Are we fools to “try”??
Just recently, I came across a poll / thread where the Dutch gentleman Rogerzoekt asked“Can you really fall in love with someone on the internet?”
Looking at the results of the poll just at the time of drafting this blog, it seemed obvious that most people were hopeful AND/OR absolutely sure that they really could find love online.
I thought about this, and my own situation with my beautiful girlfriend Nessa. As I explained on that thread, I have been on and off this and other dating sites for the last 6/7 years. I have met a number of girls online in this time, some of whom I have developed very close attachments with. I feel this would be ‘normal’ enough, even in a “real-life” situation for a single guy over a 7 year period. I am a close observer of people, and take stock of what works, what doesn’t, and the reasons behind these.
As internet dating is relatively only a very recent phenomenon, I would consider myself to be a “seasoned campaigner” at this stage. I have learned much from one relationship to the next, no matter how long or short the relationship would have been. I sincerely don't meant this to sound like so much bragging, but still I would regard myself as one of the more experienced on the matter, shall we say. I am sure there are others like me, male and female who could say the same...and you probably know were I am coming from.
Thus, and whilst I’m not going to divulge any more details on *Our* personal relationship than I choose, I will say that I am no fool, and I know in my heart and soul I have found me the BEST woman ever in my whole life, and I really could not wish for better with her. And I found her HERE on CS.
Pardon me now, all the naysayers, but give me a break. I am letting you all into something which is still extremely private to me and Nessa, something I/we don’t have to share with the outside world. But we would *genuinely* like to give hope to other people, even if it means letting all and sundry into our personal affairs. We all have busy lives. Even writing this blog with a will to help others, takes time.
Coming to the crux of the matter...
Many thanks to those who have wished us heartfelt luck and happiness together. I/we *really* appreciate it, especially, without any form of qualification.
Many thanks to those who wished us luck, even with their misgivings. We realize that it may have been hard for those people to wish us ‘any’ luck as they are obviously fearful themselves, and don’t have enough trust in online dating as others. Even Nessa was fearful and actually not looking when we met first.
I respect everybody’s point of view, even if I don’t agree with them. But I have to say it is disheartening to have people impress *their* fears and bad experiences onto *Our* experience and *Our* chances of happiness together. I still say this tentatively, as I'm sure quite a few of those who conditionally wished us luck, really do mean the best, and would probably take responsibility for the fact that their misgivings are *their* misgivings.
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Comments (43)
I gotta say, good luck to that, as I've never seen or heard anything like it, quite interesting...
Okay wait a moment please i have a newer wish
Huuum
Infinity goodluck to u and Nessa and i love u both
Love is the best
Life is a bless