Moving on
The hardest thing to recognize, sometimes, is when the person that was once the most important person in your life, the one whom you couldn't go on without, simply does not need you in her or his life any longer.Sometimes we all wish we could go back in time and fix whatever the hell we did wrong. Sometimes we wish we could go back to that one day we lost that person, and convince them not to leave us. And on some extreme cases, sometimes we wish we could go back in time and prevent ever meeting that person at all.
It's hard, knowing that person, whom you most likely are still in love with, is living a fine, happy life without you. You then become nothing more than a distant memory to that person, a fine acquaintance perhaps, but nothing more.
But that person doesn't need you anymore. He or she is happy without you. Accept that fact, and move on. In the immortal words of Kahlil Gibran 'Your pain is the potion from which the physician within you tries to tear down the shell that blocks your understanding. Therefore, trust the physician, and take his medicine in peace and tranquility'
All pain passes with time. Sometimes it takes longer, sometimes it takes barely any time at all. But all pain, all sorrow, passes with time. Hang in there, because that person is already happy without you, and now it is your turn to be happy without that person. This is the science of moving on.
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And its very sad imagining someone we love is happy without us again in their side.
it hurts everytime I imagined him happy with other girl.
me and my ex sometimes still contact each other. we both still love each other but there's lot of things that we cant be together.
here am still single there he said he still single.
but sometimes I dont want to know about him anymore
Am afraid suddenly I opened his facebook and seeing his status "in relationship"
Or Am afraid one day he will call me and saying he found another and happy with her.
There's lot in my mind and that is the most thing I worried about.
It's been 3 years I still can't move on. Am to scare for that.
maybe am in the state of denial.
Still dont wanna accept the truth that we cant be together.
blaming all things like you mentioned before
wish I can fix
back to the time where we used to be together.
or wish not meet him.
Yeah but I believe time is always the best cure.
Hmm.. rain outside now listening mellow song with a cup of coffee.
remembering old happy times.
Just like you have to work hard at making the relationship your have to work even harder to move on. Go out with your friends find a new hobby (something you always wanted to do), just pick yourself up there and force yourself to get out there. It's there where the healing begins and you grown into a better person then you were. Erase his facebook page from your mind and any other memories, pictures, letters etc. these items keep you stuck and do not give you the chance to move forward. I wish you the best of luck and you will heal. (mine took 4 years)
Thanks a lot for your comment.
believed me I tried so hard to stay focus to others. like my hobbies, hang out with friends, even dated some guys. but still it doesnt work for me.
Even now, when he still on my FB friend's list.
I never watch his page, and for long time I dont check my FB.
Am glad you finnaly over it. 4 years is pretty long to over it.
I hope it will be the last year for me to over it.
which means, I'll know exactly what's the best for me.
We should love ourselves and input that we deserve to be happy.
Your energy will attract that other person.
Being positive even if the good memories puts a tear in your eyes.
Everyone is different in their healing process but it can be reached.
We can't change the past because it is gone, only learn from it.
Life is to great to just let it go......
Capture every moment, it's given to you .....
Let's say C'est la vie..
:-)