The CS Curse? Or Psychic Vampirism? ( Archived) (60)

All too often we hear and witness (to great dismay) the discord that plagues any part of the joy that inseminates what it is that we all supposedly seek here and in life.
Why is it that a single person has less appeal than one to whom there is given attention of a positive sort?
Is it fear of watching the possibilities of life pass one by?
Is it jealousy? Malice? Confusion? Mutual Attraction that unfortunately occurs at the inception of another’s possibilities?
Is there a wrong doer? Is there truly a presupposed competition that must be engaged in?

Of course differing aspects of a person will attract others at times but when there seems to be a blossoming of Love in the air why is it that it is so often attacked as if to absorb its essence?
Is the “intruder” truly seeking what they desire in another or feeding off what is growing?

I believe from all the past occurrences that I have had the great misfortune to witness here and in real life, that it is a form of psychic vampirism. Wherein the contender is drawn (consciously or subconsciously) to feed off the life blooming before them. They have somehow lost their own ability to Love and are starving for some part of this loss to be filled. In doing so they seek to implicate themselves in the richest evidence of this loss they perceive in themselves, much to the dismay of the couple walking the first steps of the most tenuous of journeys, and likewise those to whom this vision is a testament to what they themselves desire with all their hearts.

Psychic Vampirism avails none of the individuals anything of merit and leaves the emptiness all that much more real. Eating pictures of food will gain you needed fibre but nothing else of any lasting sort except the misery of pretentious victory and assurance that no one gets ahead in a game which they feel themselves the most worthy competitor. Grand sabotage of this sort cripples the entirety of human experience and seeks to enforce solitude upon the masses for fear of attracting these leeches who will eat all of worth in a heart and turn from the corpse to find fresh pastures when the victuals cease to flow.

I do not see this a any sort of Curse on Cs but it has been replayed ad nauseum by far too many vultures who prefer a warm corpse to the faces of the dead who have lost their own hearts or the will to seek life. We are all humans and share common ground yet we seek to dismantle what we do not have for fear of being left truly alone rather than lift ourselves on the wings of chance to seek with Hope Faith and Love that which alone can sate our being.


Is it intentional or merely preprogrammed into our desperation to free ourselves from solitary confinement in the one prison that endures and weathers all storms- the heart?

I am very curious and am not pointing out any part of what has occurred herein as it has already played its hand and win or lose there have been far too many witnesses to these tragedies, and few too many successes against this rapine plunder of the real treasures of life.

Please do not bring personal experiences here where they can be attacked and continued, it is not for that purpose that I ask this. Thank You.

Beautifully written M,
however not very well vailed ,
perhaps a hornests nest ?
they are both hurt after all

This has much more to do with my own personal experience but I can see how it can be misconstrued to incorporate many others as it does seem to have a life of its own here. If anyone sees this as a personal assault upon their own experiences I am truly sorry. I am merely seeking some sort of solace from my own wounds inflicted in these very forums a year ago. Once again no names need be mentioned victims know who they are as well as perpetrators.

Thank you M for clarifying for me ,

Sorry...I haven't really been on here long enough to have an answer, nor to have seen or experienced this.

I'm sorry that it happened to someone as nice as you, BP...or to anyone else. Maybe those who've survived it kept themselves quiet enough for long enough to establish their relationship past the point that this can happen.

I my own case I left this site bereft of reason and rife with betrayal from persons to whom I had foolishly believed lay the kernel or more of endearing friendship. I am unsure and uninterested in what the others gained or are left with as I know that the 50% of my trust that they expended was enough to keep them at arm's length until they have discontinued such compromise in their own lives. At that point who knows there always remains a seed of positive that initially drew us together as friends and perhaps it could be watered. I refuse to let go of the belief in the intrinsic harmony of humanity even against all the odds.
Fortunately after I left this site I maintained a very deep conncection through other mediums of discourse and have not lost my friend to whom my feelings seemed to attract the flies to our honey. A temporary setback but to this day there is the same commerce of contact and more of the endless possibilities and promises of life than I imagined could endure and grow into what it is today. At least until tomorrow when it will have exceeded all my dreams of today of course.

JMO: But I think some ppl don't want to see anyone happy and just wish to drag others down to the level that person is on. Why this is I just don't know or understand, We should all be happy 2 ppl found each other here, It brings hope for the rest of us that there is more then being alone.

No one should have to keep their relationships off the forums but such is not the case.

What can be said more than that? It is spot on, therein lays the very problem. Not a curse or similar.

People even hesitate to mention they are talking intimately with someone scared of being bullied into submission to the fact that love is not and being single is their doom for life.

I will not submit, I am for love and happiness in my way in my life. And pro others for theirs.

A great post as always by you

I have to admit that if I ever got into a relationship with anyone else who was active on forums, I would keep it a secret for a long time, and hope that they would agree. From what little I've seen on here so far, that would be the wisest course. Sad, but true. I am always happy for the couples who announce their coupledom on here, and would never try to sabotage a relationship...and many wouldn't do this, but there are always those few. And it's not just true here...happens in RL, too. Been there.