When I joined CS, probably like most of us, I was looking for that special someone, my soulmate. But in the process I'm meeting people in the same boat as myself. Because we have that in common we share experiences we've had online, both good and bad, and have become friends. I'm enjoying this unexpected pleasure because a few weeks ago I didn't know anyone on here. Now I have friends I care a great deal for. I really didn't see this coming. And although I'd still like to meet my mate, it somehow doesn't seem as pressing a concern. I'm happy to spend time with my friends on here.
Also just a thought, Have you ever thought that it is easier to tell a friend who lives in another state or country things you wouldn't tell someone in your own area? It seems that way to me.. Yep, this is pretty cool
Dan
I'm having a ball here. But I noticed the other day how many times I appear as a thread author. Sometimes I wonder if I'm posting too much? No one's said anything and everyone seems to enjoy them. It just looks like I might be starting to hog the show a little. If I am please tell me..
Thanks
Dan
I still consider myself new here. I'm starting to meet some quality people and suspect some may turn into good friends. And I'm enjoying the forums too. Their great!
I posted this because, in light of the difficulty associated with LDR's, I'm curious to hear about people who have really close friends online whom they've not met. I ask this because, as much as we all want someone to hold close at night, a lot of what we want is another person to share with. It seems those needs can be met with online friends and would like to hear of some of your experiences..
Dan
Recently I was chatting with a woman from here. We seemed to hit it off and I have to admit, it was very pleasant. We talked for hours, 7 the first night, 12 the next day. Eventually flirting began and then it became more. Long story short, on the third day she told me she was falling in love with me. I didn't see that coming and was uncomfortable with her saying it. I also felt confused and wondered if had led her on or if there was something wrong with her? But if something was wrong with her I would have noticed something during all those hours of chat. I saw no flags and don't believe she was a scammer. The feelings were real and after I didnt respond by telling her I loved her to, she started just saying "I love you" the way someone will do when they want to hear you say it back. This was more uncomfortable and I began to pull back. Finally I had to hit the ignore button and get away for a couple of days. When I talked to her again today and tried to explain myself she said ugly hurtful things as if she were a woman scorned. This whole thing lasted less than a week and ended as fast as it began. I feel bad about hurting her and feel responsible. Looking back I think I should have seen the extreme emotions showing so fast as a flag and pulled away faster than I did.
I guess, like everything else, this is a learning process. That will not happen again.
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