10 THINGS TO TELL YOUR PARTNER WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS DIFFICULT
1. “WHAT DO YOU NEED FROM ME RIGHT NOW?”
There is a disagreement or argument brewing. partner wants to fight. Husband wants to withdraw. She gives chase, hoping for a reaction and he normally tries to stay silent. Naturally, these roles can be reversed.
Asking the above question to your partner tells them subtly that you want to connect, not withdraw or avoid. This will in turn calm them down, which gives way to civilized discussion and possible problem solving.
2. “HOW CAN I HELP TO RELIEVE SOME OF YOUR BURDEN TODAY?”
The response could be as simple as a “please listen to me” after a long, hard day or as intimate as giving a nice back rub. This gives your partner an opportunity to let off steam in whichever way they choose. This shows that you are as cool as a cucumber under pressure, and not going bananas like a crazed monkey!
Asking your partner the above question tells them that you care for them despite what has gone on between you. You are in a relationship and both of you have the right to benefits of this relationship.
3. “I’M SORRY.”
Be specific as to why and how? You know that you have done wrong and want to right that wrong, which breathes life into the lungs of a relationship, much like the aforementioned Trade Winds. Being specific about why you are sorry is important because it disarms anger more powerfully.
Next, talking about improving whatever foible had been involved can start to melt the Ice King/Queen.
4. “THANK YOU.”
Be specific as to why.
Being grateful is such an appealing trait and, as such, makes you a more attractive person. It works in Wyoming, Beach. It makes your significant other want to do more things with you and for you because you let them know that you appreciate them. Especially so if you are thanking them for mundane tasks; people do not generally expect thanks for those. This following example is like having your feet caressed by the warm Pacific Ocean waters on the Hawaiian beach.
5. “I’M PROUD OF YOU.”
Give specifics.
Feeling valued by your loved ones will give an ego boost, making the smallest of us feel like the tallest. Knowing that your good work is appreciated at home is deeply rewarding. Your source of pride does not have to be big news, like a promotion at work. You can express your pride in them coaching a grassroots sports team, or showing that you noticed when your partner was brave in the face of fear.
6. “OUR KIDS ARE LUCKY TO HAVE A MOM/DAD LIKE YOU.”
Being told that you are a great role model for Trixie and Trevor is the stand-out compliment one parent can give to another, knowing how hard a task parenting is. If it comes from their other half, expect them to do somersaults in the living room. This compliment will surely bring a spring to their step!
7. “PLEASE FORGIVE ME.”
Tell them why you are asking for forgiveness.
Asking for forgiveness and giving it is one of the hardest aspects of a couple’s relationship.
8. “I LOVE YOU.”
This can never be said too much, but tell them exactly what you love about them.
9. “I’M GOING TO MAKE MORE OF AN EFFORT TO …”
This is important because your beau/belle deserves a partner who is always changing and growing as a person. They will in turn become a better partner.
10. “THANK YOU FOR BEING SOMEONE I CAN RESPECT.”
What are the odds on a relationship staying alive with someone you do not respect and admire? “Without respect, there is no love,”
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