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I am back with more food and drink

I hope there are still a few souls awake on this bank holiday sunday night... I seem to have missed loads tonight!!!! 8 pages...

Hi to anyone new thats come in since I was last on, and nite to anyone who hit the hay...

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Popped back in to say hi to everyone that I missed....

I got caught up on the phone for a bit there. Then got dug into the Flight 93 documentary.... Have seen it before, but its very very good.

I will be back when its over if anyone still up and about....





That should keep you all going for a bit longer....

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How long is it supposed to take to upgrade? I dont think its that tho...I think its about the amount of traffic on at once. From the beginning I have had slow nights, and other nights there wouldn't be any problem....

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I am having the same problem myself PT... Darn 3G

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Hi Pete,

Afraid not...Godsgift ate them all.... He is such a glutton...

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There you go MrW...But next time you can get off your bum and get it yourself....It's self service tonight....

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So True...

That might be the answer for the worlds over population problem...lol

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I would love to see a man going through child birth....

Can just imagine the screams....

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Aaawww Vonney, You not having it good....

I hope you have your feet up now with a nice alcoholic bevvie in your hand

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Hi Vonney

Help yourself to the munchies and the drink....

How is your ankle today? Better I hope

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Who me?

Be nice if you want me to share my chocolate

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Yes please... The diet can start tomorrow....

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Got all excited at the mention of an S&M clubhouse... what an anti-climax


Lol! I thought that might get a few people to pop in...

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Great to see ye all....

Suppose I better get some chocolate in too.... Wouldn't want withdrawal symptoms to kick in....

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Welcome everyone

The S(unday) & M(onday) Clubhouse

Had a good laugh last night in The Saturday Night Club, so thought I would cover the rest of the bank holiday as well.

I was worn out last night serving drinks and fetching food so tonight everyone help themselves.....




That should be enough stocked up for the moment....

Now lets party folks

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I have never told him that his feelings don't matter. But I will give your post some serious thought, as this is an on going issue. And I appreciate your input. You have obviously been through it yourself, so was I. My folks didn't give any advice whatsoever. I rarely left the house from the age of 9 to 13. I can see history repeating itself, so I am doing my best to talk son through issues... As I said, I am probably going about it the wrong way....But learning from my mistakes

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Sorry! I haven't figured out how to use the quotes properly and divide it out on page.... Earlier I had to open 2 windows and copy and paste... Too late in night to do that now....

I hope my reply made sense...

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In some circumstances, fighting back is the best option. But in some cases, it is not. When a group of bigger boys taunt you, fighting back will only cause you more trouble. My eldest is a very sensitive kid, and I as well as trying to teach him to ignore taunts, I am also trying to help him understand that what people like bullies say, don't matter. I constantly build up his confidence, and hoping I am doing the right thing. Only time will tell.

I was only using that as an example, in earlier post, as that is the experience I have now of bullies. I still believe that bullying feeds on attention and reaction.

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I just wanted to reply to some of the posts, and then am leaving it be.

Dublin Guy wrote: "I think people should either agree to disagree or avoid each other's posts. Endless bickering gets you nowhere fast!"

I totally agree

PT wrote: "Bringing things from one thread into another is unfortunately unavoidable. When you have seen the destructive behaviour of a member on one thread and see them warming up to do the same on another, it is hard not to go in and shut them up."

I think bringing things from one thread to another is avoidable. If you see destructive behaviour from another member, you can tackle that in the context of that particular thread, without referring to others.

Nuala wrote: "as one of the long term members here on CS i have seen some nasty distruction of others and like a pack of wolves some follow with the in-crowd.....i agree with both yours, Loopy and PT points of view.....it is hard to stop this form of nastiness.....I do always draw everyone attention back to when we all started here on CS, on our own and had to learn over time who to trust and who not to....its part of life really.....But its a great thread and everyone must respect each post on it.....as they are all valid points of view."

Well said!!!

SillyGirl wrote: "Look pt can you not see that you're acting exactly the same as those fictional people. You are trying to police the site. Who are you to tell anyone whether they're out of line or not"

Firstly, how can you act the same as a fictional person.
Also, I think if a person considers someone to be out of line, they are entitled to say so. It is their opinion after all.

Dublin Guy wrote: "Well in my experience, destructive behaviour is only good if there is an audience. I think people like that only do it for attention so i think if you just ignore them, they will get bored sooner or later and go away"

I agree. Bullies need an audience.

I have thought my kids to ignore bullies. Their dad tells them to fight back, kick back etc. In my opinion that is acting no better than the bullies. I may be wrong telling my kids to ignore, but that is what I believe. And the point I wanted to get across in this thread is that we all have different ideas and opinions. Unfortunately, differences of opinion can lead to arguements. Arguements can be healthy to a certain point. But there is a time to end them and move on....Probably to the next arguement. But dragging up things from past threads gets people no where. Only to more bad feelings.

I am aware that I may have been contradictory above, in saying that you should ignore bullies, and also saying that you should speak up if someone out of line. What I meant was, that each to their own.

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Thanks everyone for replying to this thread. I didn't mean to post and run. Halfway through typing out the post I realised I was nearly out of cigs, and with it being bank holiday Sunday, I wasn't sure what time shops closed at. Anyway, when I came back I spent about 20 minutes replying to a lot of the posts, only I c@cked up somewhere, and seem to have been signed out half way through the typing.

Anyway, I have to get dinner now, so will come back shortly and reply to the posts again.

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I have been away from this site for a couple of months, for personal reasons. When I first came back a few nights ago, I was sorry I stayed away so long. I was thrilled to see all the activity going on in the site, and all the really interesting threads that got going. Have read through a lot of them, and disappointed I missed them. A few of my friends also seem to have left the site, and they will be missed.

One thing that seems to be happening lately is all the conflict. Every one is entitled to their opinion, and thankfully, we all have different ones, thats what makes us human, and conversations interesting. The problem that I see happening lately, is some people not respecting the opinion of others. And what seems to be more obvious, is that people are taking their grudges from thread to thread, and continue to judge people. In life some people will always be more opinionated than others, and that's fine, just agree to disagree...and move on. It is actually quite intimidating to enter into some of the threads, which is a shame, as most of the discussions are very good.

Where is the enjoyment in signing out of a night, with your blood boiling.

I don't like the idea of people reporting threads to the moderators. This is an adult site, after all. I also don't like the idea of people taking it upon themselves to PM other members asking for apologies. No Offence PT, but if someone wants to apoligise they should have the maturity and the sense to do it themselves. A forced apology is worse than no apology. I have spoken out of turn in the past against a poster, and apologised in PM and in public the following day, because I knew I was taking my bad mood out on the wrong person. We all have bad days.

Basically, I think if an arguement starts in one thread, it should stay there. And before anyone has a go at me, I do realise I have just started a new thread about the conflicts...But that is exactly why. One disagreement seems to lead to another, then refers to another etc etc. Its like a bleedin roundabout at times.

Anyway, I didn't mean this to be so long...Sometimes I just don't know when to shut up! I am sure there is more I need to say, as a lot has been going through my mind as I was reading through the threads.

for everyone

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In that pic I would say resembling a pet...

Still on my way to bed.... Its a long long road............

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You are welcome Annie, I will be back tomorrow.

And PT, I have been waiting hours for DaJanitor to clean the toilets... You dont have time for chat up lines. Get to work man... This place better be spotless for tomorrow nights re-opening...

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For anyone that is still up

I am off to my leaba. Last one out lock the doors as you leave

Has been a great night, and thank you all for dropping in

See ye tomorrow night, in the new improved club...

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I will be having dreams tonight with your image in my head... Notice I didnt say sweet dreams....

Still working on getting new pic myself... Maybe tomorrow

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Hi Annie Welcome to the SNC... Drinks are on the house....And plenty of chocolate...

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I thought I would edit that as when PT changes his picture back to the "false one" the DJ wont make sense....Lol!

Although, PT I think you should keep DaJanitors pic for a while.... Looks great in the serious threads.... Just cant take you seriously...

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You took your time DJ....Did you make your deliveries????

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Nite Crystal

Sleep well... Chat again soon

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I haven't had Trifle in years.... Where are the 24 hour shops when you need them....