Childless woman by choice

Maybe it's because I spent most of my time life independently and in so-called modern culture. Or maybe it's because I'm 38, childless by choice while it seems every other woman I know is having a baby. No matter the reason, I was genuinely surprised to read the many researches study showing that the number of independent women who are skipping out on motherhood has nearly doubled since last decades.
Personally, I was happy to see that more women feel free to forgo childbearing. But not everyone shares my enthusiasm, even my boyfriend also wonders about this topic. There is still a belief now that denounce childlessness as bad for society.
Still, a woman who chooses to remain childless continues to face a series of negative stereotypes, from claims that she's selfish to implications that she's too career-minded and self-centered to remember to breed before it's too late. But clearly there are upsides to childlessness.

I believe most felt their desire not to have children is perfectly normal in one side and were frustrated by stereotypes about women's biological clocks and the universal desirability of children on the other side. Many children are treated bad or abandoned. Some live their entire lives in foster care and moved from one family member to another. I note how many people I have known who had kids simply because they thought it was what you do, and now make their children suffer for it. Not everyone will be a good parent. More people should be child-free.

Not only did the childless not see their choice as inherently selfish, some friends argued that the choice to have children could be considered selfish in some cases. At some point I almost agree that my attachment to my disposable income and somehow addicted to travelling could be considered selfish but said, on the other hand, "When I ask friends of mine who have/want kids what their reasons are, the answers range from 'I don't know' to 'I want someone to love me' to 'I want someone to take care of me in my old age,' which are not only also selfish but poorly reasoned."

Could these childless women, includes me, be harbingers of a new world, one in which parenthood is considered an active choice and not simply the default state of adulthood? As the a research shows, childlessness was once the domain of the highly educated, but now every other segment of society is catching up. Perhaps future generations will look at phenomena and wonder how it was possible that anyone could have once cared so much if some women chose not to have babies.

JMO