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Jan 2011
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It's Over

The relationship was going fine. At least I thought it was. We were friends. Met here on CS. Continued our friendship to another site. It was a long distance relationship...didn't expect to meet in real life. We had a good time, we joked, we laughed, we danced, we did a lot of virtual things on the Internet. I looked forward to each day. True he was crowding me a little bit and maybe I crowded him. Not hard to do. But all of a sudden it ended, he disappeared. I searched for him...to no avail. Emailed him. He answered. "His reasons for ending our friendship": after I said I was logging off, I stayed on".....actually that is true. I was going shopping for clothes..you know how us girls like to shop. I found it easier to do by myself than with him.
He said I should have told him the truth. I didn't know he was tracking me!. One time I tried to hid from a guy whom, I had a couple of conversations with, but had the feeling this guy would seek more and I wasn't into that. But my friend thought I was trying to hide from him so I could carry on a relationship with this other person. Not true!. My friend just plain doesn't believe me. So the friendship is over. I will not bother him, even though I could email. To me ..when it is over, it is over!
Were this really the reasons to end our friendship...I think they are feeble excuses. There must be reasons that have nothing to do with me, or everything to do with me. I guess I will never know.
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chococherrie
chococherrie●Somewhere over the Rainbow, Indonesia
Jan 18, 2011●98 Blogs●1,751 Comments
#1
i am/went tru but maybe i was bit to clingy/needy..!so i can kinda relate to it
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10kOhms
10kOhms●sliema, Majjistral Malta
Jan 18, 2011●1,826 Comments
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forget d pride and do what u have to to get him back. the pain is evident from your words. the 'when its over is over!' is something u are trying to make uself believe. hurry up before its too late.
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ankitnet
ankitnet●Delhi, India
Jan 18, 2011
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I hate when ppl leave without questions/comments. It leaves the other person in depression for years!
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stillframe
stillframe●oklahoma city, Oklahoma USA
Jan 18, 2011●76 Blogs●592 Comments
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friendships are easy to break but just as easy to mend
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Christmas1
Christmas1OP●Peterborough, Ontario Canada
Jan 18, 2011●4 Blogs●8 Comments
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Hi ....I am puzzled as to the real reason why the friendship was ended, but if he wants it that way, there is nothing I can do about it. And yes, it always has been "When it is over, it is over". It has nothing to do with pride. Maybe I am harsh that way, but have always been blunt. I have one daughter whom is like me in that respect and another daughter who is totally opposite. I was not "in love" with him, nor do I suspect he was "in love" with me. I care for him, enough to respect his wishes, even if I don't agree with them. What does upset me is that he thought I was lying to him, hiding things from him, being deceitful. Sorry just not me, I don't believe in treating friends in such a despicable way. Makes me think he has a problem that I did not realise and it is best for me to let the situation stay at rest.
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sunliving1
sunliving1●adeje, Canary Islands Spain
Jan 18, 2011●21 Comments
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You are blaming yourself for reasons given to you by this person, have you considered that these reasons (that you say are not true) are just an excuse as he wants to be with another woman but does not have the courage to tell you honestly.
Their are always two sides to every coin unfortunately we tend only to see the coin from our side thus blaming ourselves when effectively the fault is not ours.
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Amity
Amity●Dodging Daggers, Wiltshire, England UK
Jan 18, 2011●2 Blogs●45 Comments
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teddybear M, i went through the same thing last year.
I was utterly destroyed.

Chin up babe lips
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ooby_doobyonline today!
ooby_dooby●Ashland, Virginia USA
Jan 18, 2011●60 Blogs●728 Comments
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I'm sorry to hear your budding relationship came to such an abrupt end. Judging by the circumstances you outlined, it appears to me that your beau has a lack of confidence in himself and is also a little prone to jealousy. His trust in you was broken by a simple mis-understanding which could have been avoided (or at least postponed) by better communication. His lack of confidence would have come to the surface later on, when, and if, your relationship advanced to a higher level.

When jealousy and distrust enter a relationship, it's just a matter of time before the relationship falls apart.
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awaken_buddha
awaken_buddha●pune, Maharashtra India
Jan 18, 2011●11 Blogs●36 Comments
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real friends talk to each other , and tell when they feel hurt , he diden't respect u enough to tell u what he feels , also his fears is alot that he runaway in first place and not even try to give u a chance to explain ,and if he is this much distrust people and have fears u never could have real and healty and normal friendship with , go on with your life , and i know there is a confident and shining person like yourself waiting for u teddybear
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Pixels1
Pixels1●London, Greater London, England UK
Jan 18, 2011●509 Comments
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I don't know Christmas, Can you phone to discuss or arrange to meet to have a nice time because LDR can be difficult to sustain without meeting after awhile into the relations. Good Luck!
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musicfreak
musicfreak●Paradise City, British Columbia Canada
Jan 18, 2011●896 Comments
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I think if he is upset over a silly thing like that he isn't worth it. He obviously has some insecurities. Move on and find someone better.

Take care.

teddybear teddybear
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sultryash
sultryash●Bridgetown, Saint Michael Barbados
Jan 18, 2011●10 Blogs●48 Comments
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Christmas, I am sorry to hear you are going through this, nut like one poster said. If a silly thing like that could cause him to take such drastic measures then obviously your friendship/relationship, didnt mean much to him.
Relationship ought to be about , loving and caring and sharing and taking care of each other hearts, there must be lots of compromising and forgiving for it to worth from both parties.

But, my woman's intuition is telling me he was looking for a way out, if I am wrong, then I guess he has serious insecurities and trust issues and you dont need to blame yourself or even try to rationalize his behavior.

I hope you feel better about this soon teddybear bouquet hug
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Calliopesgirl
Calliopesgirl●Nashville, Tennessee USA
Jan 18, 2011●322 Blogs●5,311 Comments
#13
without trust there is no relationship
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espi64
espi64●Colfrancui, Veneto Italy
Jan 20, 2011●6 Comments
#14
Never thought that maybe he wanted something in the real life, and finally realized that the virtual thing cannot last by itself?
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