Now Damnits thats my idea of comfort... having friends that are comfortable enough to drop in anytime...help themselves to what they want and just visit. Friends that I don't have to worry about if I am still in my nighty at 4 pm..hair on end.. and smelly breath cause I got caught up in my crafts. lol... its the inside that matters and those friends know me well enough to only care about that.. they know who I am after I shower too lol.
Now if I could find a loving man to have the same comfort with .. ahhh that would be life lol Friends are great.. but the tenderness of a lover and sweet kisses.. well my friends just can't give me. Even though my best friend calls us Lez-be-friends..JOKE.. just not the fulfillment i need lol. Karla
AHHHHHHHHHHH I had a feeling you were upset by my note.. at least I am assuming its my note your upset at. Well I think we ALL know the no one is perfect.. and yes I will admit that I took it the wrong way.. (blushing and feeling really , really stupid) ..heck I was having a real bad morning.. (goes back in time...writes a sweet note back instead of crap I sent).. Does that help????? (bats eyelashes..) I am very sweet when given the chance... and I can tell by your profile you are too. Hope ya come back soon so I can tell ya more.
Why is it when you think you know someone they turn around and do something totally unexpected??? Why do some judge you as a person before they ever really know you???
Every time I think I am talking to a great guy they turn around and shock the hell out of me. I am really beginning to wonder if there are any decent men out there to talk to.
Personally I am totally me when I talk to someone. No games.. and lets be honest if we play games eventually the other person is going to find out. IF the person is playing games and not telling the total truth thinking they will be themselves later on once we get to know one another.. problem with that is.. you are not letting the person see the real you because its all lies. Any men out there interested in ever talking to me. Lets save a few weeks and just be honest from the start. If you have a secret that you think is going to make me not want to talk to you be upfront. Let me or any woman be the judge. Don't lie and play games cause it wastes everyones time. Personally I don't have time for crap.
I received a short message from April saying that Rob is OKAY.. sick but OKAY.. so Ia m assuming all is looking up..just wanted to let ya all know your prayers worked.
Hey all April sent a message.. she has heard no more from his family so she is hoping no news is good news. If I hear anything more I will let you all know.
I am soooo sorry April.. I know you really liked him and were to meet soon. I will pray for both of you hun. Take care ..let me know as soon as you are able how its going.
Rainbow.. why did you take the class by yourself??? It sounds like your other half had just a hard time communicating. If you are going to make the effort to save a relationship both need to make the effort or it just won't work. Thats my opinion. My husband and I seperate because of communication. I could tell him everything and anything. He on the other hand shut down ..crossed his arms and stared at a wall shaking his head. That unfortunately made me mad. I wonder if they have communication classes here. That would be something to look into. I am a talker and if I am upset I want to talk about it and feel better. His reality was hard to reason with. Its like we would be watching TV and he had to pick the show apart because he would say "well thats just not possible!" and I would tell him its just a show. Its not real but he would go on and on and ruin it for me. No listening there. He also had an ex-wife who tried every day to find a new way to hurt me. From calling the police, childrens aid to actually calling our pastor after we got married. She brain washes his kids against me and tries to get them to lie against me. She even called his parents. I would try to tell him how I felt and try to get him to defend me and he never had the BALLS to do so. So hurtful and frustrating. I guess lack of communication , confidence and actually listening was his problems. Not that I am perfect. I know women that hold things in and dwell on them until they explode. maybe I seem over bearing or something but I talk about it then, when it happens instead of me building it all up into a fall out. Never worked though because he shut down and would not help work anything out. So in the end I sat there feeling alone and hurt.
I don't think you can have a relationship without being friends. I always thought the one you love with all your heart was supposed to be your best friend. If you can't tell your spouse everything and share like you would a friend then your not as close as you need to be. To me the person you end up being with .. well you should be able to always be yourself without worrying.. always comfortable and know that they would always love you for whom you are..no matter what mistakes you make.. lets face it... no one is ever perfect and we all take turns stepping onto the wrong path once in a while.. and everyone needs help being brought back into line.. friends are there to maybe remind you of who you are and what you stand for when you start leaning in the wrong way.
When I first came on here there was an ideal look that I was looking for and messaging and flowering. Well after a while I started reading the profiles and even if they do not like a BBW I send a flower anyway. Maybe we will like one another and if they don't want to repsond.. well thats their lose. How do they know I am not a great person? Lets face it ..a person is not based on looks. Love can always find you unexpectedly..though maybe thats what they are afraid of.. falling in love with a BBW and not being able to handle it or be embarrassed by it.. oh well.. they lose I guess.. if they can't have the dency to write a note back or try getting to know me.. to bad for them and I don't want anyone that rude anyway!!!
Thanks cute.. i will use Roys words lol "point taken"
Thing is like I was saying to Roy about people not wanting to take the time to get to know the inside of a person.. how many men out there are looking at a picture to decide instead of reading the profile and taking a chance to get to know someone and see from there.
BTW Roy you seem very sweet and think alot (does your brain hurt).. lol
What is all this crap about GAMES??? I am telling you women out there if you are playing games with men STOP IT!!!! Life is too short damn it and you are RUINING it for those of us that want men to trust us.
Well 12 is a tad young no matter how mature she is. I mean 18 and up well ok thats maybe acceptable. I like older men because of their experience. They normally are out of the party thing and more into commitment and have been through the being "hurt" and normally know how to treat a woman. I think ..lol
Life is tooooooo SHORT not to have love. Black, white, young or old.. bring it on. Personally I could use some LOVE myself lol.
How can anyone say this place is awesome??? Am i missing something??? I send guys flowers and one out of ten will send one back with a ty maybe. I send e-mail no response.. not even a NO TY. I meet one guy who dragged me in and told me he loved me more than i will ever know and then just stops talking to me. Then the nect just as I am about to give up treats me like a dog.. or maybe a woman from IRAQ.. whats so good about that??? Why are men so freaking ignorant.. I always respond to e-mails even if I am not interested. Plus you can never know by looking at a profile or a picture. Get to know the person.. you just never know right?
Is this forum like the movie RUNAWAY BRIDE with Julia Roberts... she was eating her eggs the same as each man she had been with liked his eggs instead of using her own brain for her likes and dislikes. I will try my eggs anyway. Some days I am for scrambled with cheese..some days its over easy cause I have to dip my toast in the yolk, sometimes i eat my eggs on toast with cheese and sometimes i put my over easy eggs on toast with bacon, cheese and ketchup and when you bite it the yolk runs all over your sandwich. There are just to many ways to have eggs that I love to pick just one. Oh ya omlettes are good too and there are so many things to have in them and oh fritatas are so good to with cream soup and potato and maybe some broccoli and or mushrooms..maybe a little green pepper. THis is a complicated question. lol
WTG Kandie.. good luck hun.. be careful.. think with your head and not your heart for a while.. don't let yourself be hurt.. be honest and if its meant to be it will.
Ya April I know it lol... of and BTW>.. I am dying today... talking to 4 am killed me lmao.. was tons of fun though.. now I am going to drag my butt all day..ughhhhh
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How long does it take to get to REALLY know someone???
Now Damnits thats my idea of comfort... having friends that are comfortable enough to drop in anytime...help themselves to what they want and just visit. Friends that I don't have to worry about if I am still in my nighty at 4 pm..hair on end.. and smelly breath cause I got caught up in my crafts. lol... its the inside that matters and those friends know me well enough to only care about that.. they know who I am after I shower too lol.Now if I could find a loving man to have the same comfort with .. ahhh that would be life lol Friends are great.. but the tenderness of a lover and sweet kisses.. well my friends just can't give me. Even though my best friend calls us Lez-be-friends..JOKE.. just not the fulfillment i need lol.
Karla