you would be right except for one thing. there are a lot of people, man and women alike, who use love as a minipulative tool to decieve and use another person for there own selfish wants never intending on staying true or returning any affection.
I opened my heart, loved true with everything in me and was just used, lied to, cheeted on, and left to pay the bills.
Love is to care more about the needs of your partner than the needs of yourself. and if your partner loves you the same then nether of you will want for unfulfiled need.
you are right and i still love all,,,, no two,,,,,, sory one of them very much and she is the one I loved in highschool, we where best friends but when I told her I loved her she laughed and thought it was a big joke. She ended up marying a great guy and is still maried with grand kids and all, I am very happy for her and would wish it no other way. the other two, well they lied cheeted and so I figure I fell in love with the fanticy they sold me and not the real persons because if I knew what they where really like before, I would never have gotten involved with them.
Hi, I am sincere, sometimes Im sincerly funny, sometimes Im sincerely thoughtfull, sometimes Im sincerly deep and I hope some day I will be sincerly in love with a great lady but untill that hapens I will settle for the first three.
ah sory about that, It happens. I never thought Id get divorced but when she came home pregnut with another guys baby and wanted to go live with him to raise there kid, I didnt figure I had any options.
this sunday I went on a date, a first date with a lady from CS and we met for the first time. she had her sitter back out and had to have her 5 yo with her. I bought them both lunch and enjoyed getting to know both of them. I admit I would not want her to take him along on every date but Id rather see her take care of her kid than neglect him on my account. It shows her values are in the right place. Side note, We got along well and will most likely see each other again. I only wish she did not live two hours away.
so cherry, you are 40 and have never been married, I am woundering why. you are attractive, seem intellagent and nice enough, why has no guy gotten you to take the plunge?
Men actualy dont see it as a ball and chain, That is just an expression we use to joke with each other, We also call each other fat ugly slobs when we are greating a best friend. Men, well most men I know anyway like the idea of being with one special lady and knowing I am the only guy in the world who is lucky enough to be close to her. That is what marage means. It also means we can relax and be ourselves, we dont have to impress anymore but just love and be loved without pretence, games, or question. I would love to have such a relationship some day.
I love the idea of marage, My grand parents, both sets celabrated over 50 years, my parents had over 50 years and still going, I always dreamed of some day haveing a 50th anniversery but I have realized that will never happen now but I still love the idea of being with someone for the rest of my life, making a commitment and knowing they are just as commited to me. Unfortunately people take that commitment too lightely and divorce is too easy.
Wouldent it be great if we could get to know everyone on such a level and not be overwhelmed by phical atraction and end up making stupid choices based on lust.
I have every reason in the world to be bitter and anger at what my ex wife and my ex girlfriend did and the way they treated me but I still have a cordual report with my ex and we talk about the kids and what is best for them. The kids get to see both of us, have a relationship with both of us and they dont have to suffer with us fighting and cutting each other down all the time. Some kids see that all the time with there parents and it hurts the kids more than anyone else. My ex and I agreed right from the beginning that though we had our differences we would not put the kids threw such a thing. As a result my kids are healty and well adjusted.
Everyone on CS has had there heart broken probably a few times. The only way to not have your heart broken is to not let anyone in and that would be a very sad way to live. I myself was very bitter for a time but I got over it. I still have my scars but Im not angery anymore. Now I can talk about what happened as a matter of fact and not an emotional trama so I can try it again if the right lady takes an interest. That is how life goes.
we where maried for 8 years, well I was maried for 8 years, she was maried for only 2. She cheeted was preg with somone elses baby, and for some reason I was a littel upset about that so we agrued and I asked for the ring back as it was a simble of love and comitment and she obviousely didnt have eather one. I didnt really expect to get it but I did. Well I guess I won that one.
The only thing I asked back from my ex when we split was the ring, We where arguing and I told her that the ring was a promice of love and commitment and since she is the one who cheeted and broke that bond that she should return the ring. she was so mad at that point that she took off the ring and threw it at me. I picked it up and hid it away. the next day she came to me and apologised and asked if she could have the ring back. I asked what she planed to do with it and she said she would save it and use the dimonds for special things for each of the kids when they got maried. I told her that is exactly what I had in mind and since it was safe there should be no problems.
of corse she has poned everything she took from the house and Im sure she would have poned the ring too but ha, the dimonds will be used for the kids as planned,
Wen my ex left with all the hooplah and stuff involved I spent 6 months crying aobut it, 6 months wining about it, 6 months accepting it and 6 months adjusting to life as it is now. that was a long time ago and life for the most part has been pretty good since but I had to have that time to go threw the phases of getting over it. perhaps some people on here are in that process.
I would be a Mt goat, they love hight peaks in the mountains, are very dedicated to there familys, they are strong and gracefull, deal with adversity with ease, they are dificult to get close to but one you do you notice how amazing they are.
funny how most of the girls responses are describing me to a tee but all I get told is " your too nice" or " your a great guy for a friend" and even sometimes " your too good to be true I just dont believe your for real"
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Not only get hurt but finish last, but thats who we are, and that is life
RE: Is Love a game of chance?
you would be right except for one thing. there are a lot of people, man and women alike, who use love as a minipulative tool to decieve and use another person for there own selfish wants never intending on staying true or returning any affection.I opened my heart, loved true with everything in me and was just used, lied to, cheeted on, and left to pay the bills.