Hi Tomboy......You are much younger than I am. When I was your age I wanted it all too. I was divorced in 1969 and had a young child to take care of and even though I dated many men I decided not to marry until she was an adult and on her own. By the time she went to college I no longer wanted marriage....just a boyfriend. Had several of them but eventually I lost interest when the last one took me over big time.
And I agree that if it was me I'd rather have an unwanted pregnancy than STD. There is always around pregnancies but an STD you give your life away for ...like Boban says....6 minutes of fun Ain't worth it to me. If he doesn't have an umbrella for his noodle, we won't be cooking that night.
If the man loses 200 lbs., such as they do on the Biggest Loser program, he would have to have plastic surgery to remove the excess flabby skin. If not for estetic reasons, then for hygiene reasons.
Whether you liked the person or not, he/he is still a human being who has feelings. If you tell them in person you are less likely to use hurtful words whereas if you write an email, you might say something you truly don't mean.
DR, I feel for you and am sorry that you know you made a mistake.
I've learned the hard way that when I want to send an email, regardless of the subject, I write it and then hold onto it until I'm sure it's what I want to do.
Immediate gratification can turn around and bite people in the butt especially when we don't think of the consequences.
I'm not one to beg or grovel but is there a chance you could write to him again and explain why you wrote that email. You must have had a gut feeling about him when you wrote it. Are you sure you're not thinking you made a mistake because you are alone. If you decide to write to him again, think hard about it before you do, otherwise you might make another mistake.
I handle it the way I would want him to treat me.....I tell them during the date or as we are walking out of the restaurant that I don't think there is a connection between us.
I have been in this position. The reason I tell him right away is two-fold: (1) I felt I would be saving him rejection on the phone; (2) I didn't want him to call me.
By telling him right away he won't think about me and I think he is more likely to understand that it was a meeting of the minds and not a romantic date.
That's a good idea and I hope I remember it the next time an unwanted kiss starts coming my way.
I do care about being politically correct because it also encompasses peoples feelings. I've seen way too many times on CS when someones feelings got hurt, including mine, because of what someone said. It's easier to be nice than to be insulting.
Both Nottoo and Polarbutterfly are from Canada and both are huggy, kissy people. Personally, even though I'm not into that, I think its a warm way to show your guests how much you like them.
Good for you guys <--------- I do hugs in the forums and I like to get hugs but I'm not comfortable giving kisses to people other then those I mentioned.
RE: Tiger Woods, my theory.
It already is a sticom on CS. This is the second thread on the subject