There are two guys that I dated just recently told me they liked me both on 3rd day. I figured 3rd day is the standard timing for them to say the word. Lol
I myself always prefer odler men ( 7-12 years older would be best for me) coz:
1. Young guys are not mature. They tend to play around, to get experience with as many girls as possible before they get old.
2. Young guys are more shallow. Most of them go after look rather than inside beauty ( until the day they realise they are wrong).
3. Young guys are not stable. They have lots of ambition still and not willing to settle.
4. Older men are more mature and knows what they want in their life, what they want in a woman after all the years of dating experience.
5. Of course when they get old, they are more stable and more willing to settle with the woman they are serious about.
6. Older men are more life experienced thus younger girls will be attracted to their calmness and wisdom.
7. And this one is only for me, I have a strong interest in people, culture and history which I figure that not many young boys are interested to ( while older men are).
For me love and trust must come together. I must trust someone before I love them. If I trusted him and found out he cheated my feeling would be gone naturally. Its easy for me I dont even have to work to forget him.
Hey as you are not dating anyone now, I dont think you are cheating. But I guess you should control your feeling. For me I will feel low if I was doing something like this with my ex.
Hey the story is that he asked me for dinner that Sunday night supposing he would be coming back to my city from his trip that night after one week away. Then he wanted to cancell it to spend the night with that guy ( his only night in my city). And he told me he was still on the bus and could not make the dinner. I was finding out he was not on the bus but actually in the city.
Hey dont get me wrong. I was just seeing him for a month without any commitment. Then when he come i stipped it. There is nothing wrong with it, right?
Not, Im not desperate and not lonely eitheir. Actually I was dating another guy before I met him. When I met him I dropped the other one for him and he knew that
well Im so sad that everyone is thinking of negative motive that makes me even more desparate. I am confident about myself to place in his heart too. I am an educated girl who is smart, funny and very caring. I am good looking and kinda attractive too. ^^ Yet I believe that I have my own qualities to get into his heart. ( its just not the other way around).
yes thanks much for the sharing. I guess I wanted to let him know my feeling before he get back to see what he wants. This guy is such an introvet and I always have a hard timing figuring out what he is thinking ( he confesses that many of his last girl friends had the same problem too). I guess I've been in love with him and long to be attached to him and trying to do anything I can now before too late. If his feeling is not there I will be alright to move on. But I need to make sure I am working on it before let it go.( then no need to regret later)
yes I am not convinced he is in love with me too, but I believe that he does care much about me and on his way figuring out his feeling by himself too. He is very smart and handsome. He is a lawyer and the collegue of a friend of mine. I met him on his 9th day in here and we spent almost all of the weekends together. While we got away on weekend trips together, he was sick for several times and moved by my attention and care, I can tell. He said he broke up with his last girl friend 1 year ago and I connect him on facebook seeing nothing wrong about that.
BTW, there was something happened a few days before this incident. He was telling me lie and I found out that. He wrote me an email explaining things and it seemes he doesnt want to let it go. He will be back at the end of this month. So I think if he have been cheating on me for these two month, he will take this chance to run away.
yes in this case many may think so but we did talk about how to get together after his assignment ( he even tried to get a job here too but the pay is too low for him to accept. And I also believe that he care deeply for me.( but not sure about love yet)
Hey buddies, please help me out. I guess I did a mistake here. I was dating this guy for two intensively. I said intensively coz we were spending almost all of the weekends together since we met. The problem is that he is here for a short term assignment and will be back home soon. That's why we tried to figure out if things work between us before we can commit and continue a long distance relationship ( which I am not sure if he really wants to do yet).
Some days ago when we were spending the time together, I said I love him and his reaction made me worry a lot. He said "Why are you telling me this?". ??? I really have no idea what he thinks and tried asking why he said that to me after I said the word. However, he didnt answer and said it could change things ( I guess in a negative way). Then he said maybe its a culture thing and its not a big deal ( anyway I dont think he really means it). I am an Asian girl and he is American by the way.
I read some stuff online and aware that guy is supposed to say the word first. If woman does it, it may frighen him away. Is it true in my case? I guess he still want to work on me but not sure what will happen after this.
sweetiepetie Forum Posts (22)
I am the smart woman then. :) I have a millions of reasons for dating an older man.
RE: What do you do after the 3rd date??
There are two guys that I dated just recently told me they liked me both on 3rd day. I figured 3rd day is the standard timing for them to say the word. Lol