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Betrayal and Blame

I know you care, and that is all that matters.

You know that!!!!

RE: The CS Curse? Or Psychic Vampirism?

Got it.

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I know there are vultures around and those who don't care ( they shouldn't), but i think i only care for what my real friends said. If it's veiled and makes sense, cool, i still learn.


I know your intentions are genuine, but also remember that you or any other person here, has started threads, and everyone else has their opinion on how important they are.


I've seen hundreds of those 'who really cares?' threads as well.


It's not a tragedy because little lush decides to talk about something serious, but thanks for the good wishes, i reciprocate them.

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Kamelia had a thread, and her most unwell patients were me and Ray. Ray eventually took off with a nurse (he is still unwell).
I got full recovery and the janitor.




Rememeber now?

Off to finish school work.


Later.

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No worries.


Yes, you've said you aren't a doctor, but i just use it because you are in the medical field. We first started talking on a psychology thread and that's why i used it there. See, i have good memory.


Thanks.

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It's not a competition, when one is a competitor and the other just participating in the event.


I have an icebox, not a heart, so i couldn't enrol in the competiton.

Hi,




Yep, i will neither appease, nor get answers, but i have closure now, from talking about it.


Thanks. I'm still a detective, can't you see.

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The person had nothing to say for themselves, they betrayed me by twisting things around. I have realised that can't be changed, so i will not insist.


Thanks Daniel, i'll go do something productive with my thesis now.

RE: Say something to anyone and no need to mention the Turkey....... Thanksgiving style!!!!!

'Allowed' to 'feel', anything.




Kenyan

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Thank you, Daniel.

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Moema, you didn't have a problem when i responded to your lengthy post last night, now, i am so busy, yet found it appropriate to take a little time off my busy November, to come show my gratitude.


If you find anything offensive in what i have just said to my friends, who i have spoken to longer than you, then i suggest you don't look.

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Thanks everyone!

I can't quote everyone right now ( except you, x-rebel, you're special ) but i have read everything you have said, wanted to show you my appreciation for taking the time to read, and try to guide me. I will take something from that and incorporate into my own life. Hopefully i can be a wiser person today than i was yesterday, like everyone should be.


Now, if anyone can help with my thesis.


Ok. that i will deal with my supervisor.


Back to finishing my studies, i spend so much time here, my twin can 'sense' it.
She can't sense anything, it's probably a lucky guess.

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Be very bad!


I'm off to bed. Night.

RE: Obama's grandmother dies

Sad news! My condolences.

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That's me.

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I went on a date, the man went to the bathrooms, took off with the waitress through the window and left me to pay the bill.






Honestly though, this not anything serious, was just having fun with the man, then he disappeared at a 'convenient' time. I naturally got worried.

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Thank you.

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I will move on, i do however have to admit that i feel much better just talking it out. I feel like a load has been taken off my shoulders. Yes, there may be no reconciliation between us, but i'm glad i'm not damaged. Thank God.


Thanks Wobbert.

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Thank you! I am so glad i can be around people like you. Thank you for understanding.


I will avoid those pitfalls, because i'm one myself.

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Hey, silly.

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If i'm guilty, i was thinking he probably is as well. He probably told her something different. I saw no resistance from the poor man. : Strange as hell, if i think i don't want to talk to a person i normally tell them myself, before reporting them to my boyfriend. I don't encourage communication either, as it would beat the purpose of it all.

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Thanks Plumber.


I'll probably catch my neighbour's chickens and pluck their feathers every time i have these questions. No murder.


Seriously though , i do realise that there will not be any communication with these people and frankly i think that would be best. I am thinking that now. So my brain can focus on other things like solving it within me. I need to forget these people, but i have to devise my own way of achieving this.

I get you.

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Still what does the kind of drama i have here, have to do with what i did in private? We all have personality traits, and we aren't here to solve me as a person.

Perhaps you should have read the thread instead.


The drama is there by nature, has nothing to do with betrayal.

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Moema

You have said a lot, and every little word i store with me. I know my mistake was probably not realising that no matter how much i may feel i have 'the right' to do something, (in this case me and this man flirted back and forth) as long as there is someone else more hooked/interested in this man, there will be turmoil. Believe me, i'm not a complete monster and on numerous times, put this on the table, but this man told me to relax as he wasn't taken. All harmless fun. My mistake was not following my intuition and relying on someone else's. I own up to that, and if i deserve the blame, it's for that, not following me own direction.

Yes, it has been a lesson, because come next time, i would not dare even look this way again. Not in a situation where numerous versions of truth could be created. I care for me, and forgot that for a second. I should have pleased myself, and the little bit of discomfort should have been enough for me to know i wouldn't be that pleased in the end. It should have sent me running, without asking.




Thanks, Mo'.

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Betrayed my confidence in the sense that they gave their side of the stories, in their version. I mentioned 'three sides of a story' in the beginning, meaning they take what i say to them, and relay it in a way i don't still understand, in a version i find unclear.


That is the purpose of this thread, the tongue twister would mean 'what i don't know' in the whole scenario.

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This person who got hurt, to my knowledge (it has been said publicly), has been the one apologising to the man we have both been talking too.


Strange.

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Whatever i do in public, i do in private too, be it talking, sharing music or flirting.


What among those things is wrong, in your opinion?

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I don't believe it's about anything negative, because i have implored the person in private to tell me, and they told me to forget it. Fine i could.

My worry is, why this person i communicated with never corrected me of anything i did wrong. Why is what i did wrong being kept a secret from me, yet got bombarded with massive public dedication to this wrong i've done?

Why are they explaining this to each other after she decided to let me know she knew. What was the aim? I ask myself this.


It's like a tongue twister-

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There was no real friendship between me and the person i hurt, they say i have, but won't tell me what it is.

Thanks.

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Thanks MF, you have had more experience with this in life than i have, so i do understand what you're saying. Maybe somethings have no answers.

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I know my feelings and i am probably one of the most direct people here. My problem probably is how i could be blamed, and this person i did 'nothing wrong' with gets the pat on the back, the comfort, the credit and anything else that can be given, while i get portrayed to be the monster. I never had a knife to this person's throat and only talked to them. The person has been arrogant enough to act indifferent. I'm kinda glad this is happening online, because imagine how it would be if i was say meeting with a 'taken' man. This is why it bothers me i guess, i can't imagine how crazy it would have been if i felt that kind of betrayal, and over what, nothing.



Everyone knows that i am not a saint, but if i am wrong, shouldn't we both be wrong? I don't want to be a victim and only need a way to deal with this.

How am i the monster in this scenario?

Thank you, FM.