LonelyfromAfrica Forum Posts (27)

Rating... Internet dating and making friends

Hey Molly Apologies... My comment was posted after yours... I meant relationship 'or friend' in my comment...

Rating... Internet dating and making friends

Or friend...?

Rating... Internet dating and making friends

This is soooo cool... Girls... hang in here... there could be a gentleman who fancies you... and who is prepared to travel to meet... and then some people are actually happily married with someone they met on this very site...amazing...

Doesn't our attitude play a role in making it more or less difficult to meet with someone Special? If we believe here is no one on this site for us, doesn't that create a filter not to see that Someone special even though he/she could have been a perfect match?

RE: An old flame suddenly appears and wants to hook up. Do you.....

I don't walk back in old footsteps or wasting my time... big no... so many men... so little time

RE: Question for 40 something woman. Who makes a better lover?

Hi Molly See you are so shocked with my statement you gave me a new name

RE: Question for 40 something woman. Who makes a better lover?

Seriously...there should be a 20 years difference between males (older) and females. Since men are visual creatures, the 40 year old male will get much more easy in the mood for a 20 plus girl...The 65 plus man will have eyesight trouble at his age and will still find the 40 year plus, average looking woman, attractive... Females get much more turned on by security, nice words, roses, etc... The looks and age could thus be of less important for us...?

RE: Question for 40 something woman. Who makes a better lover?

Why...does he like money...

RE: Question for 40 something woman. Who makes a better lover?

Yes... but restrain from kissing myself every time I look...

RE: Question for 40 something woman. Who makes a better lover?

Can't say... don't look at woman...

RE: Question for 40 something woman. Who makes a better lover?

Her face...?

RE: Question for 40 something woman. Who makes a better lover?

PS...for the men...young woman...you can look, but not touch...old woman ... you can touch but not look ...

RE: Question for 40 something woman. Who makes a better lover?

Men very old, 65 plus...because they see every time as the last time...

RE: Should special ed kids be in the same class with regular and gifted kids?

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Yeah, I don't make fun of these things, even if I had to be annoyed...life doesn't give us any guarantees... and we are all naked in a life context where there are influences that are greater than the human being... a character trait for me respecting and valuing this...

By the way if you could read better, understanding what you are reading...you wouldn't even make this comment (if I have to put character aside )...

Never less, no hard feelings...nice bike you have in your pic

RE: Should special ed kids be in the same class with regular and gifted kids?

Tom

I am sure you would be able to make a front cover of 'people on the move' if you only improve your reading ability... Good luck with your personal development

RE: Should special ed kids be in the same class with regular and gifted kids?

Dear Tom

I do not doubt your intelligence, but I do doubt your reading ability... Nowhere in my posting I referred to that our bright children are not our future... point you missed... special whether special intellectual needs, illness, disabled people etc put a strain on every economy and should not be left behind... that's all... Reading and listening skills are essential for displaying your own intelligence

RE: Should special ed kids be in the same class with regular and gifted kids?

I respect those children or people who are less gifted or even 'special'... to all the people who are arrogant as to how intelligent they are...be careful...It can only take one head injury to also become 'special' and if you are in the position to ever become a parent or grand parent... be thankful for having what you have... as this can change with a blink of the eye...

Our patience and giving in life is not tested with gifted people (there our own intelligence is tested), it is tested with the weakest one...

We have a role to play in society ensuring the weakest one is also able to fit into society and will be able to be economic active (the economy of every country would benefit from this and 'special' could have various definitions)... It just makes sense...thus with children with special needs...The educational focus will be different with them...so separate...

RE: What's more important to you: pretty face or hot body

Haven't read all the posts... hot body without any doubt ... most guys will first see the body, then the face and then the personality ... so hot body for me...

RE: Is CONNECTING SINGLES a waste of time?

Hi Karlo

Interesting views you shared...thank you. Yeah, I suppose the question if this site is a waste of time can only be answered in the context as to why a person joined the site in the first place. I joined this site as I moved to a very small rural town. While I was based in Gauteng, there wasn't time or the need to join a site like this. I had a diverse group of friends (different religions, race and cultural backgrounds), we accompanied one another to important events, from funerals to weddings... hence, this satisfied my need for cross 'boundary' learning experiences... I was part of a book club and every Wednesday we would have gone to a life performance close by...whether classical performance or art exhibition... This was a full filling life for me as it was tangible ... between work and sport, there wasn't much time left for on line boogie

This site in terms of functionality, is awesome...but I was spoiled with an environment with friends I could touch, go with and even smack if it was necessary.

RE: Is CONNECTING SINGLES a waste of time?

I also wonder if a site (because of the dating aspect thereof)...can't leave people with inadequate feelings...so many pretty pics...The pretty ones turn out to be the scammers, the moderate ones are the ones that don't even look our way and the interest comes from someone we can hire to scare our children at day time ...

RE: Is CONNECTING SINGLES a waste of time?

I understand, I share similar circumstances, however then I doubt whether the intent is really to develop a social network. For me it is only to feel better as I realize I am not the only lonely soul with a gap in my life on this planet

RE: Is CONNECTING SINGLES a waste of time?

Don't you think being on site then even makes it more difficult for you/us? Time we could/should have spent to develop a social networks and a full filling social life goes now to cyber friends whom we'll in any event most probably will never meet?

RE: Is CONNECTING SINGLES a waste of time?

Being on a social and dating site could also pose more risks than only scamming...

The longer and the more dependent we get 'having fun' on a 'site', the greater the risk that fun with real people in real interactions, could become more difficult. We can indicate almost all emotions with a little face or expression, making us very comfortable with written communication...would we be able to convey the same message by only using speech?

Fun we have on this site, is 'safe' fun...because no strings are attached...worst case scenario...delete a blog or keep quiet...no consequences in case anyone disagree or do not approve...real life and the test is to find a compromise... The site is thus a very patient and safe place to have fun...

Dependency on site friends and site communication can thus create an illusion of a world filled with friends only to find we are very lonely in our little world's...

RE: Is CONNECTING SINGLES a waste of time?

Question is still...If we had an full filling social life in real life...would we still be on this site...?

RE: Is CONNECTING SINGLES a waste of time?

Little ?

RE: Is CONNECTING SINGLES a waste of time?

Yeah, true with pics...Some have characteristics of both

RE: Is CONNECTING SINGLES a waste of time?

Being on this site would be a waste of time if:

We were in a happy, full filling relationship,
Had diverse, interesting friends in real life,
Had successful careers, keeping us busy,
Had enough money to travel further than a 100 miles from home, meeting more people in real life,
Were well connected in other networks such as cultural and professional networks,
Had read interesting material on controversial topics,
Would have been accepted and acknowledged in our immediate environments for our contributions and who we are,
Were serious for real commitment...

RE: Love found me here

Dear Lindsy...

All I can say is I am so happy you are still on this site. Your previous blogs and postings were very insightful, well thought through and filled with something to think about. With regards to your questions as to how successful this site is on the dating side...we'll no luck for me as yet...but my intent is not only to meet someone. I view this site also as a learning and sharing experience...hence my appreciation for your contribution. Please continue...

You are one heck of a brave lady...sharing your story and your optimism shining through. Truly an inspiration, thank you and good luck.