if the money is a problem you could go halves on the fare.
Then after your first meeting then go travel to him.
Sounds as if your having gut feeling about this usually i think people sense things are not right.
If it dont feel right tell him and if he wants you he will do as you want no matter how long you have known each other . He well respect you to because you care about yourself.
Only go if inside you feel good about meeting him.
I think it strange he left cs just before you meet
and his reasons to leave is because he dont want someone to snap him up by staying here.
firstly you did say that dont judge and calling him an abuser was dangerous[ like labeling someone] because he could turn out to be a beautiful loveing person like your ex husband.
secondly i dont think this girl asked for giving her advice to not think this is a bad person for her.
If you dont think he abused her why bother to post as you know its a very upsetting thing she has gone through.
I hope she dont come back to this thread because some peoples views of domestic violence are sickening.
I dont think any one who has said go out again and hit him harder. They sound as if there saying good for you for sticking up for yourself and not let this man rule your life.
HE IS AN ABUSER SAYING HE IS AN ABUSER IS NOT DANGEROUS
THE DANGEROUS THING ABOUT THIS IS LETTING THE ABUSER STAY IN CONTROL
I think some coments here on this thread are very wrong.
I dont think galway asked if you think she was right or wrong , she just wanted to know if people have the same experiance as her and advice of what to do as she is beating herself over what happened with the slapping.
I think the young girl has been through the mill at such a young age. What we have to remember here is this is a 35 year old man having a relationship with a teenager. That in its own right dont seem right to me.
people saying they dont know the two sides of the story and use there words . It has looked like your making out that this guy might not be as bad as he seems .
The op dont need to hear this because she will be thinking maybe it is her fault and he isnt the bad person and let him carry on what he is doing to her, controling her telling her what and where she can go. Also now he knows she has fought back , that means he needs more power over her, so if she reads the comments of [we dont know this guy we cant judge] might make her fall into this where he needs more power over her and get more violent.
So i would say again to the op, dont listen to some here.
you dont owe him a thing , dont have any conection with him. When he trys talking to you ignore, even if he begs.
Your 19 years old you dont need this crap, you should be out enjoying yourself.
In the end when he knows his controling and power over you has disappeared he will move away.
Make sure too that you go to every pub bar where ever you want to go , you go.
I would not be obliged to him because he left northen ireland. He can go back if he wanted to. The way he sounds and calls you is live a power control freak putting you down for you to feel nobody will want you and everything you do is wrong so he has power over you.
Welldone for slapping him he had no right to talk to you in this way. If he is in the same place as you , dont be the one that feels they have to leave . Let him leave.
Next time he trys to talk to you ignore him and dont answer your phone to him.
Who the hell does he think he is?
Im glad for you you got away from him when you did.
Dont show him any emotion again the more you show him the more he has this power over you and he is not worth it.
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i just noticed something
i can see your logic of the use of a favourites list , but i still think people have the right to know who is watching you.not every one has the who viewed me list switched on.
I think also if people added you as a favourite im sure they wouldnt mind being known.
I also thought . What if someone becomes a bit to creepy and you block them then they change there user name and watch you?.