What's it really all about?
I've spent recent days disheartened and disillusioned about affairs of the heart - to find someone that I can even consider letting into my life seems so unattainable.Maybe I am self sabotaging on some sub conscious level & so for now I'm going to concentrate on trying to make some sense of my own emotions, my own wants and how this will influence any future relationships.
Succinctly put, my last relationship failed miserably at the end due to one simple factor - we did not give freely, life became a petty game of give and take and compromise without reward.
I really want any future relationship to be borne out of trust, honesty, mutual appreciation and a desire to give without expectation. Love without expectation - when mutual, is as close to 100% as I can think of. Different to love without reciprication - which by it's virtue is self destructive.
Sounds easy doesn't it? Yet it encompasses so much.
Like everyone I want to be loved and cherished but I also want a man who will allow himself to be loved, who'll take compliments and suprises with the same delight that they were executed with. I want someone who'll talk to me, not at me and will let me listen to all they have to say.
I don't care if he looks at other women or flirts in bars, as long as he looks at me in the same way and reaches for my hand for no reason than he can.
I want someone to laugh with, confide in, share secrets with and whisper dirty thoughts to in public. That guy - the one I just want to make happy ...
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That's why it's kinda funny when we come on these websites, with all our hopes and expectations, and do not find what we hope for, what we dream of...we only find real people, real life, but we keep looking, because the very next profile, or the very next one, might be him/her, and we will fall madly in love and know that they are THE ONE.
But what happens when we meet them for coffee? We notice that they have a pot belly, that their teeth are yellow, that their laugh annoys us, and we say "nice meeting you," and go home, to read the blogs, to post in the forums, and wonder if love will ever be ours.
When you walk let your heart lead the way. Live in? the moment.
No,, its not simple,, but then nothing worth having in life is,, a good education,, we work hard,,,, a baby,,
But so hard to find!
Do not search,, it will find you,,
We have so many expectations of others as they have of us; it's only natural there will be some disappointment
maybe,, we expect too much
I hear what u say, though...My longest relationship came naturally (a friend of a friend) and not by going through a dating site, but you never know! :)