I haven't posted on here or been on this site in a while. I had met someone who I actually liked a lot, as picky as I am. After seeing each other for a month or so, things were going great. As of this weekend we had plans to get together for Valentines day, Sunday comes around and she is suddenly distant. I am pretty understanding and all so I figure she must have just had a busy day. Then after a call and text wishing her a good Valentines day and telling her I can't wait to see her, I don't here from her all Valentines day...until 8pm when she sends a text saying, I don't want to string you along and I really like you a lot but we shouldn't see each other again. Wow nice kick in the F'ing nuts. Happy Valentines day to me...For the first time in a long time I actually really liked this girl, really enjoyed our time together, and I got burnt....on Valentines day. Just when I thought that things were changing in my life and I could let someone into it, I get reminded why I have been single for so long and why I am so picky and so skeptical about others. So...Happy Valentines day to all, I hope it was great to you. I guess I'll have to wait another year to have a Valentine....
This is one of the few times through out the year I am glad I am single. Despite my best efforts to find Mrs. Right, I walk into this holiday season alone and after thinking about it I'm not upset at it in the least. First, there is no awkward first time introductions to family members. There is no obligatory gift buying for people who may not be in your life in a couple months. There's no leaving my family because I have to see someone else's. Yes, I won't get a gift from a significant other, but I also have no stress in wondering if a gift says too much or not enough. I feel a little better now that I got this off my chest. Happy Holidays everyone, as I am sitting home alone I have a nice shot of spiked eggnog for you.
I thought about writing this the other day and didn't. Now I think I want to. So here goes. Well all have had some bad experiences dating or in relationships. I thought I would highlight some of my most memorable moments. Ex GF #1- wakes me up at 3 am because she wants an iced coffee, not only an ice coffee but she wants me to drive a half hour to get it for her. I simply said "no, its 3am" after some badgering I went to sleep on the couch, she didn't like that too much. She came out and hit me in the back with my baseball bat...all because I wouldn't get her an iced coffee. Random girl #1 after partying all night I sleep over her dorm, early in the morning, I don't remember the time, I notice she isn't in the bed and I hear something in the room. I jump up and see a shadow in the corner. I turn the light on and there is the girl, standing on her dresser, naked, and wrapped in her Justin Timberlake poster yelling at me to shut the light off and get away from her. Are all hott girls psycho?? lol. Ex GF #2- thinks I am cheating on her, which I have never cheated on anyone, so anyways, she schedules a doctors appt. then has a follow up the next week, after the follow up she calls me screaming at me. She is yelling at me that I am cheating on her and I am a piece of S--t. I ask whats wrong and where is all this coming from. She told me she tested HIV positive and I had to have given it to her by cheating on her. Long story short, she was never tested and she made the whole thing up hoping I would confess to cheating on her. EX GF #3- I was invited over for a holiday, maybe thanksgiving, I get to the house and her and her mother are outside waiting for me. They tell me I can't come in the front door. I asked if everything was OK. They said yes everything is fine but I wasn't allowed to meet my EX GF's uncle. (Her uncle is a well known shark diver in the Bahamas, he is always on shark week) So they take me inside and take me upstairs and offer me dinner to have upstairs in the guest room. I was obviously not happy, then my GF then tells me she was cheating on me with two of her "close guy friends", great holiday!!! Those are a couple a the great moments of my love life. I figured I would share them. Is there any questions as to why I am single now?
So as I sit here bored and doing the usual late night browse thru CS I decided to click on some of the links I have never looked at before. (Which is how I came across writing my second little blog here) Well after screwing around for a bit and noticing I still have no action in my inbox, I went to this top 100 link. I looked around and came across top rated photos... and there I was. Very weird, especially being surrounded by all that spam. But really? I come on here and send messages here and there and talk to a few people...who are very cool. But my point is, if a photo rating is that good, I would think that maybe just maybe I would have a little more luck around here. I dunno maybe its me but it doesn't make much sense. I guess. OK Im done now, have a great night and good luck everyone.
Is it me or do most people have the same problem? Most of the females I talk to here, who are so nice, live so far away. There is almost ZERO interest or interaction from anyone in my area. So that leaves me with friends, but I have friends. I came on here to try to meet someone to date, if my purpose was to make friends I would spend my time on facebook or something like that. So is it only me?? I am not looking for someone to email or message everyday that I will never meet. Is that wrong? I guess the only thing to do is be patient, or stop spending nights here on CS and make my way to a bar or club. I dunno, Im not too sure where to go from here...time will tell.
I came on this site figuring I can meet some cool people maybe even find someone to date. After a few emails asking for all of my money or marriage, I knew I had to filter through the BS to see who was real and who is not. I understand that is "part of the game" here on CS. But when I do find real people it is never more than a few exchanges of emails. Then I sit there refreshing my inbox waiting...waiting...waiting. lol. Kinda pathetic and all I can do is laugh.
I have no problems going up and talking to girls when I go out with friends. Im not scared, nervous or any of that stuff. But on here I royally screw it up. How I dunno. I figured if I could meet some people and talk to them before dating or whatever that it would make better results in meeting a good girl. It seems that I am worse here online than in person. I seem to suck at this game. Im not quite sure what to do or to make of it. Perhaps I need to be funnier, or creepier (those guys somehow always have a girl to talk to lol) or something else. Either way, here we go again to refresh the empty inbox.
Good luck to all of you out there, once I figure out what Im doing wrong I will take notes and give lessons on what not to do
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