I've done it on occasion and yes my photos are rated even tho I seldom take a good picture. I'm a great person and have been told thus and women have told me that I'm not hard to look at but I am curious as to what the majority of women think. My love life is pretty much non existant these days and I just want to know if other people think I'm physically attractive or if the problem lies with some other aspect of my character or circumstances.
Having said that, other people's opinions of me are only a minor factor, I think I'm terrific and that's what's important.
I had this same experience also back in 2003-04. We met in the workplace and over time she made it obvious that she had the hots for me. I am a little slow sometimes to catch the signs but finally I got up the courage to ask her out and the romance caught on like an inferno. She bought me inexpensive but thoughtful gifts, sent me steamy emails, surprise phone calls, wrote me beautiful poems, and we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. We were inseparable and we talked about getting work together in another city and a place together. She seemed deeply in love with me and I definitely was with her. The following spring her old boyfriend came back to town and out of the blue she moved back in with him. He happens to be a millionaire and I can't help but wonder if I was nothing more than a winter fling while he was away. I was devastated and I hope I never go through that kind of hurt again.
I was on eharmony for 6 months and it was a waste of money. Firstly, just because you might have a lot in common with someone, that does not mean that either of you are going to find the other person physically attractive and I think we would all agree that physical attraction is a must if there is going to be a relationship. Then after awhile the site gets in a panic and matches you up with people hundreds if not thousands of miles away. What's the point???
As for POF, it is indeed very clicky. Maybe one quarter of the members communicate with another quarter of the other members. the remaining half are pretty much invisible. If you are not above average looking then you are wasting your time more often than not emailing anyone because more than likely your message will be deleted. I enjoy the forums there which is about the only reason I still have a profile there other than the faint hope that I might actually bump into someone nice and genuine.
My two biggest concerns is whether or not we will both pass the physical inspection and if the conversation will flow freely with no major awkward silences.
I also want to point out that women live longer than men. Becoming a father at say, age 50, who's to say that you are even going to be alive before they even turn 18?? Most children at that age or early twenties could sure make use of having both parents around, I would think.
My last date was a couple of weeks ago. We went to a chinese smorg for dinner and then the local auditorium to watch two country music impersonators do some classic stars. A man and a woman did the whole show, he did Marty Robbins, Conway Twitty, and an unbelievably incredible Roy Orbison; she did Tammy Wynette, Loretta Lynn, and a pretty darned good Patsy Cline. It was awesome and I really enjoyed this girl's company, too.
I've been back on the market for about seven years and it never used to be that hard but I have found that in just the past year or so it seems to be getting a lot harder. I am not sure what's changed.
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RE: What's up?
Yeh, the wierdest thing happened. All of a sudden my pic was replaced by Johnny Depp's and my mailbox burst open. Just kidding!!!!