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You've got mail????

Is it me or do most people have the same problem? Most of the females I talk to here, who are so nice, live so far away. There is almost ZERO interest or interaction from anyone in my area. So that leaves me with friends, but I have friends. I came on here to try to meet someone to date, if my purpose was to make friends I would spend my time on facebook or something like that. So is it only me?? I am not looking for someone to email or message everyday that I will never meet. Is that wrong? I guess the only thing to do is be patient, or stop spending nights here on CS and make my way to a bar or club. I dunno, Im not too sure where to go from here...time will tell.
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lullabyefairy
lullabyefairy●Neverland, Washington USA
Sep 20, 2010●2 Comments
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NO! It is not just you. I have some wonderful friends here and you are right, I will never meet them. I came here for the same reason but, it looks like I'm not going to find someone to date from this site. I'm thinking that when I move to a larger area in a few months, I'll join a couple of gyms, go to church, go kareoke, join a couple of clubs, tell every associate that I am looking for a great guy and maybe hang out at some nice coffee shops......I dunno what else to do! Any suggestion? frustrated
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Trifon
TrifonOP●Norwood, Massachusetts USA
Sep 20, 2010●6 Blogs●6 Comments
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I think if you do those things you would have no problem finding someone nice. I have been thinking about doing the same thing, like getting involved in places to meet more people and maybe things could turn around dunno I hope so, if it works for you lemme know then I will have to try it banana
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carobnjak3
carobnjak3●melbourne, Victoria Australia
Sep 20, 2010●351 Comments
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Trifon...

I got good news...Ha far is Washington from you...???
Apparently there is this stunning lady about to go to a coffee shop there...grin
Why would you miss that opportunity...grin

cheers hug drinking hug drinking hug drinking hug
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livin_the_dream
livin_the_dream●poitiers, Nouvelle-Aquitaine France
Sep 20, 2010●37 Blogs●797 Comments
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Trifon

Just because you have had ZERO interest or interaction there, don't mean she isn't here, maybe you have not found her yet, or her you!!

even friends can become dates, lovers, its a good basis to build on

Bonne chance hug
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marieluke
marieluke●fort bragg, North Carolina USA
Sep 20, 2010●29 Comments
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yes i have had the same problem.the men who email me are so far away. i have meet here only 2 from my state. so good luck to you.frustrated
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how1e
how1e●NRW, Nordrhein-Westfalen Germany
Sep 20, 2010●7 Blogs●346 Comments
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When you say "in my area", are we talking about your town, state or country? You ever thought about being adventurous and getting on your bike, in your car or on a plane to meet one of these females who are "so nice" ? Just because so many of your fellow countryman dont even have a passport doesnt mean you have to be like them, does it!?
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hankharlow
hankharlow●Union, New Jersey USA
Sep 20, 2010●131 Comments
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Distance is the problem. A girl hangs on for a few e mails and then realizes this situation is going nowhere. A girl quickly decides there is no chemistry and ends the contact. I tell the girl my main interests in the first contact. I expect her to ask questions or comment on my interests to facilitate communication. Most of the time they respond with mushy statements of love. If you don't respond to them on a daily basis they are quick to criticize or condemn you. Everybody's life doesn't center around CS even if it is a free website. Relationships take time to develop and grow. Women are in too much of a hurry to realize this fact. I love to get mail. Just wish it was from someone close to home so I could capitalize on it.
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Singlelisious
Singlelisious●Naples, Florida USA
Sep 20, 2010●87 Comments
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Same here, men that I am atracted to are located far from where I live. Met few guys from my area and no compatability...I just registered for the gym and I am going to malls where they have live entertainment music outdoors in the evenings..Lets see.wine
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Wolfemom
Wolfemom●Taos, New Mexico USA
Sep 20, 2010●1 Blogs●2 Comments
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It is definitely a concern but who ever said that your ideal mate would live next door? One of the benefits of this cyber source is that it does allow you to "meet" people you would ordinarily not have an opportunity to meet. What I prefer is to converse electronically for a while, if there's enough interest then move to phone (Skype) conversations and then just bite the bullet, take the chance and meet them long distance. On several occasions I have met someone not from my area on middle ground so we are neither of us on our home base..just make sure you get seperate hotel rooms! If it's someone from overseas... who couldn't use a vacation to a beautiful place? If it doesn't work out just have a contingency plan. My pet peeve are those people who want to converse endlessly using email. Don't have too much patience for that, email is a very poor way of getting to know someone after the initial contact and questions, leaves many things open for misinterpretation and only works for those who don't value actual human contact.
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NinazLuv
NinazLuv●Astoria, New York USA
Sep 20, 2010●5 Blogs●5 Comments
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The best thing to do is go out!
A bar, a club is a good spot to meet someone that might or can be
your potential girlfriend

Online isn't the way to go .. anyone can tell you something over the computer!
The best way to get to know someone is face to face
that way you can look in their eyes and see if they are for real or not! Your hot go get your girl babe!!lips lips

Ninaheart beating
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Nova83
Nova83●Amherst, Massachusetts USA
Sep 21, 2010
#11
You are definitely not alone in that regard, Trifon. But I've realized that online dating can be just as much of a hit-or-miss situation as regular dating, even if finding a match is less of an easter-egg hunt. I guess it's just like you said: patience. Not letting yourself get disenchanted and just letting it happen.

Good luck and Happy Searching, Trifon ^_^
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lovely4u7da
lovely4u7da●chicago, Illinois USA
Sep 21, 2010●11 Blogs●194 Comments
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We have a tendency to let our feeling go when we know that the probability of meeting this person is maybe 0 to none and someone that may be in the same city or state we will take our time oh no we must chat for a month or so and be FRIENDSconversing and I am for all that
you have to be patience and when you say you dont want to be friends whats left?
you have to start some wheredancing
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lovelyliza
lovelyliza●bethlehem, Pennsylvania USA
Sep 21, 2010●1 Blogs●42 Comments
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To Trifon,
That's not exactly true!!!. From what i see you are Hot, macho man that most girls wanting to have....that body of yours>>>UMMMMMMMM. Just be patient. I was not here long, when I joined CS 6 months ago, I met my man when I was just 3 weeks old in here. Yes...his hr. and a half away but we see each other every week. We would call back and forth, sending emails and stays with me 1 or 2 days depends on his job schedule. We been dating for almost 6 months now...and I am hoping that our relationship will have a happy ending,,,. So, my friend, if i can get a man...You have a lot of chance to get your woman..grin
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Serpenta_Manon
Serpenta_Manon●Herentals, Antwerpen Belgium
Sep 22, 2010●4 Comments
#14
Well,

I did got a long distance date.
I've spend time from April till the end of July in the US, to getting to know each other in real life, but its just ended up with nothing more than a good friendship, it didn't work out in real life, its a different kind of story than the virtual world.

But I don't regret it, I got a hell of a good time, and I will do it again when the opportunity arises. So I believe it can work, if one of the two willing to do an effort, it can be worth it.

Just my opinion dunno
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sexymami5
sexymami5●sunderland, Bristol, England UK
Sep 22, 2010
#15
mayb u should always hang out at the bar or club cos its better chatting with people you will mever get to meet.
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opentuit
opentuit●Knoxville, Tennessee USA
Sep 22, 2010●26 Comments
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I get both, locals and people far, far away. I enjoy getting to know new people, so I'm OK with that. I did meet one guy from CS, and he's a great guy. But we didn't have that spark that I'd hoped for, so we continue to be friends.

There are 2 or 3 other men and 2 or 3 women from CS that I'd really like to meet live.... Americans, Canadians, an Australian, and one Italian-transplanted-to-Ireland- but-now-in-Canarias, Spain!laugh
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