I said I love you and he was cranky (91)
i guess someone is already waiting for him back home... u managed to fill up his short term assignment well....for all yaa know - i may be wrong. 
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two months sorry
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yes in this case many may think so but we did talk about how to get together after his assignment ( he even tried to get a job here too but the pay is too low for him to accept. And I also believe that he care deeply for me.( but not sure about love yet)
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Firstly, what do you know about this man?
Only using the information you've supplied. I would suggest that this man may be using you for companionship while he is in your country. When he said 'it could change things' tells me that loving you was not a part of his plan. The 'culture thing' sounds to me like an excuse, a way out for him.
I may be wrong and I hope I am. It certainly won't be the first time. All the best to you.
Only using the information you've supplied. I would suggest that this man may be using you for companionship while he is in your country. When he said 'it could change things' tells me that loving you was not a part of his plan. The 'culture thing' sounds to me like an excuse, a way out for him.
I may be wrong and I hope I am. It certainly won't be the first time. All the best to you.
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sweetiepetie: Hey buddies, please help me out. I guess I did a mistake here. I was dating this guy for two intensively. I said intensively coz we were spending almost all of the weekends together since we met. The problem is that he is here for a short term assignment and will be back home soon. That's why we tried to figure out if things work between us before we can commit and continue a long distance relationship ( which I am not sure if he really wants to do yet).
Some days ago when we were spending the time together, I said I love him and his reaction made me worry a lot. He said "Why are you telling me this?". ??? I really have no idea what he thinks and tried asking why he said that to me after I said the word. However, he didnt answer and said it could change things ( I guess in a negative way). Then he said maybe its a culture thing and its not a big deal ( anyway I dont think he really means it). I am an Asian girl and he is American by the way.
I read some stuff online and aware that guy is supposed to say the word first. If woman does it, it may frighen him away. Is it true in my case? I guess he still want to work on me but not sure what will happen after this.
Pls help.
Thanks a lot everyone
Some days ago when we were spending the time together, I said I love him and his reaction made me worry a lot. He said "Why are you telling me this?". ??? I really have no idea what he thinks and tried asking why he said that to me after I said the word. However, he didnt answer and said it could change things ( I guess in a negative way). Then he said maybe its a culture thing and its not a big deal ( anyway I dont think he really means it). I am an Asian girl and he is American by the way.
I read some stuff online and aware that guy is supposed to say the word first. If woman does it, it may frighen him away. Is it true in my case? I guess he still want to work on me but not sure what will happen after this.
Pls help.
Thanks a lot everyone
it may just be saying the words put him under some pressure, hope you work it out
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Sorry but i have to agree with Blues and Smiling Assasin.............Good Luck to you though!!
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BTW, there was something happened a few days before this incident. He was telling me lie and I found out that. He wrote me an email explaining things and it seemes he doesnt want to let it go. He will be back at the end of this month. So I think if he have been cheating on me for these two month, he will take this chance to run away.
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Tell us more about this man. Where in the US is he from, what is the nature of this assignment?
Sometimes a fun, casual relationship can come apart when one party falls in love before the other one does. From what you've said I am not convinced that he is in love with you. I'm sorry but if he was, he would have reacted very differently than saying this changes things.
Sometimes a fun, casual relationship can come apart when one party falls in love before the other one does. From what you've said I am not convinced that he is in love with you. I'm sorry but if he was, he would have reacted very differently than saying this changes things.
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Sorry... but it sounds like he's not the only one on a short term assignment.
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yes I am not convinced he is in love with me too, but I believe that he does care much about me and on his way figuring out his feeling by himself too. He is very smart and handsome. He is a lawyer and the collegue of a friend of mine. I met him on his 9th day in here and we spent almost all of the weekends together. While we got away on weekend trips together, he was sick for several times and moved by my attention and care, I can tell. He said he broke up with his last girl friend 1 year ago and I connect him on facebook seeing nothing wrong about that.
He is from Denver, CO ( for your information)
He is from Denver, CO ( for your information)
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Blues63: Firstly, what do you know about this man?
Only using the information you've supplied. I would suggest that this man may be using you for companionship while he is in your country. When he said 'it could change things' tells me that loving you was not a part of his plan. The 'culture thing' sounds to me like an excuse, a way out for him.
I may be wrong and I hope I am. It certainly won't be the first time. All the best to you.
Only using the information you've supplied. I would suggest that this man may be using you for companionship while he is in your country. When he said 'it could change things' tells me that loving you was not a part of his plan. The 'culture thing' sounds to me like an excuse, a way out for him.
I may be wrong and I hope I am. It certainly won't be the first time. All the best to you.
I think so too.
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sweetiepetie: yes I am not convinced he is in love with me too, but I believe that he does care much about me and on his way figuring out his feeling by himself too. He is very smart and handsome. He is a lawyer and the collegue of a friend of mine. I met him on his 9th day in here and we spent almost all of the weekends together. While we got away on weekend trips together, he was sick for several times and moved by my attention and care, I can tell. He said he broke up with his last girl friend 1 year ago and I connect him on facebook seeing nothing wrong about that.
He is from Denver, CO ( for your information)
He is from Denver, CO ( for your information)
Hi there
I did the same thing once. I misread the signals he was sending, was a little sleepy and just mumbled it. I think it scared him into another zip code, as I knew he didn't want a serious relationship. After that I felt pretty stupid and started distancing myself from him.Just let it go now. What's done is done. There is nothing to be gained by agonozing over it. If he does care, he will let you know. If he doesn't, there's nothing you can do.
But I wish you all the happiness and love in the world. Who knows, he may get home and realize what a treasure you are! Don't let it sou=r you for the future. Keep hoping and dreaming. If he's not the one for you, the right one will come along when he's supposed to.
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yes thanks much for the sharing. I guess I wanted to let him know my feeling before he get back to see what he wants. This guy is such an introvet and I always have a hard timing figuring out what he is thinking ( he confesses that many of his last girl friends had the same problem too). I guess I've been in love with him and long to be attached to him and trying to do anything I can now before too late. If his feeling is not there I will be alright to move on. But I need to make sure I am working on it before let it go.( then no need to regret later)
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well Im so sad that everyone is thinking of negative motive that makes me even more desparate. I am confident about myself to place in his heart too. I am an educated girl who is smart, funny and very caring. I am good looking and kinda attractive too. ^^ Yet I believe that I have my own qualities to get into his heart. ( its just not the other way around).
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ooby_dooby: Tell us more about this man. Where in the US is he from, what is the nature of this assignment?
Sometimes a fun, casual relationship can come apart when one party falls in love before the other one does. From what you've said I am not convinced that he is in love with you. I'm sorry but if he was, he would have reacted very differently than saying this changes things.
Sometimes a fun, casual relationship can come apart when one party falls in love before the other one does. From what you've said I am not convinced that he is in love with you. I'm sorry but if he was, he would have reacted very differently than saying this changes things.
Yeah, what is his shoe size? That definitely will determine if he loves you back.......
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sweetiepetie: well Im so sad that everyone is thinking of negative motive that makes me even more desparate. I am confident about myself to place in his heart too. I am an educated girl who is smart, funny and very caring. I am good looking and kinda attractive too. ^^ Yet I believe that I have my own qualities to get into his heart. ( its just not the other way around).
He saw something in your eye's that very few people ever live to see.I am a complicated person,and every one on cs. knows that!They allways ask thereself'what in the hell is conjor trying to say,and they put words out there that was never written by me.They just put those words out there so that they can avoid the real truth!He saw truth in your eye's sweetie,and very few men there be'That ever live to see that!When,and if they do;It blows ther mortal mind......
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conjor: He saw something in your eye's that very few people ever live to see.I am a complicated person,and every one on cs. knows that!They allways ask thereself'what in the hell is conjor trying to say,and they put words out there that was never written by me.They just put those words out there so that they can avoid the real truth!He saw truth in your eye's sweetie,and very few men there be'That ever live to see that!When,and if they do;It blows ther mortal mind......
WTF?!
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Liebe2: WTF?!
I am still waiting for our opointment dear.Remember?You were suppose to give me something bad.
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^^^^^^^LMFAO
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Some days ago when we were spending the time together, I said I love him and his reaction made me worry a lot. He said "Why are you telling me this?". ??? I really have no idea what he thinks and tried asking why he said that to me after I said the word. However, he didnt answer and said it could change things ( I guess in a negative way). Then he said maybe its a culture thing and its not a big deal ( anyway I dont think he really means it). I am an Asian girl and he is American by the way.
I read some stuff online and aware that guy is supposed to say the word first. If woman does it, it may frighen him away. Is it true in my case? I guess he still want to work on me but not sure what will happen after this.
Pls help.
Thanks a lot everyone