Thoughts of a Normal Guy
On the first lunch date who pays,should both offer?Photos that dont show what a person looks like, should they be removed?
If you dont reply to a message/flower are you shy? not realy looking? a very ignorant person? too good to be on this site? (or think you are).
Would it not be better to reply and say you are such an ugly/boring/old/ fat/thin person you would never interest me in a million years?
Honesty seems such a release.
Comments (26)
Well so they say.
Gosh is that a little deep.
Maybe you assumed that I was asking because I dont receive reply's yes I get over that but should I send them as some people make the effort which maybe is a big thing for them, but I guess you have answered that as well.
You seem so thoughtful of peoples feelings I am impressed
I agree with Ken.
We also think alike. And we both likes cheese too!
He is my twin brother!.......
It can be embarassing to have a lunch or dinner when you can tell soon that their is no chemistry.
To not answer a email or a flower send is rude
Thanks for your comments I agree with you and I am impressed with your approach.
My Wow about what you wear was out of respect for your predate preparation.
I wish you continued success.
I have no doubt you are a very respectful lady.
You seem a very grounded lady and I am impressed by your honesty.
If you lived closer I would love to take you out for lunch and a chat.
I might even pay.
From my experience, if the woman pays for her share at least it doesn´t give the man false hopes...?
Now, if the man pays - on the first and second dates, he might have some expectations because the woman has given him some kind of mixed signals?
Maybe it wasn´t so in the old days but, with women emancipation things have changed quite a bit.
Replying to messages/flowers is common courtesy to thank them with a "thanks, but NO thanks!", or whatever.
Thanks for your comments, you always seem to bring an air of calm logic to a discussion.
2. No comment:
3. Whe I don't reply to a message it's because I'm not interested
4. Silence is gold darl
I do believe however when a relationship is established in pooling funds, for big purchases together, like holidays etc. I offer my generosity abundantly, so cannot be bothered with men Who act mean on a first date. Its not a good sign for the future. Even poor people can be generous. In their own way. Thats what counts .
Thanks for your comments I totally agree with your sentiments.
Not sure if you read my explanation as to why I asked the question.
If you read it you will understand where I was coming from.
Thanks for your response.
I think there has been a little misunderstanding about the photo thing.
I respect any ones right not to put a photo on the site.
I have met a couple of ladies with no photos and apart from the problem of standing at the meet site and staring at every lady wondering if its them and risking arrest for being a pest the experiences have been very positive
What I find mildly annoying is people who do put a photo on site but you still have no idea what they look like because they are to far away or the photo is blurred.
All I was inferring is if you wish to put a photo on site put a decent one.
I'm going to stop by Toys R Us and get me a chemistry set.
There is no right answer about who pays since it depends of the attitudes of a person that you only just had coffee or dinner with.
I think the best thing to do is to offer to pay. When the bill comes, say "Do you mind if I get this?".
You can also say "You can get the next one.", then smile.
If she says something about a snowball's chance in hell, it's probably because you forgot your chemistry set.
Good response with some helpful suggestions
thank you
1. At the first meeting (coffee or a glass of wine) I will allow the man to pay if he does not ask to share the bill.
2. Photos -No photos - no answer, if somebody needs to hide him- just don't stay on this website
3. Agree, it is better to answer and say you are ....