O and as a side note - I am in my 30s now have dated a guy 18yrs my senior.... guess it depends on your taste and hers, as long as you both mutually agree then why not.....??
My sentiments exactly, it isn't about whether a piece of paperhas been issued, but rather their state of mind..... it is only truly over when they are emotionally detached!! As previously stated, my ex has been divorced 4yrs+ now and is as bitter as anything STILL! hence him being my ex.....
So hehadhis little piece of paper and it did us no good b/c he wasn't emotionally ready!
I have one set of friends that knew they moment they met and a yr later got married and are still together :)
But with my experience - I thought my ex was cute when he proposed after 3mths, but now I see all the signals that indicated he was not emotionally or mentally ready despite being divorced 4yrs ago!
I thought he was the one at the time too.....
Hence my previous comments about seperation/divorce not really being the issue, but rather his mental/emotional state!
What does your gut say? If there is the slightest bit of doubt- listen to it!!
noticed u r in Mel too, so if u wanna catch up for coffee and a real chat to discuss or just to call and talk feel free to hit me up by email for my contact details.....
does he talk about his ex in a positive/negative manner? or does he not talk about her at all? even though they have seperated does not mean they have to be disrespectful.... this will be a good indicator as a starter!
remember there are two sides to every story! and take huge pinch of salt with what either of them say! try not to get involved with their politics.....
how he handles himself around you and around her will also give another indicator.....there will be subtle signs!
o and by the way - the 'step parent' counsellors tell you, that for every year a child is that is how long it takes for them to warm to the new partner!!
I would agree, as my ex-step daughters were 12 and 10 when I moved in with their dad and it took a full 6mths!!
not always the case - my ex had been divorced for 4yrs and was as bitter as if it was yesterday! hence him now being my ex!!
previously I would have said wait for the divorce, but after my experience with him I guess I have learnt it doesn't matter either way..... some heal quicker than others!
so maybe the question should be not whether or not a piece of paper has been signed, but rather is (s)he mentally and emotionally ready??
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RE: age difference
having looked at your profile maybe the question should be:-Are you after the same things??
You want to settle down, yet she is only 17? do you think she really wants that?
The age thing may not be such an issue but for the fact you are ready to settle down........