lol..thanks every one..i kinda figured thats the case..yet he still talks to me..we are friends.. and i won't say a bad word about him..he is a good guy.. i just hope i can really find some one for me..as i do hope every 1 here does to.. maybe i should go out with 1 of the guys i have known a while and try that..but i'm scared to ruin good friendships.. i don't really know what to do..this dateing stuff is scarey weather it's on line or folks i have known.. oh well keep your fingers crossed..maybe i'll go out this week end.. lol
why do some people let you believe there is something there..when theres not..ok 1 example..i recently started chatting with some one i have grown to like..a lot..but when 1st talking with him told him we couldn't start anything do to the distance between us..he said ya never know..and also said that distance would not be a problem if we were to get to a serious point.. so i allowed my self to get to know him..and feelings were just begging , when he suddenly says well never mind we are to far apart..
why can't people just be honest..and straight forward.. i admit i was hurt..because he was the 1st i apraoched and made an attempt to get to know..i will not let this keep me from moving on..but am curious as to why people do this.. maybe i just needed to vent..ok..i feel better already..lol
what ever star..i was at the club with you..i saw ya 1st on your knee's ..and then i saw ya on the stool with legs spread and a line of guys..you saying you wern't serving the allyou can eat ? lmao
liquid courage with added stupidity..lol.. guys get drunk and tell me all kinds of stuff..most i don't even care to hear..lmao.. and a lot of times way to much info.. and then don't remember it the next day..i tend to ignore the drunken banter..
i hardly ever drink it seems to put me out..i get down and can barely speak at all.. how ever at a normal self..i tend to speak my mind anyways.. i do get shy when i like some one and takes a litle bit of getting my nerve up..but i still tell it like it is.. ;-)
i think for the most part we agree.. how ever i do expect my partner to treat me with respect..as i would do in return.. thats just me..i respect my self enough that if my partner was to disrespect me..i walk away..not saying if i'm in a relationship i would walk the 1st time he had a bad day and got a litle nasty.. but my self respect is that i would not continue to allow such treatment..altho i'm an out spoken person and tend to speak my mind so any one around me would know how i felt about a situation that included them and if it didn't change..not because i expect them to change..but if it didn't change as they knew how i felt..i would walk..because i do expect better for my self.. i don't dictate how people should behave or act..but to my self i have my own expectations and will not allow my self to be treated in a way i don't find acceptable.. think we are getting close to the same idea..on most levels tho.. ;-)
ya got that right..i have had some response..but mostly perverts and smart ellics.. and some i thought might lead to something and then they stop communicating or i find out they are leading on 100 others..just like the real world there are all kinds and sometimes on here it's a litle tougher to find out who is who and what they are about so be very carefull no matter what..i have also met some great friends..so don't give up..it takes time as mentioned..and just like everything else in life it might not work out in the time we want it to or hope for..but keep on haveing fun..don't try so hard.. seems folks are finding there way to each other when they stop trying so hard and start just enjoying life as is.. ;-) take care folks
and you should be able to depend on your self ,not need some one else to satisfy you..true.. but why allow some one to treat you wrong ? and a relationship should not be demanding..it should be giving..on both sides as a natural thing that you both want not expected or demanded but..just because thats how you feel for one another..
thats what i mean..those are expectations of my self..and if some one violates the way i feal i should be treated..should i put up with that ? that is like saying i should of let my ex husband keep beating me..because i don't have any expectations ..thats a crock.. i expect to be treated right as i do in return.. not saying that humans don't have good and bad moments.. and any one in a truely commited relationship should realize it's not always going to be perfect.. but theres no way i will let a "bad moment" turn into a continued thing in a relationship..thats what "I EXPECT" .. because i have self expectations..and i would never do that to another either.. and we are responsable for our own lives..yes so if we don't have self expactions, wich no matter what, will affect the people we involve in our lives and how we feal we should be treated..so expectations is not only how you treat some one..but how you are willing to be treated.. why setle for high expectations of your self and accept being treated badly..doesn't make sense....
by my ideal..i mean you should expect to be treated with respect and yes every one has there likes and dislikes and what they are willing to compromise for another and what they are not..every 1 is dif..wich is why expectations to a point.. is acceptable..also.. plus i also think that if you don't have some expectations you weaken your self..and then are more vonerable to being used and walked on.. so if we don't have standards.. you don't have self respect... the old saying.. do unto others comes to mind...
not that i ever post anything good.. but some folks like me may be on several days in a row..and then gone for a while..do to the fact they do still live in the real world..and work and go places and do things.
.even if i get lucky and find a partner. .ya'll can't get rid of me that easily! .
.i'll still be treading the forums when i get the chance and laughing with my friends.. ;-)
smart ones learn..some repeat mistakes..but then some folks are just slower learners..hehe
if ya burn your self on the stove..do ya do it again right away ? hopefully you learn and move on with out letting it stop you from moving on..let your self enjoy the experiences even the bad..because it benefits you later if your smart ;-)
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this is really bugging me!!!!
lol..thanks every one..i kinda figured thats the case..yet he still talks to me..we are friends.. and i won't say a bad word about him..he is a good guy.. i just hope i can really find some one for me..as i do hope every 1 here does to.. maybe i should go out with 1 of the guys i have known a while and try that..but i'm scared to ruin good friendships.. i don't really know what to do..this dateing stuff is scarey weather it's on line or folks i have known..oh well keep your fingers crossed..maybe i'll go out this week end.. lol