PLEASE! DO NOT SET YOUR SELF SHORT IN A RELATIONSHIP! GO FOR ALL OR NOTHING!

"JUST REMEMBER WE ARE ALL EQUAL" NOt Matter Gender, Religion, Language, Culture Wealth, Colour of Skin,Body Type Body High> " WE ARE ALL HUMAN BEINGS" Therefore "WE ALL DESERVE LOVE AND RESPECT"

So " WE SHOULD NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TAKE AS FOR GRANTED"

"WHAT IS THE THE POINT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP! WHEN YOU FEELING LONELY ANYWAY"
Yes is not easy to walk away from a relationship when children are involverI understand that you have to try to make it work, but it take 2 people to do it>
Remember if you are not happy you are not setting a positive environment for your children.

So Go for All Or Nothing!

By Balicia





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Comments (8)

shevy007
you're right....Nice postbanana applause peace
searching4u009
True talk
Akeldama40
In theory and in an ideal world your altruism may apply but because of human ego self preservation and the truth that many do not know what they want all they know is they want.
Relationships are a learned experience to better understand ourselves unfortunately if one does not know themselves or care about themselves enough its hard to extend gratitude to others. It still boils down to the golden rule do unto others as you want others to do unto you. If we want love we must offer love.
ashlander
What you believe does not depend on your going for it.

If your principles matter to you the children involved still feel loss.
They also simply love,seek reassurances that separation won't
happen to them like it happened between their mom and dad.
It scares them that you are going for it-bringing the any
other adult they must include, into their home as well.

They are confused by your inner compass if loneliness decides what
direction you take and how impulsively,not your principles.

Their loneliness can not be resolved as easily.They will learn quickly how
affections can be bought or substituted by you.
If either parent is distracted with imitations,their painful missteps
change their home and relationships to everyone is upset by it.
It effects their stability: school,sibling and peer relationships.
ashlander
Equal " opportunity" applies to employment and housing,NOT relationships.
Everyone and anyone does not get an automatic intimate opportunity-
One size fits all....if your Love is Blind,that is probably why you're starting over.
viking67
...most people are so hooked on their "wants",- that they forget their "needs"....



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arpito
I generally agree with what Balicia is saying, "all or nothing". In as far as that "all" means love and devotion, everything else flows from that, and if that is not present it is just an economic association or s*xual exploitation.

But for some, men and woman both, "all" means more than just the opportunity for love, it can be a laundry list of self centered expectations.

I also think that staying together for the children's sake is not a sacrifice that the children would necessarily benefit from when growing up in a household without example of love.
arpito
viking67 writes:...most people are so hooked on their "wants",- that they forget their "needs"....

Right on Viking.

Desire without self knowledge makes wants and needs differ vastly. In the end, to enter a love relationship one needs to have an idea what it is for. As long as the parties have the same idea about it, while not optimal, the relationship might endure. For example, if marriage is something to secure economic conditions or to raise children for society - then it will work. After all the pair will have no idea about its other potentials. But if the couple go in with the ideal of romantic love, the game changes. Divorce city, here we come! To succeed in romantic love requires a degree of self knowledge and and attitude of selflessness.

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