Maybe it's because I spent most of my time life independently and in so-called modern culture. Or maybe it's because I'm 38, childless by choice while it seems every other woman I know is having a baby. No matter the reason, I was genuinely surprised to read the many researches study showing that the number of independent women who are skipping out on motherhood has nearly doubled since last decades.
Personally, I was happy to see that more women feel free to forgo childbearing. But not everyone shares my enthusiasm, even my boyfriend also wonders about this topic. There is still a belief now that denounce childlessness as bad for society.
Still, a woman who chooses to remain childless continues to face a series of negative stereotypes, from claims that she's selfish to implications that she's too career-minded and self-centered to remember to breed before it's too late. But clearly there are upsides to childlessness.
I believe most felt their desire not to have children is perfectly normal in one side and were frustrated by stereotypes about women's biological clocks and the universal desirability of children on the other side. Many children are treated bad or abandoned. Some live their entire lives in foster care and moved from one family member to another. I note how many people I have known who had kids simply because they thought it was what you do, and now make their children suffer for it. Not everyone will be a good parent. More people should be child-free.
Not only did the childless not see their choice as inherently selfish, some friends argued that the choice to have children could be considered selfish in some cases. At some point I almost agree that my attachment to my disposable income and somehow addicted to travelling could be considered selfish but said, on the other hand, "When I ask friends of mine who have/want kids what their reasons are, the answers range from 'I don't know' to 'I want someone to love me' to 'I want someone to take care of me in my old age,' which are not only also selfish but poorly reasoned."
Could these childless women, includes me, be harbingers of a new world, one in which parenthood is considered an active choice and not simply the default state of adulthood? As the a research shows, childlessness was once the domain of the highly educated, but now every other segment of society is catching up. Perhaps future generations will look at phenomena and wonder how it was possible that anyone could have once cared so much if some women chose not to have babies.
JMO
Having both mental, emotional, physical, and verbal abusive parents towards their kids (under the word "discipline"), I fail to understand why some of the people want to have children.
Over the years, I have tried to build the relationship with my parents but I always ended up with anger, upsetting, and painful until recently I realized that the only way to deal with them was to avoid them because mental health always comes the first and the biological attachment will not always ends up happy ending.
Having geographical distance for couples is really a challenge to keep positive thinking and trust.
Few days ago I met a friend who supposed to get married but he decided to cancel the marriage after the lady accused him having another woman due to less frequent of telephone communication. Interesting that he said "I loved her but I couldn't resist on her negative thinking about me. I didn't even think of having another affair!"
Although I don't have picture in my profile, often I receive lots of emails and flowers. It really makes me wonder why some men are interested in written profile only ...
Oh my! I really love him !
I can fall in love again
And that woman loves that man too.
It must be amazing
Perhaps I watch few romantic movies these days
Have you ever get tired with your profession / job and desperately wanted to change into other job which more interesting?
Last year I finished my mentally-tough and tiring-assignment and very frequent (too much) traveling across the continents. I almost thought to give me long break: going on holiday or learning something new or whatever which can refresh and relax myself. Then here it is the beginning of the year which I was forced to take that break.
I start to ask to me IF I really want and am able to enjoy this long break. On the other hand, if a company offers me an interesting challenge, with my tiredness, am I capable to take the responsibilities?
It will be easy in writing or reading but in reality and practice, it is damned difficult when the reality is in front of us.
Tell me and share with me your tips!
Meeting an ex-classmate after years not seeing each other brought me a joyful and cheerful time, indirectly boosting my morality in this short daylight and winter time in addition to what happening in my life at present.
She picked me up from my studio with her car where I could read a small sticker "Each day provides its own gift" and "God Spede"
It is an old english saying which means "be wise" although some says "get everything done and run fast". I do appreciate the wisdom words in her car.
As far as I get the sense of people who try to find new job or new partner, they want to have everything fast (include me as well to some extend!). Today I begin to think that fast is not always the quickest way to success, at certain degree it doesn't guarantee speedy happiness in relationship and quality in the work. The companies which achieved the success are not the ones who grew the fastest, the successful person are not the ones who are in the hurry, and the great happy couples are not the ones who are rushing into everything.
The best is knowing when to go fast wisely and when to go slow. As somebody ever told me "The ability to go fast becomes counterproductive when you try to do everything fast. The joy of slow teaches you to discern between business and wisdom, effort and grace, progress and truth. Slowing down can help you to stay true to your vision during the fast times. Slowing down can help you to sharpen your focus, adjust any blurring, and be more perceptive. In fact, going slow can help you to go fast better"
I regularly read in various CS forum's threads and blogs about scammers, difficulties to find partner(s) or even friends, disappearance of potential future "soulmate" etc etc.
It is strange that the number of CS members are growing although - we know that the lucky ones - who found their love ones - are not that many compare to ones who gave up or are still searching and looking ...
I decided to edit my headline to:
"Nice, educated and adventurous woman looking for LAT (living apart together) with no strings attached"
I am really curious what reaction I am going to receive from others; either they are going to freak out or attract more attention (from scammers) or something surprising will come up or even nothing.
Well, this is the fun advantage to have a profile in CS
It has been uneasy with mixed feeling when I heard my abusive parents are about to fill the divorce paper at their old ages because there is a third person involved - they both reach the age which I believe it is the time to enjoy the company of each other. There is nothing I can do and perhaps I don't want to do anything either. I recall the moment when I had to face my own divorce, there was very less support from them and now my parents think they need a lot of support from the children ...
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