hey, thanks mate. wnt and had a look. a few there were a bit annoyed at the " poor me" types,which i fit to a tee. so ill leave it...thanks a lot anyway
habe tried police in 3 states, vic, nsw, and qld. when i was put in the induced coma a intensive care nurse was so helpful, her b/f was a policeman and nothing come up , he did a full trace( limited as he would need clearance) and nothing came up, mind you my daughter wasnt 18 and my son was 19. this can only tell me a few things. my kids have never been in trouble with the law and the names i gave didnt show driving licences or learner permits for either, that means 2 things, trhey havent got licences or their names are definitley changed that nurse was wonderful, as was all the nurses in my 30 odd stays in the last 3 yrs thankyou for the suggestion tho
" you dont get it" what exactly dont you get? I AM DYING, LUCKY TO HAVE 6-12 MONTHS.thats why i came here and asked. i have tried to answer those questions made to me in an open way but because someone said something that really upset me , everyone her is doing nothing but tell me how wrong i am. i have stated this a few times...... just imagine its you, 2 kids you love, lost to you in the world somewhere and then your handed a death sentence. in desperation and in a way trying to reach out someone says, they might not want to see you? think about that...........again i stae they were 4 and 1 when i last saw them and what they know of me is from their mother. yes sure they might not want to know me but i have a right to find them and tell them my side. look at the big picture, not i am wrong , everyone elseis right.........not one of you has put yourself where i am at and tried to look at it from my side...not one of you
i hear what you are saying, and like you i ahd left things alone for some time, but since i was diagnosed with my illness i cantafford to wait till they are ready. i was prepared for that wai. i chose not to be involved with someone else or have children with another a to me it would feel like i was betraying them by having another family. this is my beleif only , i do not put down anyone else if they chose to move in that direction. as i say i was willing to wait no matter how long it took but time is not a luxury for me. thankyou for your comment
how did i attack women??????? i defended myself against an obvious and blatant attack against a man, and i defended myself against you, not women. grow up and have another real good look at what you popsted and then just for a moment what it would mean to me. get a grip and think about what you are going to post. hurting someone is easy when you are on a computer. you have no idea whats it like and what you said was extremely hurtful. after what i wrote in response to your comment i half expected an apology but no, you attack again........ nice to see im dealing with a real sensitive type. thanks for adding your opinion here. it doesnt seem to matter you hurt someone in process. nice work
like i said , if i were a women that comment would never have been posted and if a man had written it there would be an uproar. i beleive i had given very open honest and genuine reasons why i want and need to see my kids. Q: would it be fair for my children to think that their father had left them and had never wanted to be in their lives?????
my brother, who died on the 29th of june, ex g/f was told many lies by her mother about her father. she waited till she was in her 30s to find him, when she did she found out he had passed away and thru his widow she found he had always loved her and had sent a letter a week to her via her mother for 22 yrs, she confronted her mother and her mother confessed and showed all the letters that she had kept but never showed her. she was left heart broken and now has an estranged relationship with her mother. so yes they might want to know me. rememeber they are still very young and havent had the insight or maturaty to find me yet but i cant afford to wait till they are ready
fair question. i will try to explain. the seperation and divorce was not a pleasant one and my kids were hurt emotionally with my ex playing games with saying i could se them and me turning up and she calling the police. it lasted like that a few months. before you jump down my throats, you women can get an a.v.o. or restraining order at a drop of a hat so dont get me going on that issue. after a few months i tried the family law court, that is also a bloody joke concerning fathers. she made claims that i threatened the kids and abused my son.............I DIDNT!......... But the claim was made and my son suffered because of that. MUD STICKS and i had a little girl then, what if she claimed that???????? so i left it for a few yrs and wnt bush and just worked. every single women claims they would never use kids as a weapon but you all do when it comes to hurtintg you ex. spoken to so many men and have had so many i know kill themselves because of that. before the ladies attack me. i am not talking about all men being innocent in relationships and divorce and whatever, i am only talking about what women will say to police and the courts for their own ends. my wife joined a communty womens group and that group was disbanded and their goverment money stopped because they were telling women what to say to their husbands and the police and the courts to discredit and to harm husband/fathers relationships with their kids. remeber this is the early 90s. she has had 3 marriages and four step fathers and used all those names for legl reasons.....is that sane?
no, no-one in my family has seen or heard from them. as stated i have spoken to my ex via email from another site and begged her to let the kids talk to my mother. she is their grandmother and the only grandparent those kids have and my mum lives in melb and im on gc. my ex just wont answer and my mum has heard nothing. no-one has heard from her since 1994
hi all , all your suggestions are great but they all have one theme......names........as stated in both my postings, i do not know their names and i have tried all the above suggestions. my wifes family, sorry ex wifes, are all , lets say disposed, her brother is mentally ill and has been since his teenage yrs and is in 24hr care, her father is dead and he mother was an alcoholic when i met her the first and only time. my ex has had 4 step fathers and 3 married names. she has used all these name in her life. i looked up births and deaths and my kids still had their birth names but once 18 they can change them and i have no legal right to know the new names. i also have found that a child can be registered in school under any name a parent chooses, so my kids could have grown up under any name and legally changed it at 18. this is why i have asked here. all your suggestions i have painstakingly tried for the last 4 yrs
hi awesome. money is a big blocker, i being on the disability pension is all theincome i have. to be honest have seriously thought of getting back on the road but with my condition chances are i could collapse at the wheel and that would be the last thing i want. day to day living is areal struggle also.
have tried facebook but being so young i have no idea wht they look like or what names they use. all i have is an idea that they may live in adelaide but thats just a guess
hi, yep its me again. can anyone give me suggestions on helping me find my children. all i have is their birth dates. very messy and bitter divorc 17 yrs ago and wife disappeared with mey very young kids. they are now 18 and 21. have tried, all the usual ways, salvos, legal cant do anything as they are of age, internet, even late night radio talk back. theonly lingk i have is my ex wfe, kids mother, thru friends united web site so dont even have her email. she will not answer my emails and she does know im ill but unsure if she has told the kids. i believe the kids names have been changed. tried facebook, my space, google, plus other ways. are there any coppers here or something like that. please i am desperate to find my kids. i love them dearly. any ideas would be appreciated. mick
might surprise you, have just recieved or first container of shoes today from the states and there were some eco shoes in them. so tell me exactly what you are after, and dont worry, u dont have to date me...lol
not to throw water on the works, but i know i needed to give up, and i should but been told i am terminal anyway and guess what its not because of smokes , its heart disease and smoking had nothing to do with it. i know its an excuse and in a lot of ways i want to still give up but its the only way i can handle whats going to happen to me in the next cpl of years. wish all of you want to quit the best of luck and like someone else said, it will help the social situation these days
but hey, im still bloody lovable.......i love myself at least once a week sorry
hi, i have just decide i am going on a cruise early next yr. just wondering if anyone is interested on going on one as i am alone and to go as a twin share or more is so much cheaper. just wondering if anyone has the same thought but couldnt afford one alone.let me know and might be able to organise one
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finding my children
hey, thanks mate. wnt and had a look. a few there were a bit annoyed at the " poor me" types,which i fit to a tee. so ill leave it...thanks a lot anyway