If you read my threads you may now realise that I dont believe its easy, this has been agonised over for the last 2 to 3 years between my sisters and me and my mothers wishes came out on top.
And she is still got her way even though its not the best for her. (she keeps falling over, braking bones, black eyes,bruised and battered and doesnt have company for the weekends)
Yes im in a similar situation I have 3 sisters that have a view also, my view has never changed it was 3 to 1 against me 2 years ago and now its 0-4 in favour of my original statement.
My mothers wishes even though not based on her best interests take precedence, for now.
Its not a case of burden, its a case of,"Would you want your child to live a life of servitude when a professional care-giver can do the same job as you do".
I feel the same, I dont think its a case of selfishness its a case of wanting a life. I appreicate that some will disagree but I look at it from all points of view, My mother would not want me to throw my life away when a professional care-giver can do the same job.
P.s. sorry for the hard time I give you earlier, I left a jokey reply and was jumped on, so I fought back.
I know what your saying and im not disagreeing with you, Yes parents did take care of us and to care for them could be the rest of our lives litrally.
I would'nt want a child of mine to sacrifice their live in caring for me, I would want them to live life to the full, a professional carer can do all thats required and the kids can visit when they can.
It is an admirable quality but I think that couples have the right to enjoy life, it may sound selfish but we only get one chance (except Hindus, that keep coming back). So ill vote no (let the experts do the caring) and ill visit as often as I can.
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RE: Believer Bashers
Forgivness is the way to the lord!...option 'B' a swift kick in the nuts............