Makes & Breaks continued....

Loyalty is a big factor, you should always let your partner know that you stand behind him or her, even if there has to be some compromises made to be able to do it.

Emotions should always be present to show him/her how you are truley feeling. You can not come off like something is not bothering you when it really is. It is all part of the communication process, just in a different more personal way.

Always be yourself, that is the person that your mate fell in love with. Do not let anything change who you are & want to be. By becoming someone different it will cause your mate to fall out of love with you.

Do not let everyday problems interfere with the relationship. Always keep in mind that there is always a new day around the corner & things always have a way of working themselves out.

Change is inevitable & sometimes couples just grow apart due to changing directions. It is the couples that have a handle on all of the things mentioned above that can usually survive the changes.

Logic....You just have to keep in mind that every action has a reaction. A positive action will 9 times out of 10 get a positive reaction.
Eg. Do not try to make your partner jeolous just to see what his/her reaction will be. He/she will either be jeolous & withhold his/her feelings (Letting it build up or forcing him/her to be someone that he/she does not want to be. One way or another.), approach you & show jeolousy (No one wants to be jeolous.), or maybe not show any reaction at all which will make you worry. In any case it is uneeded & should be avoided at all cost. Just be yourself & let your partner love you for who you really are.


All of the thing above are related to one another & can cause a snowball effect by just one little slip up. But if you have a handle on just a few of these things, chances are that your relationship can survive as long as you can hold onto a few of these things. If you start letting these things slip away one by one, your relationship will ultimately fail.

These are just some of my observations & conclusions that I have come to over the years. These are merely my opinions & my interpretation.

Following these guidelines is a very hard thing to do, because once you do not follow one it will cause another problem to appear....thus the snowball effect.
Just remain yourself & (Also allow your partner to be who he/she is.)be a little flexible & things should be fine. When you encounter a problem, just think of how you acted towards your partner in the beginning of the relationship & try to be that person again. That is who your partner fell in love with. Always remember it takes two to make a relationship work, if one stops the other will sense or get the idea that you do not care & most likely be unhappy about it.

Love can be a very great thing, but can also be very, very complicated to the point where it changes a persons own personal convictions & beliefs. Walls never help anyone, they only hide the true person. Just be yourself no matter how much you have been hurt in the past. Every new relationship should be just that, "new". Do not drag past issues into a new relationship, you will just set it up to fail. Instead learn from each relationship & create a what you are looking for in a mate list and then look for those qualities in a potential mate. Do not settle, unless your list is unrealistic. In that case I do not know what to tell you, but good luck with that tall order.
I am sure that I am forgetting something, it is a pretty huge & complicated subject. I just hope that I wrote this in a way that someone will understand & that it may actually help out.
Is anyone out there? Does anyone think I am nuts? I will stop rambling. Can not help but just being me. Love me, hate me, rate me, just being me!!! Take care & just live to love!!! Tom

P.S. I want ANYONE who actually read this far to feel free to comment...good, bad, or ugly, say what is on your mind!!!