What`s"GOOD" if good isn`t "GOOD ENOUGH"?

Well, dear hearts..... Having experienced several "starter" relationships, I have been in those long-distance things.
They get as far as (after about 20 emails), to the point of getting down to the nitty-gritty of meeting. Then I will put myself (what seems like) jeopardy. I say that the man has to come however distance when the woman doesn`t have the funds to travel &or an older woman shouldn`t travel alone. All of a sudden, if not asking me for money to do it or wanting my banks account #`s to put their money in (when their check can`t be accepted in another state-are they kidding???) Then it`s a different feeling/story as to meeting, then it is dissolved.
Is it just me, or are they also jerks. I haven`t even had a problem with getting quite a few emails from men that want a relationship. Am I not worth it, as in the fist phase they say I am, or is it the age thing?? This is getting old, if not for my desire to have that companionship & whatever goes with it.
What do you think???