Paralyzed ( Archived) (103)

Most of you have heard of these accidents/stupidity.
People getting paralyzed because they jumped into water and either hit bottom because the water was very shallow, or- Because there were rocks in the water that they hit their head on.
Life destroyed instantly for nothing short of stupidity.
When all it would have taken was a few minutes to swim around in the water first to make sure how deep it is and that there are no obstacles.

Is not a BLIND LEAP of faith in a relationship the same thing. Especially online when all we know is what someone tells us, what picture they show, If it is even them,, or if many years old.
Why do so many want so badly to find a mate that is too good to be true?

So you might have had a few chats on the phone.. can you see the honesty of the lack of in their eyes?

Do you only believe what you want to believe about someone, or do you listen to what you mind is telling you? or do you listen with your heart and ignore what you know is fantasy?

Sure.. a dream come true would be fantastic,
But then realistically.. do you live your life as if a dream?

Many people hone their hunting skills so well, to the point that they figure out exactly what you WANT to hear. but also.. so many want the DREAM so much that they will believe anything.. regardless how UNbelievable.

Would it not be much wiser and much less pain if we were to be realistic?!

My Dad always said.. If it seems too good to be true...It probably isn't.

I do not mean any one person, We have all seen it happen again and again.
Why are so many people so desperate?

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while you might see it as an act of desperation, another might see it as a beautiful thing...I don't see where it is harming anyone, and just as in real life, when it's over with, you hurt...I don't know. After reading the other thread on bullying, I would think that feeling love for someone is the least thing that one should b*tch about...jmo as always

I didn't say falling in love is an act of depression,
I said.. doing so blindly is.
I mean when it is done in such a sloppy fashion that one is setting themselves up for devastation. knowingly but ignoring it.

test the waters first. not just jump in.

desperation...



we do that in real life as well. Do you ever really get to know someone without intimacy? ie a relationship?

What does bullying have to do with it?
are you so wrapped up in a bullying thread that this has to be about bullying also?

Why do all of the hateful and fighting threads run page after page, fed by most people here but when one is posted asking a logical question, or makes ya think.. people don't post?

because the fighting takes no real thinking.

God forbid I ask people to think.

I disagree, is usually hurried online.
Is why I don't choose to get serious about someone just by what I am told here.
I Have to see their eyes, actually spend time with someone to really get to know them.
But thats just me, just how I think.
In real world, I can end it sooner if I don't have the right feeling..In person.
or If I do get the right feeling.. then I will pursue it further.

But I am led by my mind.. not what my heart tells me..

If we do not listen to our minds.. have we really learned anything from past mistakes?

I stand corrected
Fingers moving faster than my mind... shut up... don't say it out loud

Why do people have to rush to meet someone fron net dating anyway?
All people from all walks of life can act even in meeting with them I reckon!

Is why my profile says that I am not looking for a LDR,
I don't mind chatting with people online..
But when considering a relationship, eye to eye and spending time together is the only way for me.
sure people put on acts in the real world also.. but when close.. an act can only hold up for so long then it will fall apart.

Is this maybe why when people from online actually do meet, they either don't show up at all or it falls apart so quickly?

an act can not stand the test of time.
and an act is easier to see in person