Just to comment on a point you make... I'm thin! Not because I care about the way I look and starve myself/watch what I eat to achieve that. I'm thin because my metabolism means I can eat ANYTHING I want and remain slim even after the menopause... so assumptions are not always wise about what or how people 'are thin' ...
In Spain, apart from the fact that women dont' ever ever change their name when getting married (children have 2 surnames fathers + mothers), also there are 2 types of marriages. Marriage whereby 'everything' is shared and marriage whereby 'what's his remains his and what's hers remains her'. The couple has to choose which they want when they get married.
I very recently learned something rather crucial... although I always knew the expression don't judge a book by its cover, I never trully understood its deep meaning ...
Our preconceived ideas and judgements of superficial appearances or 'first glance judgements' (not te be confused with first gut reaction) are nothing but our selfrightrous projection on people we know very little about. The limitations we impose on ourselves and others, born from cultural or societal influence or brainwashing get in the way of our own authenticity and blind us to the authenticity of others...
Shedding all of the above allows us to really see ourselves therefore creating a window to really seeing others. 2 people who really 'see' each other connect on a deeper level without effort, simply by just being. I am having the pleasure of experiencing this and it's so simply beautiful
I'm always tearing up either because something is so beautiful or because something is so poignant ... or laughing our loud at something all by myself ....I don't mind ... I just observe where the tears stemmed from so if there is any healing to do I go visit 'that place' ...
Time is what we make of it every moment we live. I tend to live very much in the present and very near future because I have learned best layed plans have a habit of flowing in many ways and directions not always envisaged at the time of making the plans. Rather than a plan I have a vision of how I'd like things to be, then set about taking steps towards materialising it without being too attached to the 'how' and focussing more on the bigger picture of the outcome. Time for me is a flow and I experience it sometimes like a rapid and sometimes like a meandering river. For me time is life and joy and well being and so I can't equate it to material things because its value varies depending where you are on the globe and which family you were born into so it's not an universal measure. Equating a universal perception like time to a relative/arbitrary value like money or material things makes no sense and is the cause of much darkness and sorrow on this Earth. Time is for honouring yourself, others and life. In order to do so, sometimes it requires walking away from toxic situations, people, settings, environments. One of the best uses of time since it makes the quality of 'the rest of your time' so much more fulfilling and soul nourishing.
'Dear Lee' invites people to share their opinion and I do. And when I do, he and sometimes others attack me because my opinions don't match Lee's. Sharing an opinion is not 'attacking' someone.
You have on occasions made unkind comments to me. Did I lose sleep over it? No!
Nope! It's 'the cult' as defined by Lee: any man or woman who doesn't have HIS vision of how society should work and especially any independant free thinking and acting woman, in his mind belongs to 'a cult'. Go figure
A non traditional family unit could have many different forms... it does not necessarilly consist of a single mother (or father) bringing up their children on their own ...
The reason you don't answer my view points is because you find it difficult to wrap your head round my comments. I don't detest traditional gender roles and traditional family unit. I and many other people have outgrown them. They are mostly no longer operational. Traditional gender roles no longer influence my life. I am independant and do whatever I like. That's ehat I call being empowered. Not being governed by any stereotypes. And everyone should be free to choose how they want to live. Traditional or not. Whatever floats their boat. It should be out of preference and choice and not an imposition!
It's interesting that I wrote a very balanced non aggressive post in your thread where you ask people to remain calm and stick to the subject of the thread and you managed to break both of those recommendations in your one sentence reply
No I would not remove feminism and turn back the clock. No I would not bring back the 'traditional' way of life. The family unit need not be 'traditional' and nor does the way of life, for it to provide a loving, calm, wise, educational environment for a child to thrive and feel protected, supported and encouraged as well as loved.
The clock need not be turned. Acceptance, compassion and understanding however, go a long way to 'bridge the gap' between the genders and provide a stable environment for children to grow up respecting and honouring other humans irrespective of gender, race or religion.
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RE: Arguing with ur gf
She might be trying to point out a lack or maturity