I read this quote recently and it really got me thinking about our beliefs. ‘The most powerful thing you can do to change the world is to change your own beliefs about the nature of life, people and reality to something more positive…and begin to act accordingly –Shakti Gawain.
Wow, can we do that? Change our beliefs, is that possible? I mean we’ve held onto them for a long time, some of us still have beliefs from the time we were growing up.
Ok so we have beliefs and some of these we have had for a long time, so permit me to ask you a question if I may. Are your beliefs serving you? Are they working for you, or against you? Do they bring you closer to being the person you really want to be or further away?
I really feel that we need to get our beliefs working for us because from our beliefs comes our expectations and from our expectations comes our reality. What we expect for ourselves we usually get. Most negative beliefs can be exchanged for more positive ones.
My example of this is myself. I grew up feeling very unloved, unattractive and stupid. My mantra to everything was ‘I can’t, and I formed some awful beliefs about myself. I believed that I was unworthy, I mean if my parents couldn’t even love me, there must be something wrong with me, mustn’t there? I believed I would fail at everything (my father helped me to re affirm this to myself regularly) and I lived up to his low expectations of me every time. So my beliefs were that I was not good enough and that I was not loveable. I won’t entertain you with the gory details of what went wrong in my life, but I can tell you I made one big mess of my life, I failed at everything, right up to approximately one year ago.
So what changed? I did. I changed my beliefs about myself, and like a domino effect, I changed my beliefs about my reality, the people around me, the circumstances etc. etc, and what happened? Bingo- my life changed, for the better. I became me. Oh happy day!
I can happily tell you that I do feel loveable and worthy now. I affirm to myself that I love and approve of myself daily, and now I believe it and act accordingly. If we use our imagination when we affirm and really get into what this would feel like, and start believing it’s possible, it works like magic. So if you want to change some part of your world, start with yourself. When we learn to love and approve and feel worthy ourselves, this has a very positive effect on the people around us, we have much happier relationships etc. When you believe in yourself, the world will believe in you.
Now watch the magic happen, you love and approve of yourself (this is not to be confused with being vain or arrogant, I remain modest and somewhat humble, while also being confident) you are worthy, now you know you deserve the best for you, your opportunities are unlimited, now the excuse of not being good enough is removed, who do you want to be? Go be it! The people in your life, who you attracted because you felt unworthy, may be a bit put out, their job was to help you reinforce your low beliefs of yourself, and now you feel real good about yourself, what will they do? Well maybe they’ll find someone else to help, while you’re busy attracting the people into your life whose job it is to help you reinforce those good feelings. You will start attracting the type of people who want to see you up, not down, who are interested in seeing you succeed. Who want the best for you. As time passes you will become more aware and will recognise them when they arrive. Surround yourself now with positive people and things, change your beliefs to positive ones, get your beliefs working hard for you, and the only way for you will be up.
So tell me, are your beliefs serving you?
I found a beautiful photo for my computer; it has a wonderful vibrant blue sky in it, some lovely yellow sunflowers, and the words ‘Find your joy, and share it with others’. Every day when I read this, it reminds me of my mission, my purpose for living; to share my joy!
It’s funny how a few little words can put us back on track. I’ve been collecting quotes and inspirational sayings and also posting them on my facebook pages for quite a while now and I’ve just decided to frame a few, and place them around the house. As I pass them they’ll give me little inspirational boosts throughout the day. Last year I had a few pinned on the wall in my bedroom, and when I was feeling a bit low, the right one always caught my eye, just when I needed it!
As I sat down to pen this article, I thought, ‘Now how exactly can I help others to not only find their joy, but encourage them to share it too?’ This is not an easy question, but hey I like to shake the cobwebs out of my brain every now and again, so here goes with my humble suggestions!
I always like to lead by example whenever I can, so I guess I’ll begin with what makes me joyful and perhaps you’ll get some ideas from there!
Well as I’ve mentioned, reading quotes and sharing them with others makes me joyful. I carefully choose the ones with positive messages, in the hope that they will make a difference to the person reading them.
Smiling, yeah I know, very simplistic of me, but since I learnt to smile regardless of what happens, I have felt joyful. I get up and smile. It’s inside me now. I’m not mean with it, I give it to everyone I meet, even strangers, and there has been many a sad face I have brightened up with my smile, so hey find yours and share it, see what happens.
A sense of humour is a must. I do not take my life or myself too seriously. Don’t get me wrong I’m not a reckless sort of a person, I read a quote by Gilbert K.Chesterton, ‘Angels can fly, because they take themselves lightly’, and we can have wings also, if we take ourselves lightly too. Lighten up, enjoy your life. Laughing and smiling are great for relieving stress, and I have photos to prove this, you’ll look younger if you smile and laugh a lot, I look younger now than I did ten years ago! I find something to laugh about everyday; I look for the funny side of life often. It brings me great joy!
These are some of the simpler things we can use to find our joy and share it, if you’ve got some talent, share it with the world, shine your light, sing, dance, paint, write, take photos, act, the list is endless, but let someone see what you can do, don’t be shy ! Hide it under a bushel, NO, I’m gonna let it shine!
So hopefully after reading this you’re on your way to finding your joy and you’ll be more than willing to be generous and share it too now won’t ya ?
The Oxford Concise Dictionary defines the word ‘Kind’ as meaning ‘of a friendly, generous, benevolent or gentle nature and showing friendliness, affection or consideration etc’.
Have you ever given this much thought? I mean the dictionary’s definition would suggest that kindness is a sort of a disposition or a natural tendency. We may refer to people as being kind because it’s in their nature, but is that just a good excuse for the remainder of us not to consider being kind? Can anybody be kind even if it’s not something that comes easy to us? Can we learn to be kind? Do we want to?
If we want to become ‘kind’, how do we begin, where do we start? If we begin with the ‘intention’ to be ‘kind’, or if we ask ourselves ‘what is my intention? ’on a regular basis in all matters, this may give us a good starting point. This question can really throw back some amazing answers. Say for instance you choose the above intention; you may then ask yourself ‘in what spirit am I doing this?’ Am I doing it in the spirit of love? So you now have an intention to be kind with the spirit of love. WOW! What will happen next in the course of time is that you may start to think differently, and then you may start to act differently, because everything you do and say is in the spirit of love, you will constantly question your thoughts and actions to check if they are in keeping with the spirit of love (and kindness)
You may find now that you will make a big effort every opportunity you get to bestow random acts of kindness on yourself and others. You may surprise yourself by giving sincere compliments easily; you may offer your help or a listening ear to someone who needs to talk. You may surprise someone you really like or love, with a small gift or flowers (it’s better to give while the person is alive than at their graveside) you may smile more often at friends, relatives and strangers. You may find yourself doing things you wouldn’t have done before, little things like cleaning up litter outside your or your neighbour’s door, instead of grumbling about how dirty your street is. This can have a chain effect, as some people won’t want to be the one left with the litter outside their door! This way of thinking changes not only ourselves, but those people around us and hey, it’s good for the environment too!
So share your thoughts with me on this. Has your kindness or someone else’s impacted positively on your life. Has it made a difference? I hope it has.
When you arise in the morning and the suns not shining, can you be excited about the scent of the rain, or the anticipation of the wind playing with your hair? (Or your clothes, if you don’t have hair!) Do you greet your day with passion and energy, knowing that whatever happens, that you will handle it, you will get through, no matter what?
Do you awaken with the intention of sharing your love and light with all? Or do you cast shadows on all you meet?
Can you smile anyway, everyday, even though sometimes your heart is breaking, because you know there are others out there who need your smile today?
We have choices everyday. We can make each moment meaningful, we can add light to our world, we can help uplift, motivate, inspire, encourage ourselves and others or we can meet out world with a vengeance. We can spend everyday trying to get back at the world, because we’ve experienced hurt, we lash back at someone else, as if that makes things better, and still the hurt sears our hearts. We can be ungrateful, moan, complain and gossip. We can hurt everyone with our poison, or we can supply an antidote –LOVE. Yes love heals all.
We can choose to meet our world with love today, we can choose to rise and be grateful for all we do have now. We can smile and be kind to ourselves, our family, our partners, our co workers, strangers, neighbours etc. We can choose to be unselective in our kindness and love and decide that it will be given to all today, with no expectations of return, with no obligations attached.
Or we can be glum, growl the words thank you and not mean them. We can scowl at everyone we meet. We can be a victim of circumstances if we like, just repeat this mantra
‘Oh poor me, what have I done to deserve this?’ all day long. We can drag everyone down that we meet, with all our illness stories and burdens and problems. And hey well done, we’ve achieved something here, we’ve added to the world’s misery, what a legacy!
Having been ill last year, at the beginning there was a temptation to sink into the victim mode; I was going for a lot of hospital tests, each one more terrifying than the last. But something clicked within me, and even though I felt awful, I went out and got my hair done, and then I bought myself some new clothes. Okay so I wasn’t getting any sympathy, people started commenting on how well I was looking, and you know what? After a while I did begin to feel better. And then I began to focus on being better, it was a choice you see. Oh and, I’m better now, luckily for me.
Our attitude good or bad will determine our experiences. Oh I’m not saying you will get better if you’re ill and you change your attitude, you may, you may not. But I think we add to our own suffering sometimes. We make the passage more bearable, when we don’t moan and groan!
Ok so the menu is on the table. What’s your choice for today? Are you going to make each moment meaningful, or are you going to wallow in self-pity? Today this moment, this minute, is your opportunity to add something positive to your world. What’s it going to be? Mmmmmm………?
I don’t know about you, but for my part, I’ve spent the best part of my life bumbling around not really knowing what I wanted, and the results of my confusion, was, surprise, surprise, confusion ! Yes a life times worth full,a mixed bag of results, mostly stuff I didn’t want, oh yes and lot’s of frustration and unhappiness too! And I’m not just talking about partners here, it included everything. I’ve worked at a variety of different jobs. Always searching, never finding.
Until last year, when I realized somewhere within all the heartache, that I had a choice, to go on repeating my life as I had always done, or I could start a new pattern.
I read motivational books and as a result of what I read I came up with this, it works for me, so give it a go,if you’re lacking focus or direction in any part of your life.
Get a pen and paper, go where you won’t be disturbed.It is important,it is your life we are talking about.
On separate sheets write your titles, Relationship, Job, Money, Hobbies, Travel, Home etc.etc.Take the first for example. Relationship, write...my ideal partner is… caring, passionate, honest,etc.Please note if you are not honest yourself for example, there is no point looking to attract an honest person, we must already be what we seek in others or we won’t attract them, or if we do it won’t end in happiness,so be truthful,or change your character and be consistent in your change.Next… my ideal job pays me a decent wage and I have more than enough to pay all my bills and enough to enjoy leisure time, my ideal hours, location… etc. Note no negatives, I haven’t mentioned what I don’t want, only what I do want. Sorry techy bit here, our subconscious minds believe what we constantly tell them, over time the more we focus on the things we do want, our little minds get real busy trying to find ways to make this become our reality. No I’m not nuts, I have a years worth of wonderful experiences I could share with you to prove this works.
Now you should be a little nearer to actually knowing what your ideal life looks like, now don’t sigh and throw it in the corner in frustration. Assuming you kept your ideals fairly realistic that is, you could have a cuppa and browse through one or two. Firstly can you believe it is possible for you to have a life like this? Believing is the first step to achieving. If you’re not sure, have a closer look at what you want.
Take relationships. If you’re single, what action can you take to attract your ideal partner? Write down a few ideas like, go out more, new hobby, dating site etc. If it’s a job, what do I need to be to get a job like this? Do I need training, do I need to approach an employer, do I know anyone who already works in this area, or could I write to the company and ask advice on how I could get employment there. Be creative. Ok, so draw up an action list. Now you may find that when you do this, that the things that seemed important are not as important now, and that’s ok, it’s your life. Focus on the important stuff for you and get going on making it happen.
For those of you in an existing relationship it could be a thing where you sit down and discuss regularly what you both want from each other, to keep the partnership alive and vibrant if possible, or as in my case, sorry hate to say this, call it a day and move on. I don’t encourage relationship break ups, but sometimes when too people move too far apart in what they want, they at least need to discuss their options. Life is too short to be unhappy.
Take some small steps every week towards your new goals, it may be putting a small amount by to save for a course, or reading some information to find out more, but slowly but surely if you persevere, and are determined, it will happen for you. Look at how a stream wears down rocks… persistence always wins. We give up too easily.
Ask yourself what do I really want and go after it.
‘Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed!’- Jonathan Swift (quote) Well I just laughed when I read this, and its true isn’t it? And maybe also a little bit sad too.
‘Sad?’ I hear you ask, ‘why sad?’ Well, because we do have expectations don’t we? We expect people to treat us with manners and respect, we expect our partners to be faithful and loving etc. etc. And I feel that these are reasonable expectations to have.
But what I want to discuss today is ‘Expectations’, the ones we create ourselves, the ones we make up ourselves and stick rigidly to throughout our lives.
You know, the ones that say things have to be this way or that way, and when they aren’t, we feel hurt or upset or disappointed, by our own making, I must add, because everyone is different, and so we all have made up different expectations, and this is why when we meet people or partners for the first time, it is probably not a bad idea if possible to discuss what we expect things to be like. And it’s probably a good idea to re visit these expectations from time to time to keep our relationships in good condition, as we can change our expectations without letting the other people in our lives know, and then we are hurt and disappointed and angry all over again when we don’t get what we expect, and then we feel that we are not understood, and this leaves the other person feeling somewhat baffled into the bargain!
So is it good or bad to have expectations at all? Well I guess that’s a personal choice, but having been through all of this for many years, I have recently come to the conclusion, and what is working for me, is not to have rigid expectations. I am allowing things to happen at their own pace. I no longer stand up and say this has to happen this way. So I’m finding things very different. It’s a little scary at first, because you’re kinda letting go of controlling things. But it’s about being open to possibilities happening differently to your preconceived ideas of the way things should be. And things are happening to me in my life that probably wouldn’t have happened before, and it’s all good, so I have no reason to complain.
Another area where we have expectations is in the area of giving. Sometimes we give with the expectation of receiving something in return, it may be a compliment or a gift or our time and we bargain in our heads, if I do this he or she will do that. Or we may be stingy and say they didn’t do or say this so I won’t do or say that. People if you’re on this tit for tat path I urge you to try another trail, because that path leads somewhere away from the village of Happiness, I can tell you.
Again, I recommend giving without expectation of return and see how things change for you. Try saying to yourself I lose nothing when I give a compliment, gift or my time. Expect nothing and you will not be disappointed, but you may well be surprised at some stage!
When I was a little child, I used to play a game with my friends. I don’t recall if we had a name for it, but it went something like this….
Someone would hide an object and as the searcher got further away from finding it, the other person would say’ you’re getting colder , you’re freezing’ etc. etc. and as they got closer to finding the object, the other person would say ‘you’re getting warmer, you’re boiling’, it was good fun. We spent many a happy hour or two playing this game.
Now, I’ve had a very challenging year, there’s very little of the ‘me’ I used to be, left, I’m just not the same person that I was last year. I have changed so much, mind, body, spirit, some of my old friends hardly know me.
Over this past year, like this game I mentioned, I’ve had to constantly ask myself the same questions, ‘Am I getting warmer? Am I getting nearer to what I really, really want. ? Are my thoughts, words, actions, bringing me closer to, or further away from where I want to be? Are my motives and reasons correct? Are they for the highest good of all, or are they little oul me being selfish? And no, I can’t tell you that it gets easier to answer these questions the more aware we become. But I can tell you that we can make happier choices depending on our answers.
So many questions come with change, I can look back and remember a time when it was too painful to think, because if I started to think, then I would have to change, and the thoughts of that were nearly worse for me at the time than to stay in the painful state of numbness, sadness, illness etc that I was in.
But the time did come when it was more painful to not change, and life came and asked me to dance, and I decided to say ‘yes’ this time because I’d spent most of my life saying ‘thanks, but not this time, I’ll sit this one out’. And yes I can see why people will stay unhappy; I can see why they won’t make changes, I can see why they will remain with closed hearts, closed minds, angry and resentful at a world that denied them their dreams, and I want to say, ‘I UNDERSTAND YOU, I was there, not so long ago. And I want to tell you that life is very short, to be blaming the world for what you’re missing, when you can actually do something about it yourself, today.
We can take our excuses to the grave if we like, or we can awaken and ask ourselves ‘ what do I really, really want ? Visualize it over there in front of you, not too far away…. Now ask yourself ‘ Are the thoughts I’m thinking, are the words I’m saying, is the story I’m telling, are the actions I’m doing, right now, bringing me closer or further away from what I really, really want ? Am I getting warmer? And if you’re not, if you’re answer is no, maybe, just maybe this would be the best moment to ask yourself ‘WHY?’
Isn’t life a bit like an airport? Lots of ‘Arrivals’, people coming into our lives, lots of laughter, people leaving our lives ‘Departures’, lots of crying. Some feelings of dread and fear perhaps. Feelings of happiness and love and joyfulness. When I think of an airport though, I think of the excitement and the anticipation of the journey as I usually know where I’m going.
My life though, hasn’t always been full of excitement and anticipation; I haven’t always known where I was going. I feel that I have been taxiing around the runway for most of it.
Oh I’ve had many dreams, but if you’ll excuse the pun they never really ‘took off’. I never up to this point even wondered why, until I listened to a CD called ‘The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz the other day. He had a wonderful terminology which summed up the reasons for all my ‘failures’ or ‘lessons’. It was ‘Excuseitis’. Yes I’ve used every excuse in the book to explain why I couldn’t do something. I was too stupid (I left school at 15) I was too old, I hadn’t got enough confidence, I was afraid of not being good enough, I hadn’t enough money etc, etc.. When you provide ‘good’ excuses you are opting out of life really, you are cheating yourself of a wonderful, exciting, challenging, liberating experience.
I’m sharing this with you because I’ve changed, if you want to change too: Visualise this: You’re standing on the runway you have a ‘Destination’ (dream) in sight, it seems very far away, but you start to walk towards it, slowly at first, maybe you’re a little anxious, but as you think of yourself as being already there, you begin to feel a little excited, you think how wonderful it is. Now you’re starting to walk faster, you’re beginning to learn some of the things you’ll need for when you get there. You’re getting more excited. Now you’re nearly running, still focused on that destination, things start happening in your life to support you, you are amazed. WOW. You can’t believe how things have changed for the better in YOUR life. Now you’re running so fast with arms outstretched to embrace life and all its opportunities, and then you notice something you hadn’t noticed before. You’re flying. Destination in sight, you’re flying, and it’s beautiful, and you are enjoying this journey, because you know now where you’re going, you are enjoying the scenery and life is a wonderful experience to enjoy and although the destination may take hours, weeks, months or years to reach, you know where you are going and you know you will get there eventually and WOW it’s exhilarating!
I’m sending you all a post card, it says ‘Wish you were here’, because life is so amazing from where I’m looking at it. I’ve found destination ‘me’. Will you join me on the ‘runway of life’ and find destination ‘You’?
‘Nobody can hurt me, without my permission’ –Mahatma Gandhi (quote)
Isn’t this an interesting quote? Doesn’t it make you think? Well it made me think about how people get hurt.
Now, I almost agree with this quote in the sense that I feel it is our attitude to people or situations which will ‘allow’ us to feel hurt or not. And to a certain extent we can choose not to take offence, or we can choose to be less sensitive. We can choose to be reactive or to be proactive. We can choose to be more aware of what is going on. We can adopt the attitude of not taking things too personally; we can learn to not assume things, but to seek out the real facts of a situation instead, whereby we have to face the truth rather than fiction. All this will lessen our chances of finding ourselves in a position where we can give our permission to be hurt.
But even with all that, I feel that it is still possible to find ourselves feeling hurt by other people and situations and also to inadvertently hurt others too, so how does this happen?
Is it that we are not honest enough with ourselves or others? Do we know what we want when we enter into relationships or situations? Or do we assume everything will be ok? As if others can already read our minds and know automatically? And do we tell the people who are important to us what we want or expect from them from time to time? No, I think we don’t. Are we afraid to open up to others in case they see us lacking in some way? It’s no wonder some of our lives are in such a mess! I’ve been there, done that and worn the tee shirt!
I’ve found myself in many situations where I have felt hurt and perhaps hurt others, and in other situations more recently where I chose to see things differently and I believe the following points helped me and maybe it will help you too.
• Be brutally honest with yourself right now and write down what you do want from your relationships and situations. If we don’t know what we want, then we give a message of confusion to others and we will receive a message of confusion and uncertainty back.
• Now be honest with the people in your life. No, it’s not easy and most of us run and hide from this rather than face it. Some people won’t want to face or hear the truth, but if you want to avoid hurting yourself and others, it is better to be honest and upfront about everyone’s needs in situations. Try and discuss openly what needs and wants you both have, and come to some kind of halfway balance, so that everyone involved feels that at least some of their needs are being met. Maybe it’ll reignite the spark of something wonderful to come, or maybe it will just clear up the confusion between both parties, so you can best decide how to interact with each other in the future, or not, as the case may be.
I’ll leave you with a saying I came across recently. ‘The truth will set you free… but first it will p**s you off!’ – (Unknown)Keep your sense of humour, you’ll need it!
Ah tis nice to be nice, for any motorists out there, have you ever been sitting in slow moving traffic, nobody's goin anywhere fast, and out of the goodness of your heart you decide to let that car out in front of you, and they blink their lights to say thanks, and you feel good, and then you notice that car lets someone out in front of them too, and you feel connected somehow and you wonder will they do the same, and they do.. And you're on a happy buzz of niceness...because you're a nice person, right?
And then the mean thought comes into your head. You think, bloody hell, if this keeps up, I'll be here all day! And worse, you think, I bloody started this! Now you can choose to get mean and stay mean and never let anyone out in front of you for the rest of the day.
Or you can continue to be courteous, because you're a nice person? You may well find if you stay nice, that somewhere along your journey, people will start letting you out too! But hey don't blame me if they don’t! I hope you all have a nice day, everyday, and that you don't get stuck behind me in traffic, because I'm nice! :)
When I was thinking about writing this piece, I recalled the words a boyfriend had uttered to me long, long ago as we discussed breaking up. He said ‘Paula, I don’t think I can make you happy’, and although I didn’t agree with him at the time, I laughed when I remembered this, as he was so right! He couldn’t have ever made me happy! Why?
Because no one can ‘make us happy’ and we cannot ‘make someone happy’ either. Happiness springs from within, and I believe that it comes first from learning to love and accept ourselves unconditionally and then from developing a grateful heart.
When we are viewing our world in this way of love, we are happy within and without. People, circumstances, the weather, set backs, let downs will only affect us temporarily as we will be ‘happy’ anyway. In this happy state, we will learn also to be grateful for the people etc in our lives, we will recognise that everyone has something to teach us; even if it’s not something we particularly want to learn right now! We will learn to love and accept others unconditionally and therefore eventually ridding ourselves of judgements and prejudices.
So while I may enjoy your company, while I may look into your beautiful face and listen contentedly to the lilting of your melodic voice as you speak to me, while you may warm my heart with your wonderfulness, and I see that you are a reflection of me and I am a reflection of you, I realise that we are only contributing to each other’s happiness and in recognising that people can be happy together, we must also recognise that if they or we, are not already happy, there will be something lacking, a void that they or we will forever seek to be filled by one another. I speak from my own experience as I recall failed relationship after failed relationship. Each one a lesson in it’s own right, but steadily bringing me closer and closer to the revelation of what was wrong of what was missing.
Know thyself, to thine own self be true, learn to love yourself first, then there will be more than enough love to share with others. Be grateful, and then you will recognise the value of what you do have. Learn to accept, learn not to judge, rid yourself of prejudice, mark these on your road map of life, and you will find yourself on the road back home, and when you get there and open the door you will find ‘happiness’ waiting within to greet you.
Recently I’ve been remembering the way I used to think, and I just had to share these thoughts with you.
Now maybe some of you will resonate with this, I used to say things like, oh yes I’d love to do that course, I’d love to learn photography as a hobby, I’d love to learn how to paint properly, maybe learn how to do fantasy art, I’d love to travel more… I’d love to, I’d love to, I’d love to…. Wait for it… sorry, I cringe when I say this…WHEN…. I’m older, when I’m richer, when I retire… cringe, that’s at least 20 years away from now! And at least 25 years have passed, since I first started using the ‘WHEN’ word! Scary!
I have gone through some amazing shifts in mental attitude, but this realization has brought me great freedom and joy. Perhaps it was the practice of meditation and mindfulness that really brought it home to me. It was the practicing of living in the ‘now’ and making sense of what that could mean for me in everyday life that clicked with me. If I was to really live in the ‘now’, then all the excuses to not do something NOW would have to go wouldn’t they? Well that’s how I reasoned with it anyway!
Okay, I can hear some of you already, sayings things like ‘yeah that’s all right if you win a few million, and then you can make your dreams come true’. But I’d like to say to you, that it doesn’t have to be that way. We can step towards our dreams today, if even only in a small way.
When I drew up my new blueprint for my life ‘NOW’, I realised that I don’t have a lot of money right now, but that I do have a big interest, an enthusiasm, a passion and a desire to do these things, so a little thing like money won’t stop me getting to where I want to go. I learnt a valuable lesson recently, when I complained to someone that I couldn’t afford something, their wise reply was, ‘you can if you put by ---- - every week, it just means that it will take you longer’. Oh yes the child in us rebels at this, we cry, and stamp our feet in a tantrum and scream ‘but I want it now!’ But if we are patient, we can actually get what we want, either by putting a small sum of money away every week until it accumulates, or by reading a small amount of information every day about a subject we are interested in, or by doing a small affordable course that will lead us to our big goal in the end. Or by trawling the internet, there are many sources of free information to be obtained. Libraries are great places too!
I’ve started doing small courses; they’ll lead me in the right direction. I’ve started taking photographs, no I don’t have a big fancy camera, but I have a camera, and I’m using it, now. I’ve even paid off some bills, bit by bit. So are you going to put YOUR excuses away? I need to ask you, ‘What are YOU waiting for?
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