YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO GIVE MORE LOVE. This is not only your problem. In varying degrees it is the problem of everybody. Everybody wants to be loved, that is a wrong beginning.
AND IT STARTS BECAUSE the child, THE SMALL CHILD, cannot love, cannot say anything, cannot do anything, CANNOT GIVE ANYTHING; HE CAN ONLY GET. A small child's experience of love is of getting: getting from the mother, getting from the father, getting from brothers, sisters, getting from guests, strangers -- but always getting. So the first experience that settles deep in his unconscious is that he has to get love.
BUT THE TROUBLE ARISES because everybody has been a child, and everybody has the same urge to get love; and nobody is born in any other way. So all are asking, "Give us love," and there is nobody to give because the other person was also brought up in the same way.
So one has to be alert and aware that just an incident of birth should not remain a constant prevailing state of your mind. RATHER THAN ASKING, "GIVE ME LOVE," START GIVING LOVE. Forget about getting, simply give -- and I guarantee you, you will get much. But you are not to think about getting. You are not even indirectly, by the side, to watch whether you are getting it or not. That much will be enough disturbance. You simply give, because to give love is so beautiful that getting love is not so great. And this is one of the secrets.
GIVING LOVE IS THE REALLY BEAUTIFUL EXPERIENCE, because then you are an emperor. Getting love is very small experience, and it is the experience of a beggar: Don't be a beggar! At least as far as love is concerned, be an emperor, because it is an inexhaustible quality in you. You can go on giving as much as you like. Don't be worried that it will be exhausted, that one day you will suddenly find, "My God! I don't have any love to give anymore."
LOVE IS NOT A QUANTITY; IT IS A QUALITY -- and a quality of a certain category that grows by giving and dies if you hoard it. If you are miserly about it, it dies. So be really spendthrift. Don't bother to whom -- that is really the idea of a miserly mind: "I will give love to certain persons with certain qualities."
You don't understand that you have so much... YOU ARE A RAIN CLOUD. The rain cloud does not bother where it rains -- on the rocks, in the gardens, in the ocean -- it doesn't matter. It wants to unburden itself. And that unburdening is a tremendous relief. So the first secret is: Don't ask for it, and don't wait, thinking that you will give if somebody asks you. Give it!
real friends talk to each other , and tell when they feel hurt , he diden't respect u enough to tell u what he feels , also his fears is alot that he runaway in first place and not even try to give u a chance to explain ,and if he is this much distrust people and have fears u never could have real and healty and normal friendship with , go on with your life , and i know there is a confident and shining person like yourself waiting for u
my dear friend ...iamwhoiamyousee .... i wish i was , im just trying my best to walk in the true path ,,,,we all get to the point to be awake and know ,,,we all get there
rozaroz ....its true .where ever there is greed for more power and wealth ,,,love is not there , sorry your pictures made me so sad i had to delet them ,forgive me
dearest ajester....Love can never possess. Love is giving freedom to the other. Love is an unconditional gift, it is not a bargain. and its the greatest miracle and the the greatest mystery also . Things can be possessed, persons cannot be possessed. Persons are freedom in essence: you can love them, you can delight in them, but you cannot possess them. You would like to be powerful over love, but that is impossible; love is far bigger than you. You cannot possess it, you can only be possessed by it. Hence those people who want to possess love never come to know anything of it.
all the time u have the power of choice , to choose happiness over the blue , and what is more happiness to have such kid in your life , to give and recive love, keep smiling
milumilu .... dalailama is not lookimg for tibet independance , he is looking for peace and freedom for his people to practice what they belive ,and not get killed for their belives.. and yes i think they have the right to practice their way to enlightment like every single souls in this planet, even i dont see any reason why they cant be indepandance from china, but this is not what dalailama looking for
i'm not talking about religon , altough i respect the people need that still i belive we dont need any lable,we are all divine and what make us feel at home and in peace is getting a drop of the knowldge from the acean we came from :)
10kOhms,,,, did you see anyone gets happier and feel in peace by only developing mind? unconditional love and real compassion is the real keye for this hectic world we live ,im totaly agree with dalailama
No matter what is going on Never give up Develop the heart Too much energy in your country Is spent developing the mind Instead of the heart Be compassionate Not just to your friends But to everyone Be compassionate Work for peace In your heart and in the world Work for peace And I say again Never give up No matter what is going on around you Never give up Dalailama
awaken_buddha Blog Comments (36)
u are all beautiful dont forget that ever 
RE: About true love & SOUL MATE
Giving Away Love by OshoYOU HAVE TO LEARN TO GIVE MORE LOVE. This is not only your problem. In varying degrees it is the problem of everybody. Everybody wants to be loved, that is a wrong beginning.
AND IT STARTS BECAUSE the child, THE SMALL CHILD, cannot love, cannot say anything, cannot do anything, CANNOT GIVE ANYTHING; HE CAN ONLY GET. A small child's experience of love is of getting: getting from the mother, getting from the father, getting from brothers, sisters, getting from guests, strangers -- but always getting. So the first experience that settles deep in his unconscious is that he has to get love.
BUT THE TROUBLE ARISES because everybody has been a child, and everybody has the same urge to get love; and nobody is born in any other way. So all are asking, "Give us love," and there is nobody to give because the other person was also brought up in the same way.
So one has to be alert and aware that just an incident of birth should not remain a constant prevailing state of your mind. RATHER THAN ASKING, "GIVE ME LOVE," START GIVING LOVE. Forget about getting, simply give -- and I guarantee you, you will get much. But you are not to think about getting. You are not even indirectly, by the side, to watch whether you are getting it or not. That much will be enough disturbance. You simply give, because to give love is so beautiful that getting love is not so great. And this is one of the secrets.
GIVING LOVE IS THE REALLY BEAUTIFUL EXPERIENCE, because then you are an emperor. Getting love is very small experience, and it is the experience of a beggar: Don't be a beggar! At least as far as love is concerned, be an emperor, because it is an inexhaustible quality in you. You can go on giving as much as you like. Don't be worried that it will be exhausted, that one day you will suddenly find, "My God! I don't have any love to give anymore."
LOVE IS NOT A QUANTITY; IT IS A QUALITY -- and a quality of a certain category that grows by giving and dies if you hoard it. If you are miserly about it, it dies. So be really spendthrift. Don't bother to whom -- that is really the idea of a miserly mind: "I will give love to certain persons with certain qualities."
You don't understand that you have so much... YOU ARE A RAIN CLOUD. The rain cloud does not bother where it rains -- on the rocks, in the gardens, in the ocean -- it doesn't matter. It wants to unburden itself. And that unburdening is a tremendous relief. So the first secret is: Don't ask for it, and don't wait, thinking that you will give if somebody asks you. Give it!