Do you need alcohol to express your feelings? (162)
Lionhearted1967London, Ontario Canada143 Threads 10 Polls 9,887 PostsI recently had a good friend of mine try to explain to me that it was hard for him to say what he feels, so sometimes he uses alcohol to help him say what he would like to tell someone but has a hard time doing it sober because he just hard to express himself sober. We are talking about intimate feelings here. I don't know if I really buy that though. Your thoughts?
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Well Lioness it is called liquid courage for a reason, I do not need it to express my feelings, but often my true feelings have been expressed while under the influence. However, it usually comes out different than it would have if I had been straight. This can be good or bad. Alcohol is strange, it intensifies the feelings you take in. If you are pissed, it gets worse. If you are happy, it gets better. I never drink when I am upset for this reason.
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Thank You Rhythm, good point. Do you ever say things you don't mean about love when you are under the influence? Not exaggeration but do you think you'd ever tell a woman you love them and not mean it?
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Well NO, not unless I really loved her. This is interesting. Now this was Morphine and not Alcohol. But after my car accident last year, I was in the emergency room and my ex wife came in, and I told her I still loved her....... But that was the truth, she will always have my love, although things didn't work out for us, she is a good mom and I will always love her in a way.
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He wouldn't have had to go to that extreme for a piece though, that's the thing. I find that sometimes when these people use their liquid courage they sometimes go back and use that as an excuse.
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Thank you for your reply. I am just trying to understand what he is saying. I am a very expressive person and I am just trying to understand the expressively reserved side.
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I think this guy is just a little gunshy maybe. He honestly means what he says but feels safer saying it behind a cloud of booze because he then has an option to use it as an excuse. What do you think?
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I think you should be careful, he should be able to express himself sober as well, or it could be trouble.... I have to get ready for work now, Have a good day and stay safe, we will chat soon!!! Cheers!
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Thanks Ryth, have a good day!
Anybody else feel they need alcohol to say what they are feeling?
Anybody else feel they need alcohol to say what they are feeling?
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god i have been in many a situation due to alcohol, so i tend to express myself when im sober lol
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That's a good thing Karine!!
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not me i tend to shut up when i drink cause ive put my foot in it now and then
i can express myself freely if i love the person and i feel that they love me
sometimes if a person has been treated badly before it can make them shy away from talking
i can express myself freely if i love the person and i feel that they love me
sometimes if a person has been treated badly before it can make them shy away from talking
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just before i go on stage to play in my band i need a few beavies down me as i get so nervous other wise i'm quite a confident bloke but i do like a few jars of an evening.
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You have an excellent poit Doogs. This person has been very hurt before and has told me he n=may have a distrust in women and has to work on that. He told me this sober!
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For me when alcohol is involved I get very brave. I am one who says what I really feel anyway but after having a few to drink I will tell you everything I feel. Good or Bad. I get a little crazy after drinking. However I would like to say I do not feel it is a good time to talk about anything serious in a relationship when alcohol is involved.
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I'm with you on that Babycountry. There is more credibility to a sober statement than to a drunken one.
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I am pretty good at expressing my feelings to but when dealing with someone who has a hard time with it things can be misunderstood alot. He told me when he lets the liquid courage work, he DOES mean evrything he says, it's just hard to say these things otherwise. He just isn't that way. Can anyone add input to this?
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no BUT!!! i do talk more when i drinkin but have learned that expessin anythin shold be done at pretti much the perfect mo
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sometimes, it's the other way around; to hide and perhaps forget about the feelings...til the next time..
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