No,I've been waiting for the coppers to haul my daddy away someday!lol.No,seriously,I most likely wouldn't lie for anyone in my family.I don't have children,but that would be more difficult,and might depend on the severity of the crime if it was a theft and I'd want to protect my child from the jail system which I believe can make people come out even worse,the so called "jail mentality",but that would involve some really deep heart to heart talks.But if it would be a brutal crime I would never try to "protect" anyone who did something brutal to someone no matter how much I loved the person who committed the act.
I think I didn't have many standards or ideals when I was 20,whoever would ask me out was good enough,now at 30 I think I have built up some standards and it definitely has to do with some past "mistakes".I didn't get my needs met in past relationships all that much,now I insist on a more fair relationship instead of hanging around in an empty relationship because there's nothing else,now I'd rather be alone than mistreated,when I was younger it was more "any kind of love was better than no love at all"Oy,I'm glad I've progressed from that.
Yes,I believe so,but sometimes I think it has more to do with a person's pride,you know,like a person will have in mind certain ideal ways in which to meet someone and if s/he meets someone wonderful in a way in which s/he does not think ideal,and is uncomfortable telling people they met that way,that for sure has an impact on the relationship.
No,I don't think it's working much at all,or if it does it's often too late,you know,like watching for the crime after it's happened.Here people don't even report anything anymore because the cops are so blase about everything,won't help you get your stolen property back or anything.There was a kid that was smiling and saying he was "having fun" when he shot another person in the head,he got 3 1/2 years in jail for that.To me that guy was sick and should locked up for a very,very long time.
Your questions are valid,I simply don't know the answer,I just know there are people who think I am promiscuous,and some of the men I have dated have had an issue with my lifestyle,and wanted to know if it's common for other people to have an issue with it? I really don't think anyone should dictate how many partners a woman can have.It's something of a nuisance to me when one partner of mine suggests I devote only to him and I haven't even known him very long,it's a possessiveness that some people have and I personally don't think it's right.
Oh,I'm not angry.I don't care much about forums,I was just curious about opinions and then trying to explain what my question meant but I don't think anyone cares anyway,so oh,well.
He left in the middle of the movie with some ordinary excuse I can't recall and went outside and cut his wrists with a piece of glass he found on the ground.(He was ok after,btw.)He was a cutter,apparently.
I think it has more to do with a person as an individual,regardless of gender.If your partner thinks you're being dishonest or secretive I think it would be best to really think about why you are uncomfortable disclosing certain information to this person and maybe question why,if it is a new relationship,this person distrusts your personal discretion.To me,in my personal opinion,not wanting to tell all to a new partner is something that should be respected.
I recently fell in love with a man,I'll be honest I hadn't known him for long,but I was shocked to feel those intense feelings for him. He apparently wasn't as interested in me and I could have accepted a straightforward rejection from him,I'm not a possessive person when it comes to love.However,he felt the need to lie to me in order to cut off our connection to each other.I feel really demeaned now from being lied to,it was a lie that was pretty much insulting my intelligence.Not only do I have to cope with the shock to my system of falling in love after all this time and the sadness of being rejected,but being lied to really pisses me off,and I don't know how to cope with that anger about his lie.I've been forcing myself not to contact him and let him know,because I don't want to drag the drama on any further...Have any advice?
Yes,I do that often.Some people just want the real,live experience of getting to know someone,especially if that person is living in the same city.I also like being given an ultimatum,it forces me to be honest,and I can give a straightforward yes or no,and it will be accepted without any questions or manipulations.I was told by one man that I was "aggressive".I don't mean to be pushy but I just know what I want and if the other person is not wanting the same thing sometimes I can't seem to express it as politely as I could that I need someone who's on the same level when it comes to meeting,and I'll feel kind of bad then,that maybe I could have worded things better but the impatience I have will speak for me sometimes.It's not out of disrespect for people's boundaries,is what I mean to say...
I used to date much older men than myself.None of the usual reasons assumed such as money,maturity,respect,etc.had anything to do with it.I just couldn't relate to men my age when I was younger,I was more mature for my age,always seemed older than I was.Men my age didn't want me-is a blunt way to put it.Now,I go for much younger men and I find I have been treated much better by younger men,(my own personal experience not to be taken as a broad statement)so maturity and respect have nothing to do with age.I don't understand the disgust people have over it all.I think it has to do with people defining beauty as smoothness of skin and some kind of ideal of how younger people are supposed to live out their youth and how older people are supposed to be modest and humble...like how I used to think I had wasted my youth with all those much older men...but what the hell does that mean?There will never be an ideal way to be,live or love at a certain age whether young or old and there will never be a universal ideal of who loves who.
Oh,us dreamy poets trying to be creative and just making a fool of ourselves instead....Oh,well,at least we give you something to laugh at,breaks up the boredom...
Disadvantages: -If they have a photo;they can show up looking nothing like the photo.Even if they are attractive it causes this feeling like you've been lied to somehow. -You can meet someone from a dating site,go on a few dates but if you only keep in contact through the site they can suddenly remove their profile without a word and you never see them again and never know why they disappeared. -People can claim they are single and you just take the chance of believing them when they may actually be in a relationship,even married. -Assumptions that your profile is a representation of your whole self,that it shows your whole personality and not just a few aspects of who you are. -The person can be very kind and friendly in their messages but turn out to be rude and inconsiderate in person.
Advantages: -If you're really shy and find it hard to meet new people in social settings,online communication before meeting is a great way to break the ice. -You can meet great people who,for whatever reason,you may have simply passed by on the street without a second glance. -It can almost be like blind dating sometimes and the element of surprise can be really exciting and fun.
HairyAngel Forum Posts (18)
RE: Innocent!!
No,I've been waiting for the coppers to haul my daddy away someday!lol.No,seriously,I most likely wouldn't lie for anyone in my family.I don't have children,but that would be more difficult,and might depend on the severity of the crime if it was a theft and I'd want to protect my child from the jail system which I believe can make people come out even worse,the so called "jail mentality",but that would involve some really deep heart to heart talks.But if it would be a brutal crime I would never try to "protect" anyone who did something brutal to someone no matter how much I loved the person who committed the act.