How Do I Know If Its Love?

Thats really a tough question. There is a difference between love, lust, infatuation, or just a simple friendship. Everyone is looking for the person of their dreams. It isn’t that easy to find them.

Let’s start with the first meeting. Sometimes we are attracted to people simply by the way they look. As a society we are hooked on the outside appearance of people we meet. If you are looking for a mate based on that you are making a big mistake. Say you date someone because they are nice looking and are very popular but on your date they have nothing in common with you. They can’t hold a conversation with you because things you like bore them and the same for you. Could you spend the rest of your days living with someone like that. I think not. Don’t be taken in by a lot of flattering words more times than not they are just that words. A balance of intellectual and physical attraction is a good sign.

Do you feel comfortable with the person or do they force you to do things you don’t like. Can you say no and still be respected for your choice. Are you willing to wait and make your commitment real. That means sometimes waiting for the other person to become as serious as you are. Patience is an important key to long and successful relationship.

Do you support each other anticipating and meeting each others needs? For example: If they have other commitments to take care of before you get married are you willing to wait patiently? Are you willing to help them accomplish all their goals and stand beside them no matter what?

Most important are you each others best friend? Do you laugh and enjoy each others company, friends, family, and work or do you expect them to spend every waking moment with you? Important questions to ask yourself before making a long term commitment.

Loving another person involves self-sacrifice and compromise. If you are attracted to someone for whom you are unwilling to be patient and to share all parts of your life, you may have a lot of work to do or disappointment to deal with after the wedding. Take time now to assess your relationship with these and other factors to see if you can make a life that could last fifty years or more with the person of your dreams. Because when you wake up, your mate will still be there.

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Dear Mary,

In my opinion answer to question,"How Do I Know If Its Love? " is simply self confidence of one...

Very short and concise.


Sincerely,
Sebastian

PS. I admit that I haven't bother reading Blog(no time plzz forgive).
you just know your head and stomach are turningthumbs up thumbs up peace
A wise friend once told me.

You know it is love, when you would rather spend time with a special someone, then going out with our girfriends.

I used this rule and it works for me.
Hi Mary

I sometimes think that you know it is love when you are able to let somebody go away, knowing that she or he will come back again.
You can't force love.
I read a germany poem once. It's something like this:

If you would never let somebody go, he will never be able to come back.

EDDYhug
In my opinin you know that its real love if you just cant imagine being without your special someone anymore...it sounds easy but it isn`t..blushing
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