About true love & SOUL MATE
These terms are often used, but rarely understood. On 90% of most date web sites, women state that a soul mate is a) a person who will read their mind (then fullfil all their wishes) b) somebody who will love them forever c) Mr. Perfect who is just waiting somewhere to marry her or, alternatively sent by god himself. d) a perfect friend, brother, lover, husband altogether. Bullshit.Soul mates meet on a physical ground (or level) because their souls have met(or are meeting)on a spiritual level. In most cases this is due to a very close relationship in a previous life. The connection then was so strong, that either one or both decided to meet again and to support, help, love, protect etc. the other one.
Since their soul connection is very strong, they usually understand each other without much talking, can communicate without words and know instantly what the other thinks, feels or needs. They`d go through fire for the other one. But that does not make love life easier. Often they are hopelessly afraid to lose the other partner (in whatever way) subconsciously fearing that this strong LONGING will continue to the next life.
Since their love is very strong and on all levels (physical, emotional, spiritual) this can absorb a lot of their energy, respectively it neutralizes their individual energy source.
Thiss can and often does lead to not meeting their destiny in life, causing a serious dilemma. (Can´t live with, can´t live without the other.)
TRUE or unconditional love is only GIVING, not taking. Use this term carefully if you still have expectations towards your lover!
Comments (5)
i agree with what you say here, i always wondered when my divorce went through whether i had lost my soul mate as this is what i found out after our divorce had gone through
two generations ago a mavis white met a frederick willis and had two children called karren and bradley.......... then i karen willis met a martin white and we had two children called bradley and nicole
strange eh how history repeated itself, i would have done anything for my husband, shame after 12 years it went wrong, one of those things though
osho
YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO GIVE MORE LOVE. This is not only your problem. In varying degrees it is the problem of everybody. Everybody wants to be loved, that is a wrong beginning.
AND IT STARTS BECAUSE the child, THE SMALL CHILD, cannot love, cannot say anything, cannot do anything, CANNOT GIVE ANYTHING; HE CAN ONLY GET. A small child's experience of love is of getting: getting from the mother, getting from the father, getting from brothers, sisters, getting from guests, strangers -- but always getting. So the first experience that settles deep in his unconscious is that he has to get love.
BUT THE TROUBLE ARISES because everybody has been a child, and everybody has the same urge to get love; and nobody is born in any other way. So all are asking, "Give us love," and there is nobody to give because the other person was also brought up in the same way.
So one has to be alert and aware that just an incident of birth should not remain a constant prevailing state of your mind. RATHER THAN ASKING, "GIVE ME LOVE," START GIVING LOVE. Forget about getting, simply give -- and I guarantee you, you will get much. But you are not to think about getting. You are not even indirectly, by the side, to watch whether you are getting it or not. That much will be enough disturbance. You simply give, because to give love is so beautiful that getting love is not so great. And this is one of the secrets.
GIVING LOVE IS THE REALLY BEAUTIFUL EXPERIENCE, because then you are an emperor. Getting love is very small experience, and it is the experience of a beggar: Don't be a beggar! At least as far as love is concerned, be an emperor, because it is an inexhaustible quality in you. You can go on giving as much as you like. Don't be worried that it will be exhausted, that one day you will suddenly find, "My God! I don't have any love to give anymore."
LOVE IS NOT A QUANTITY; IT IS A QUALITY -- and a quality of a certain category that grows by giving and dies if you hoard it. If you are miserly about it, it dies. So be really spendthrift. Don't bother to whom -- that is really the idea of a miserly mind: "I will give love to certain persons with certain qualities."
You don't understand that you have so much... YOU ARE A RAIN CLOUD. The rain cloud does not bother where it rains -- on the rocks, in the gardens, in the ocean -- it doesn't matter. It wants to unburden itself. And that unburdening is a tremendous relief. So the first secret is: Don't ask for it, and don't wait, thinking that you will give if somebody asks you. Give it!