Haven't been online here for well over 2 years....
Ok, I have to admit that I lost faith in this site, and in myself too. I hated the fact that I was till miserably unemployed back when I was last on when I expected the guy to be employed irrespectively.I didn't want to present as a fraud or a person with double standards. I work now, but it is still incredibly unpredictable and spasmodic, and I won't be fully content until I'm working and independent financially. I just truly believe, from experience on dating websites and meeting guys face-to-face, one of the first things a guy asks me is always 'what do you do for a living?' I NEVER ask a guy that, because I don't want to give off the impression that I'm only interested in what a man does for a crust. Definitely double standards in that way.
Damned if I do, damned if I don't.