad. That's JMHO.
blueyes34: morgan sweetowen and dru you dont like when a guy state there views so why even put the question out....you are all looking for someone on here ladies so lets tell the truth....john i agree with you 100%....
there you go again saying what people think! I have no problem with you giving your opinion, but i do when you TELL people there motive for being here. My partner knows i am here, see's what i write and knows who i talk to and there is no problem because of a little thing called trust, something you know nothing about
SirenLydiaBury St Edmunds, Suffolk, England UK4,138 posts
morgan5: If you meet someone and begin a relationship whether it be someone you met in RL or from CS,and they wanted you to leave the site
Would you do leave?
Is it fair that they ask you to?
Just curious
I don't see why you should leave the site for someone else's sake. I feel that if you don't have trust within the relationship then you don't have a strong enough relationship and it would not be for me.
I did come to the forums for friends only and see nothing wrong with that.
lookin4ubabe: Excellent point....It is all about opening the lines of communication and expressing your intent. This is a great sight for provoking thought and conversation, the dating aspect aside...the forums are fun!
Absolutely! And we still learn a lot about each other by seeing each other's points of view on here. Subjects are raised on here for discussion that just don't get discussed in everyday life. I've learned some things about myself from being on here and having that experience.
And we have fun. In the fun threads, we like to play tag...nothing wrong with that. We also still enjoy being on here with our friends and getting to talk to them, and we currently have no plans for leaving here after we are living together. I'm sure we won't be on as much, but we'll still be on here.
When I was married I was friends with a woman who was having an affair. My husband knew she was doing it and he didn't want me associating with her. According to the thread the other day I should "have done what he told me to do" and not be friends with her. I kept the friendship and I could have cheated on him because he was always drunk and hardly around but I didn't.
Being associated with this girlfriend didn't encourage me to run around on my husband. I didn't agree with what she was doing but it wasn't my business.
So we have two people in the forums who like each other - maybe love each other. They are having fun talking to the same people.
Integrity is based on who you are - not the people you associate with.
morgan5: best ignore him, he shows himself for what he is
so sweety why put the question out to everyone....it seems you are not sure of yourself hun...so if he trusts you why the question....something fishy here.....
sweetowen: He's DazzleYou hon. We had both had "I'm not looking. I'm exploring a relationship" until he moved. And we both do have talk/email/pen pal chosen. But we'd have to make a major announcement for people to believe that we're not still "going on". It's pretty much common knowledge here.
Which brings up another point... if one of us was to stray, more than likely one of the other posters would probably catch us & say something... if it got to bad. That's JMHO.
blueyes34: so sweety why put the question out to everyone....it seems you are not sure of yourself hun...so if he trusts you why the question....something fishy here.....
Just a suggestion... hit the little button to the RIGHT of the "Reply" button when responding to someone. It says "QUOTE". That way we know who you're aiming your accusations at each time.
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Just a little question: In his profile, did he change the part where it says what you are looking for?
Does he have longterm in the spot or did he change it to talk/email/pen pal - something like that?